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Zulkifar

Zulkifar

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Hey guys. I was just wondering if anyone knows of long term friendships that have ended because they turned into relationships? I know that they can cause conflict for a while but what about friendships that have lasted for 10 or 20 years? Is there a chance that the 2 people could eventually talk again?
 
First off, a friendship is a relationship.
Now, I assume you mean monogamous relationship?
You seem to assume there has to be conflict, that they will cease talking..
I know some older adults who have been friends for decades, and have been romantic with each other at one stage or another.
This whole "ex's can't be friends" is false.
It depends on the level of attachment the 2 parties hold to the monogamy of the relationship, and their desires.
For example, the difference between 2 (old) friends becoming lovers because the level of love/attention/whatever it is from the platonic friendship is not meeting their requirements would be different to old friends being romantic because of good synergy and a mutual desire for romance.
Yada yada yada blah blah blah
Yes, ex's can remain/be friends.
Yes, romance can end friend/relationships.
No, relationships aren't permanent.
No, it doesn't matter what a stranger on the internet says.
Yes, go kiss your friend.
 
It can be, sure.
I don't have any old friends, so I can't comment on this really, but the old farts I do know usually talk pretty sporadically, but when they do see each other it's always got that energy that the younger generation seems to kill by spending every minute with each other.
(s)he needs to want to have a relationship too, so if this is a new development maybe give them some space/give it some time and then try hanging out with them, and talk about things if need be or whatever.
Both of you agreeing you're okay with things is different to actually keeping that 'vibe' that friends have, fwiw.
 
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