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Paramedics, now I need to GTFO

Cohesion

Cohesion

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How long is someone held at the ER for an OD? I'm at his place with our kid. She's sleeping. Once he gets back here I need to be gone. Don't want crazy drama in front of the kid.

It's been almost an hour. He wasn't breathing, lips blue, but was up; they revived him.

My car is broke down! I need to GTFO.
 
Wow hun that is rough. But I'm really glad they were able to revive him, and that he's going to be okay.

I can understand your reasons for wanting to leave before your daughter wakes up, but I really don't think you should leave your child unattended for any period of time.

Are you also high? Is there anyone else you can call to babysit your daughter for a few hours?
 
I'm not high, but he gave me a small amount that I swallowed. I can hardly feel it, but now my system is tainted. He was taking the liquid from the patch, somehow mixing the vinegar so that he could put it in a syringe. I think he learned how to do it from reading others' experiences on BL.

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I wasn't talking about leaving her here! We both need to get away from him.

But now, he's in a cab on his way back. I'm really worried. He's threatening me with saying if I keep the child from him, he's going to tell DCF that I have illegal drugs in my system, too. The cops told me that I shouldn't have her around him. If I leave her with him, I'll be held responsible because I know what he does and that he is high risk. He's like keeping me hostage in this unhealthy relationship.

Sorry if my thoughts are confused. I'm scared bc he's going to be home at any moment. I'll be back on though because I need to talk to someone(s) about all these complicated issues. I need to make very important decisions; it's all about the kid now!
 
hey how did it go? my suggestion: figure out how long the drug(s) you used stay in your system.... put up with him until they're gone, stay clean and take your kid.
 
fentanyl is rarely tested for and out of the system within a day i'd assume; if that's what you mean by patch. hell probably less than a day; drink extra water and you'd be safe. don't let someone threaten you like that, fuck him.
 
mami said:
I wasn't talking about leaving her here! We both need to get away from him.

But now, he's in a cab on his way back. I'm really worried. He's threatening me with saying if I keep the child from him, he's going to tell DCF that I have illegal drugs in my system, too. The cops told me that I shouldn't have her around him. If I leave her with him, I'll be held responsible because I know what he does and that he is high risk. He's like keeping me hostage in this unhealthy relationship.
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I'm sorry I misread the situation hun. I'd really like to know how you're going today. Have you got some relatives or friends (who don't take drugs) that you can stay with for a while? If not, are you in a city/large town? Is there a women's refuge you can go to for a short period of time?

Best of luck to you, let us know how you're doing <3
 
Any welfare agency is going to be on your side if he has just been admitted to the ER after ODing. Even if he did call them and talk some shit about you, the wheels of bureaucracy move slowly; it would take them several days to get to you and as long as you don't use anything from now on, you'll come up clean on any test.

Don't let this prick hold you hostage with empty threats. Get back to your parents' house ASAP. Could they pick you up? Is public transport or a taxi an option? If he comes to your parents' house, call the police on the spot and seek a restraining order if necessary. As you said, GTFO now.
 
It's not illegal for you to have drugs in your system and if you can stop using now then they will be out long before any drug test is actually done. He's the one who just got discharged from the ER for an OD after giving (read: dealing) drugs to you. This guy is manipulating you, and you're falling for his simple tricks.

He's also a fucking idiot for shooting up vinegar, and fentanyl, for that matter. So GTFO indeed... 8)
 
Update + 4 days later >

He got picked up last night by the local cops. I drove his van downtown to pay the bail (his cash on hand would hopefully have covered it, I thought). At midnight, it's freezing, sleepy kid on my arms, I found out he was set to see the judge today- Just called- it's $500.

He has 2 felonies, for which I feel like an idiot -- I could have prevented...
1. Possession of a hypodermic needle
2. Possession of a controlled substance w/o prescription

He enlightened me to the fact that I could have thrown all that shit out; I didn't have to leave it where he left it. ("He came home like this." I would've done that too, but frankly I:
a) unfamiliar with "protocol" to prevent felony charges
b) making sure he was taking breaths at least every 30 seconds

You all seem pretty turned off about guy from what little I've said. But I'm wondering what I should do now? On Friday (it's Monday) he'll have enough money to post bail. I'm afraid that if I put out my $300, he won't pay me back because I "should have" ditched the drugs.

Additionally, his van (out of current registration) is still downtown. I drove it there, but as it has no starter -- a *screwdriver* is the key. It's unlocked (he always tells me to leave it unlocked).. but there are costly tools in the back. I couldn't restart the damn thing so I paid $20 for a cab.

To be honest I know that I should leave him there till he can afford his own bail, but I'm totally responsible for getting that damn van back to his place.

Thoughts, comments, please? TIA!
 
you drove the van there.....you can drive it back. get somebody that knows how to rig it up with the screwdriver, then drive home...wait till friday, then leave.
 
One more thing. He's full of threats.

His common phrase: "I'm going to open a can of worms [if you don't do XYZ]."

1. Call DCFS on me. He has loads of texts and messages on his password protected computer regarding buying pills off the streets (adderall - I use it to supplement my monthly supply)

2. Take my SSDI from me. He filled out the paperwork that detailed how my disability affects my daily life. I *think* that he can say that it was all untrue. During investigation, I'll receive no money.

Should I do what he'd want so there aren't any problems (re the above statements)?
 
wow....this sounds rough.

I'd cal his bluff on the threats after waiting a couple weeks tolet things get out of your system. tell him to bring it and get out of there. just my opinion.
 
Yes, I'm going to get the van back today.

Does anyone know how to crack a Windows 7 password for free? There are programs available for purchase. He doesn't have a password recovery disk. Will the reinstallation cds do the trick?

I got into his gmail account - that's his phone - and I think I've deleted all of our conversations.

I don't have any drugs in my system other than the ones prescribed to me. I don't have any worries about DCFS now.

But I think that he might call to have my SSDI pulled. Does anyone know anything about this?

Q: Would you accept his phone calls from jail? Or just let him hang?


He would start in on the threats, I'd rather just do my thing instead of continuing this insane manipulation. I don't want to hear "...open a can of worms..." one.more.time!
 
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Yo what is the deal with you and this dude? honestly that muthafucka sounds sheisty as fuck and should be left to his own devices, you should forget all the threats your getting from this junky ass muthafucka, <nope>, tell him to go fuck himself. keep the money, take the tools sell those shits and leave him in fuckin jail, and this is from someone thats spent most of his life in jail and prison. you don't threaten the person that just saved your life with some bullshit, take the kid, <once again, NOPE>.
peace
 
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Tough situation. Call his bluff is my answer. Get your shit and walk away. Even if he does call and try to get your money cut off, just tell them he is a nutty ass EX-boyfriend that is on drugs and mad cause you won't get him out of jail. Fuck him. MOVE FORWARD.
 
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As far as DCFS goes, you're much more likely to have hassles with them if you continue exposing your child to this guy and his bullshit than from making a break with him. I'd consider contacting them yourself and asking for help in escaping his clutches.
 
I agree that the priority for you and your kid has to be to get away from this dude now. Don't take his calls, don't see him and don't believe his empty threats.

RE: Win7 - you might not be able to 'crack' his password but you could definitely use the installation disc to re-install over the current OS partition (with a format) which would wipe clean everything on that computer. I'm not sure that would be a great move as it's likely to enrage him further.

In reality, I highly doubt there is anything he can actually do to you regarding DCFS. He does sound unstable so he might become violent which is why you need to get out of there. It's also not an environment to expose any child too.
 
i was once in a horrifice relationship with my oldest daughter father. he hit me verbally abused me and was just an all around mean crazy idiot. i finally got the courage to leave him and just like your childs father he threatend me over and over finally isaid enough do what u gotta do and i left him alone i mean called the police if he came any where near me other than scheduled visits whith our daughter i would no longer play into his games it didnt matter if he cussed meup and down i would not respond i told him he was nothing to me and i refused to even ackowlegde he existed and he terrorized for a whille but i refused to let it bother me i would NOT play into his games and u know what after a while he found someone else to terrorize. GET AWAY FROM THIS GUY FOR YOUR CHILDS SAKE. YOUR CHILD WILL END UP GETTING TAKEN IF U CONTINUE TO BE WITH HIM!!! you will feel awesome and liberated after a couple of months just refuse he exists!!!! u can do this be strong for your child BEST WISHES TO YOU HUNNY:)
 
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