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"out of my league"

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can someone be out of your league? a beautiful woman has every man lusting after her. why hook up with guy who isnt very good looking or one who doesnt have much money when she could have BOTH in one guy easily based on her looks alone. like im lying to myself if i look at a perfect 10 and expect her to be with me, an [at best] average looking guy with low fund$. therefore, she is out of my league.

i feel like with some girls u have to be a really good looking/rich guy to get with her. i wish this wasn't the case.
 
In short yes and no - yes if you have that attitude instilled in you, and no if you change it.


Where to start - well it's always about confidence and what you have to offer. Some women are just pricey, and others judge you by first if you're above average looking (subjective to her), and then what you're passionate about.

No woman is out of your league, truly, you just need the expertise to be able to approach anyone. And no I'm not talking about "the Game" or any of that pick up artist bullshit. If you read Vatsayana's Kama Sutra it's not just sexual positions and oral sex - it's every part of the dating process.

A lot of it is dated/culturally not applicable, but seriously - if you read about the 64 arts, and the 84 positions, and becoming a citizen who has his own place, and business...then you can work out how to get ANYONE with the right approach and right attitude/.
 
I can only really speak for myself. I do not base any relationship on looks or money. Its the personality that gets me everytime. I hate concieded guys aka jock type. I like crazy men...

It just. Depends on what type of guy te girl likes. If she likes men with tattoos all over then a dude w no tattoos probably has a low change with or with out money.

But like above said its all about your self confidence and attitude. An which type of confidence and attitude the girl your eyeing likes....

First step is to master manipulation :) lol like all the players do to us girls.
 
money?

looks(and even money) have an impact on our social standing for sure.

but don't be so superficial.

intelligence is the sexiest thing of all.

would you really want to be with a girl who places emphasis on money and looks above all else?

fuck money.

if you're unhappy withy our appearance, go to the gym.
 
8's get approached far more often than 10's. you'd be surprised how much an average guy can accomplish just by having the balls to believe he can.
 
If you have no personality and nothing really going on for you, then yeah the chances of you getting a successful girl is pretty slim. Work on yourself first.

Money is important because I wouldn't want to date someone who was financially dependent on me. So I want someone who can look after himself. If he's rich vs. getting by, not really a big deal. But someone without a job ... definitely a no.

As for attractiveness, a certain level of hygiene is important. Exercising to make sure you stay in shape. Daily showers, shaving (if that works for you), etc. ... yes that kind of thing is pretty important.
 
People like someone who can make them laugh, male or female. I hear this especially about females but I've fallen for girls I didn't even consider attractive before we got to talking. I've had smokin [hot] girls admit to me they are sick of how mentally unstimulating the really good lookin guys have been, so that right there is an opportunity to use wit to your advantage and seal the deal. Personally, I wouldn't even want to end up with a girl who is only interested in a generic good-look and what's in my wallet (not a capital one card). That's just high-school thinking.
 
AverageUnreg said:
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can someone be out of your league? a beautiful woman has every man lusting after her. why hook up with guy who isnt very good looking or one who doesnt have much money when she could have BOTH in one guy easily based on her looks alone. like im lying to myself if i look at a perfect 10 and expect her to be with me, an [at best] average looking guy with low fund$. therefore, she is out of my league.

i feel like with some girls u have to be a really good looking/rich guy to get with her. i wish this wasn't the case.
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Think of this way, would you go out with a very ugly girl? Probably not. But girls are more interested in the guy success. A very beautiful woman can go out with any guy who has money and looks, so why would she bother with someone who is broke and ugly. That's how it is, that's why most of the times people go within there own level. Average looking girl goes with average type guy and etc.
 
I used to believe this was true, but not so much anymore. It comes down to what sort of woman you want. Do you want somebody that uses relationships for personal gain or status, or do you want someone that loves their partner for who they are regardless? There are plenty of very beautiful women who fall into the latter category. Looks and wealth only go so far, you can have both and be a very undesirable person, you can also have neither and be very desirable.
 
Op...It really depends on what kinda girl you wanna date..I have never been with a man based on money, ever...I do admit ive been with a bloke based on his looks though!..It lasted the whole weekend! ANd it was a good time but not a relationship...

You can sort tell by a persons appearance if they are the "high maintenence" money hungry, shallow, fake, Kim Kartrasian or those horrors on Jersylisious type women, or a natural,down to earth, easy going type chick who is real and who dosent give a toss about abs and bucks...You can pretty much tell which one your looking at..

So i think you are a tad mis-guided in your thoughts, and you should get out more and meet some real people..We are everywhere...Good luck..You can do it!
 
ALso...Looks are such a personal thing..Ive had boyfriends that are soo hunky to me and my girlfriends cant stand his looks...Same thing for me...Ive had girlfriends who are besotted with their men and i have found them to be not that good looking..Its a real personal thing, whos attractive and whos not to you...

WHen ive been in-love ive felt extremely turned on by a guy, then when the relationship has been over for a bit i can look back and go "OMG! What was i seeing in him!"....
 
I feel like the term "out of my league" is a really one-sided opinion. If you think she's out of you're league, you're probably wrong or paranoid, and if she really is, then who care? I wouldn't want a girl that cared that much about good lucks and money anyways. I know the feeling, I've experienced it before but after awhile i realized all i'm basing it off of is my perspective...try to get the girl's perspective of the "out of your league" situation and you might be surprised she doesn't feel the same way
 
^^^^ If you are not in their "league" OP, put yourself in a better "league"...Really, do you wanna be with a shallow, self absorbed barbie girl, who only likes men who are in their "league"?..
Really when it comes down to it, you cant help who you are attracted to or why sometimes..Unless you are a gold digger, who only has money and status on the mind...You are better than that surely OP?

I just cant help thinking Paris and the Kardashians and the rest of those bimbos out there...But i do understand there are women out there that have certain standards, and they are snobish and vain and very poor personalities in general...They are around..and they are the ones you mean OP...You dont wanna be with them do you?
 
Its all about confidence. I'm no gq model, but I have managed to pull way hotter girls than pretty much anyone I know, except for the guy who taught me about this shit. If you approach her like shit is already a sealed deal and you are just going through formalities, she will be totally into you.
Also, wear nice shoes. Its the first possession of yours a woman will look at
 
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