Some of u would know my "lost love" saga. Well I need some advice on a diferent topic, but slightly related.
I'm taking my ex-fiance to court in a few weeks. He is being changed with assult, break/enter and forced imprisonment. This is because he smashed in my back door and attatcked my lost love (we'll call him Frank) and wouldn't let myself, Frank or my flatmate (bluelighter Sassy) leave. He was having difficulty with the break up and my relationship with Frank didn't help. Scared that he would return, I called the police after he left and he was arrested and released on bail. A restraining order was placed on him to protect the 3 of us.
But I felt so guilty for doing this to another person, so knowing that he wanted to see me, I tried to be friends with him (despite the restrainig order). I also kept this a secret from Frank, knowing that he wouldn't understand. This has all backfired on me because my ex still wants something more and still tries to control me by turning up at my house in the middle of the night, calling at all hours, etc. I eventually had to tell Frank about my contact with my ex. I assured him that there would be no more contact. But in my darkest hours I tend to relent and give him a call. He still turns up/calls in the middle of the night. (As recent as two nights ago).
Frank has begged me heaps of times to call the police but if I do my ex will be arrested and thrown in jail until the court case. So I keep avoiding calling them, but I'm running out of excuses.
I'm scared of going to court for a few reasons. I have never been before and I'm going to be cross examined and I can't remember hardly anything about the events. The court will think I am lying.
I also don't want my ex to go to jail but to try and keep him out I will have to make my story sound like I am more on his side. If I do that Frank will not speak to me ever again. I am also worried that it will come out about how much contact my ex and I have really had. Again Frank will not talk to me if he knows the truth.
What should I do? I wanted to hide until all this is over but I've been told that I will be summonsed and fined if I don't appear.
Please help me. I need advice. I just wish this was over.
Thanks guys.
I'm taking my ex-fiance to court in a few weeks. He is being changed with assult, break/enter and forced imprisonment. This is because he smashed in my back door and attatcked my lost love (we'll call him Frank) and wouldn't let myself, Frank or my flatmate (bluelighter Sassy) leave. He was having difficulty with the break up and my relationship with Frank didn't help. Scared that he would return, I called the police after he left and he was arrested and released on bail. A restraining order was placed on him to protect the 3 of us.
But I felt so guilty for doing this to another person, so knowing that he wanted to see me, I tried to be friends with him (despite the restrainig order). I also kept this a secret from Frank, knowing that he wouldn't understand. This has all backfired on me because my ex still wants something more and still tries to control me by turning up at my house in the middle of the night, calling at all hours, etc. I eventually had to tell Frank about my contact with my ex. I assured him that there would be no more contact. But in my darkest hours I tend to relent and give him a call. He still turns up/calls in the middle of the night. (As recent as two nights ago).
Frank has begged me heaps of times to call the police but if I do my ex will be arrested and thrown in jail until the court case. So I keep avoiding calling them, but I'm running out of excuses.
I'm scared of going to court for a few reasons. I have never been before and I'm going to be cross examined and I can't remember hardly anything about the events. The court will think I am lying.
I also don't want my ex to go to jail but to try and keep him out I will have to make my story sound like I am more on his side. If I do that Frank will not speak to me ever again. I am also worried that it will come out about how much contact my ex and I have really had. Again Frank will not talk to me if he knows the truth.
What should I do? I wanted to hide until all this is over but I've been told that I will be summonsed and fined if I don't appear.
Please help me. I need advice. I just wish this was over.
Thanks guys.
