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pyrodemon915

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My ex and i broke up almost 1.5 years ago yet I still have feelings for her, at times I dream about her or I end up thinking about her. No matter what I do she still pops into my mind. I have been with several girls and dated a few but that didn’t help. I still miss her though it is not a strong as it was before, but it still hurts me and I end up thinking of her and wanting to be with her.

I have been trying to deal with this on my own but to no avail. By the way she was my first love, I was 17 and she was 16. We had been through a lot. She helped me change my life; I was a gang member and didn’t give a fuck about school until I met her. She was a straight a student and I was the loser gang member, but with her help I changed my life got out of the gang stopped using drugs and started going to college. I just don’t know how to deal with shit anymore. She left me for some fag that has money and what not. I know for a fact he has cheated on her and she’s found out yet she still wants to be with him. I only talk to her maybe once a month. Any advice would be helpful

P.S im kinda drunk sorry for the shitty writing :(
 
I think that you should tell her how you feel about the whole sitution and you would like to start over. The samething happened to me but i was the rich boy who was involved with hella drugs. Its easier said than done i still need to talk to her
 
I talked to her last night, and she says she misses me and what not, there are some days she will call me saying she misses me. It seems at times she’s playing with me and other times she is being scenery about what she’s saying. Last night I told her I still loved her and basically she told me she doesn’t want to be with me. She gave me the reason why we couldn’t go out; I think she doesn’t want to look bad by coming back to me. I deleted her number and pictures of us last night. The thing that gets to me she’s with someone that cheats on her.
 
I can understand how upset you might feel, but you only have one real option and that is to let her go.
Nothing ever really replaces the poignancy of that first love, although you may be sure that you will love deeply and strongly again.
 
Yeah it just sucks that after so long I still have strong feeling for her, I have been thinking there is something wrong with me.
 
im in the same situation as you bud. No matter if i hook up with famales or go out on dates i still find myself running back to her. mines with some fag too that has money and she played lots of games with me. i have no advice because like you, i dont know what to do. im just saying your not alone.
 
MN763CR said:
I think that you should tell her how you feel about the whole sitution and you would like to start over. The samething happened to me but i was the rich boy who was involved with hella drugs. Its easier said than done i still need to talk to her
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I don't know about that. It has been a year and a half. If she wanted to get back with him she would've by now, plus she wouldn't be insistent on staying with another guy.

The best thing you can do is stop talking to her for starters, at least for a while. I know it's REALLY hard--believe me, I know--but it's often the only way a lot of people can truly get to moving on after a breakup. If anything, think about it like this: What good has come from you keeping up with and talking to her over the past year and a half? It doesn't sound like you feel very good about your situation so why keep putting yourself through it? It doesn't make sense to fawn all over her even more at this point. Besides, knowing most girls, that would only drive her away even further.

You will thank yourself later on down the road if you do this, I promise.
 
Can you guys please stop calling people "fags?" Call them assholes or whatever else you want but a lot of people are particularly offended by that type of vernacular, including myself.
 
pyrodemon915 said:
I talked to her last night, and she says she misses me and what not, there are some days she will call me saying she misses me. It seems at times she’s playing with me and other times she is being scenery about what she’s saying. Last night I told her I still loved her and basically she told me she doesn’t want to be with me. She gave me the reason why we couldn’t go out; I think she doesn’t want to look bad by coming back to me. I deleted her number and pictures of us last night. The thing that gets to me she’s with someone that cheats on her.
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Well, determining all of that was a good start to moving on even though you feel really awful about it right now =/ Deleting your photos of her and such is a good move too. That's not to say you guys can't be friends one day later on down the road but at this point it's more than likely in your best interest to purge her from your life, at least for a little while until you move on and start to feel better.
 
thank you everyone but fuck that i do not want to have anything to do with her. After all the shit i have been through, by wanting her back i rather not deal with it. I am happier with out her. Even tho ever weekend i get fucked up it doesnt matter
 
you have to let her go.

its tough to see the truth when you're right in the middle of it all

i was/am in your position as well. if she's made the choice to leave you for someone else, and is still in a relationship, its unlikely that anything you actively say or do can change her mind. having her in your life is toxic. you need to move on, and take the chance that if its meant to be, your paths will cross again.
 
Yeah I just have a really hard time letting go. What i dont get is the fact i have been with other girls, yet i still want her.
 
i hope so but you guys dont think its strange that its taking me so long to want to forget about her/?
 
As far as I can see there's no 'norm' when it comes to this stuff. I've heard of MUCH longer. I'm sure there's a number of people out there that can be haunted for the rest of there lives. Not to say that will happen to you!
 
Dam looking back at this makes me LOL. God I was so weak before!!!! Thanks for the people that posted in my time of need if you guys are still around.
 
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