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I thought my sex life was for ever fucked and dead after D.
But not long after leaving I had sex and it was different...good.

Anyhow some of you probably know I had a bad and bad sex life and relationship now I am out of that...

This guy and I are having sex. Honestly I'm using him. I have no feelings I just want good sex to feel better afte my sex life got bad with D.

When i go on top of a guy to move fast or at a good rythm i prefer my back up straight or at least my hands touching the bed above his shoulders helping me up a bit...i just do it better these ways. But this guy pretty much wants me to lay on top of him and wrap his arms around me then wants me to move while im super close to him. I dont mind that but i cant seem to enjoy it of go at any decent speed. If i try to move up like move my back up even just a little he gets all mad and pulls me closer and i really dont even know if i just suck at it or what but i cant seem to move as fast as i want probably bc he is hugging me tightly...
same for reverse cow girl he doesnt do it all.

he says its bc his dick is wierdly shaped... and it'll hurt if i do anything but stay tightly against him.

Like............what?!

Is that normal? Like someone give me tips. Either i lost my sence of good fucking after D or idk...
 
Yep, he's a dick. If ANYONE gets 'mad' at something you do during sex well that makes them a dick. Unless you're seriously hurting them, which it sounds like you're not. And yeah, please include a diagram of his penis next time.

Oh and find a new partner.
 
It's not curved like upwards.

Like I'd say its kinda like a banana? When he is hard it goes up high and has a slight curve that makes me think of bananas... lol.
I had another guy like that with that ever so slight curve and it changes like nothing...
 
I honestly think you need to take a break from all relationship for a while. You ditched one piece of shit for another. This is becoming a recurring theme and You need to a lot of SINGLE soul searching to figure out how to stop it.
 
^great advice - A, I concur and suggest you take it. COnsidering your co-dependent toxic relationship, I don't think you can handle seperating sex from emotion right now - sex is not really a priority - wait a few months *ahem*
 
-Kitten said:
Is that normal?
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nothing is normal.

this guy is telling you what he likes and you think it's weird and others here think that makes him a douche? i'm baffled by those responses.

i think his telling you what he likes is perfectly healthy. certainly far healthier than talking about the 'problem' behind his back to a bunch of strangers (albeit smart, sexy, slr strangers :) ) rather than discussing it with him...

alasdair
 
alasdairm said:
nothing is normal.

this guy is telling you what he likes and you think it's weird and others here think that makes him a douche? i'm baffled by those responses.

i think his telling you what he likes is perfectly healthy. certainly far healthier than talking about the 'problem' behind his back to a bunch of strangers (albeit smart, sexy, slr strangers :) ) rather than discussing it with him...

alasdair
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I was just referring to the part about him getting mad at her for slightly altering a sex position during the act. That seems out of line and puts up a red flag for me.

I could be completely wrong though and acknowledge that everyone has different sex lives.
 
I'm impressed BL, I was expecting someone to offer to show her how it's done (LOL!). Anyway, I have to say, to each his own. There no right or wrong in that department, apart from the complaining. It's possible you two just aren't sexually compatible; it happens. What you really need to do is say, listen - this is what I have to do to "get off". Do it my way for me to get off and then I'll do it your way. Or something like that. If he's not agreeable to that then, fuck him! Actually don't!
 
I think the issue is that he is not communicating with maturity (e.g. talking to her afterwards in a chilled out way) or compromising (letting her ride him her way, then doing it his way) or explaining what's the issue. Instead he gets "mad" at her and physically stops her from also engaging in sexual positions that work for her pleasure or even checking what works for her in the first place. That is immature, selfish lovemaking and potentially controlling. Just sayin'!

And Kitten - soooooo glad to hear you're out of that situation, you've made my night :)

Lola x
 
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