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kaylee.wise

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Hey i would like to know how you get an orgasm? i dont know if i had one yet, but how do you feel? And how long do they last? Im a girl.
 
i am a guy but i know enough to say you will know when you have an orgasm ;) how old are you? I assume fairly young, best way I heard was find out what works for you (by yourself...i.e. masturbate) and relax coz you can't get an orgasm by forcing it to happen.

I will allow the fairer sex to comment in more detail as I do not have a vagina...
 
i took a human sexuality course in college and the teacher told us that not all girls can orgasm, and some can only orgasm to the right male.
 
^^^ First, A quick google search turned up a figure of around 12-15 % of women cannot achieve orgasm and the page I found this figure on was based on a scientific study and the researchers believe the inability to orgasm can be linked to genetic "reasons". Therefore I doubt this is the case with the OP.

Second, the idea that some women can only achieve orgasm with a particular man is something I never heard when I was in my college level human sexuality course. What I did hear in the course is that there are a variety of different issues that can come into play, the biggest being that some girls canNOT achieve orgasm from penetration alone. What this means is that there needs to be some sort of manual stimulation of the clitoris coupled with penetration which will allow most girls to achieve orgasm. The reason for this is that there is some difference between women in the distance from the clitoris to the vaginal opening. The closer the clitoris is to the vaginal opening the more likely the chances of standard intercourse causing an orgasm (i.e. because the clitoris is closer to the opening it is more likely to receive stimulation from the thrusting/grinding motion we all love). When the clitoris is positioned farther from the vagina it does not get stimulated through normal sexual intercourse and most girls with this larger distance just needs to either rub it themselves (or have their partner rub it) while having sex.

In no way am I saying this is the only condition that can cause difficulties for women trying to achieve orgasm just that this is the most common IIRC. There are a variety of other things that can cause problems such as: Some sort of sexual trauma that prevents the woman from being able to enjoy sex enough to orgasm ( = psychological barrier to orgasm), the distance from clitoris to vaginal opening/problems with nerve endings in that area ( both = physiological barriers to orgasm). That is as far as I will go into that unless you (OP) have other questions about this topic.

In response to the question in your post citizen cained gave great advice when he told you to get to know yourself through masturbation (I hope you are over 18 because I would feel weird knowing I told a minor to masturbate). The important thing to remember about sex is that when two (or more) consenting adults do anything sexual there is no such thing as normal or abnormal behavior. If you have not seen the movie Kinsey with Liam Neeson you should watch it. Kinsey (last name) was a scientist who researched sexuality, particularly what types of sexual things people were doing. He wrote a few books concerning his research which were quite controversial at that point in time.

Anyway, I am rambling on and on. I hope that helped. Try and figure it out you will be much happier in life if you do.
 
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Yes, some girls can't orgasm. BUT just because you can't now doesn't mean you won't be able to in the future. Try experimenting with toys and stuff :)
 
llama112 said:
Yes, some girls can't orgasm. BUT just because you can't now doesn't mean you won't be able to in the future. Try experimenting with toys and stuff :)
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You need to try playing down there. Get somewhere quiet and private where you won't be disturbed. A hand mirror will help you find your way around.
 
About 10 seconds, but the aftereffects last a few minutes.
 
You sound fairly young. As you get a little older, you'll get to know your body better, be more relaxed about the whole thing. You will learn where to put your body to get the desired outcome. And definitely the longer you are with the same person, the better chance you will have of reaching that goal. I don't always orgasm during intercourse, but I do have fun. I don't think having an orgasm is necessary, I consider it a bonus. And I totally get off on pleasing my man. Don't try so hard, just relax and let it happen.

Oh yeah....and be safe!
 
Okay thank you i am sexually actiive but i never had one before so i was wondering about them. Yeah thats true i just have to wait and let it come naturally.
 
Orgasms are wonderful and not as homogeneous, in fact, I have had very different types of orgasms, and I am a guy. For females clitoral stimulation is the main practice to achieve enough sexual arousal to orgasm, however, some women do not masturbate and their partners do not pay enough attention to the clitoris, and they are left with no orgasms. I suggest masturbation in a very comfortable setting, when you are in the mood. Use of erotica, or hardcore pornography is optional and can help you get aroused, though your own mind can be even better when you fantasize about your ultimate sexual experiences. Sufficient and continuous stimulation of the clitoris is essential as is your level of non-physical arousal, that is what is in your head. Again, being comfortable matters, good material (fantasy or pornography) will also be important. Stimulation without arousing material may not be enough. It is important in the practice of masturbation to let yourself go, and be who you really are, let your inner desires guide you through the process. I really feel masturbation and orgasm is underrated in the treatment of psychological maladies in both men and women. It is a very natural and healthy practice. Should you achieve orgasm, you will almost definitely know as there will be a great peak in pleasure along with a number of physical sensations and movements and possibly uterine contractions. A single orgasm in a woman can vary in length, but orgasm should not always be regarded as the end of a masturbatory session. Several more orgasms can be achieved (esp. for women, but possible with men) after the initial orgasm. I hope this helps some, and remember stimulate the clitoris!
 
Have you partner try to stimulate your g spot. Its a tiny spot inside your body. Its tricky to locate, but you both will have fun while to hunts for it.

Here is a good blog on it. Go slow and always talk things thru. http://bit.ly/w5tKLM
 
^^ Um, from what I have read, G-spot orgasms are still due to the clitoris - it's thought that the two are connected somehow, but it's not entirely separate of a clitoral orgasm. In fact, I think the last study that I read stated that less than half of women could achieve vaginal orgasm, although how much of that is due from just not knowing where to find it is up in the air. But that seems to ring true - while I definitely have had a G-spot orgasm, I have a lot of friends that say they're unable to.

Also, the idea that some women can only achieve orgasm with the right male is something that I've NEVER heard before, and I've done a good amount of reading on human sexuality. It reeks of misogyny, and I can find absolutely no studies that verify that. It also doesn't make any sense logically...I dunno, but please don't take that idea to heart.

Anyway, yeah, you sound rather young. I mean, perhaps I was just an especially self-exploratory little 'un, but I'm pretty sure I had my first orgasm around the age of 10. Believe me, you'll know when it happens. Do you feel a build-up of sensation at all, even if it never fully reaches its apex? I know at least since I started on anti-depressants, achieving orgasm has been significantly more difficult (although it seems to last longer and be more intense when I do get there...), but I can still feel pleasure down there, I just have a hard time climaxing. But yeah, I'd recommend that you experiment both by yourself and with a partner, if you have one. Female orgasms are a bit more complicated than male ones, which has its ups and downs X) But figuring out how to get there successfully will obviously be a huge improvement to your sex life.
 
First time you have an orgasm your mind will probably be blown. You'll know when it's happening, without a shadow of a doubt. It's a remarkably unique sensation. There's probably more flavours of orgasm than there are fish in the sea, but they all share the same name.

Btw the existence of a human sexuality college course is news to me. Good career prospects? ;)
 
Get a book called Hot Sex by tracy cox is great for learning how to achieve orgasm I read it when I was young and Have never had a complaint other then being hornier then a room full of teenagers.
 
Okay i will check up on that book :) Thankyou too all who responded, I do masturbate but i dont seem to "get off" when im doing it. I really like sexual intercourse. But everytime i have sex like a couple days later i cum in my panties do you know why? I dont want to expose too much information but im just curious and i dont have the support of experienced people to ask.
 
I always worry when people start talking about "achieving" orgasm. Young men can be made to ejaculate very easily by physical manipulation. This experience is often accompanied by ecstatic feelings that men describe as orgasm. I think that in women it is more complicated and orgasm is not so much achieved but rather that it overcomes you.
Relaxation, feeling (very) safe and comfortable, and experience are all important.
 
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