No sexual interest after break up

[Resisting Nut]

I have been doing a lot of thinking lately about my lack of interest in getting involved in a relationship with another woman again. I keep telling myself I have this void in my life, that i'm just missing something, and that something is a female. There is just one problem, I have no desire really to even be with a woman period, you could say that I've got a foot on a each a side of the fence here.

After my ex and I broke up, Aug 2013, I fell into a huge rut of depression, I moved back home from the college I was at and ended up moving out shortly there after to go to school about two hours away. Around christmas time of last year I found out that my cum guzzling demon whore of an ex girlfriend is dating my best friend/big brother in my fraternity. Not only that, but finding out she also cheated on me several times. Finding this out just messed me up even more, I just wanted to kick his ass for breaking bro code. But in reality, we were no longer dating, so she was free to date whomever. Our relationship was shit to begin with, constantly fighting, and fucking, fighting and fucking. IT wasnt healthy to say the least. Getting to the point, that relationship fucked me up to the point where I have trouble letting anyone new into my life that I have feelings for.

I'm not out looking for a short quick relationship, puppy love bull shit, I am more or less wanting a relationship that is not made up of cute nicknames for each other, constant texting/talking and having to be with one another at every second of the day (my ex was just like this). I'm also not looking for a quick fuck, I have to have a strong emotional and intimate connection with the person to want to have any type of sexual relations with them. I hardly even jerk off any more, its like I have no libido.

Is this normal after having been in a serious relationship for a couple years? I'm pretty much over our break up but you'd think I'd want to get back out there and find someone better, but anytime I get close to that with another girl, I get scared and run. Commitment issues??? I don't know.

Sorry for the long post, kinda stoned and just took my xanax for the night!

 

[pofacedhoe]

your libido will return

sounds like you want a relationship with an adult.

i wouldn't worry about the guy shes with now, she'll cheat on him too

xanax never made anyone more emotionally stable longterm

been there...

 

[butcher22]

im sure most of it is depression and heartbreak but xanax can kill your sex drive too. your friend is a douchebag in my opinion. i have fucked my friends exes before which is pretty weak but i would have never dated them and i at least waited a long time since they split up. when my ex fiance left me i became deeply depressed for a couple of years and i didnt have much interest in sex either. went soft in a lot of sluts but eventually i found my current girlfriend and im extremely attracted to her and no more shlong problems and i could care less about my ex. one thing that was awesome though was the last thing i said to my ex when we broke up was "i'm going to fuck all your friends, bitch" and i am like 8 for 10 on that. she stopped hanging out with some of them when she heard they fucked me. also she hated my current girlfriend and always used to accuse me of liking her which i denied so thats a big fuck you to her too.

 

[Resisting Nut]

im sure most of it is depression and heartbreak but xanax can kill your sex drive too. your friend is a douchebag in my opinion. i have fucked my friends exes before which is pretty weak but i would have never dated them and i at least waited a long time since they split up. when my ex fiance left me i became deeply depressed for a couple of years and i didnt have much interest in sex either. went soft in a lot of sluts but eventually i found my current girlfriend and im extremely attracted to her and no more shlong problems and i could care less about my ex. one thing that was awesome though was the last thing i said to my ex when we broke up was "i'm going to fuck all your friends, bitch" and i am like 8 for 10 on that. she stopped hanging out with some of them when she heard they fucked me. also she hated my current girlfriend and always used to accuse me of liking her which i denied so thats a big fuck you to her too.

True that Xanax is no good, I am actually in the process of getting off it. My doc is doing a taper, down to .5mg 2 times a day now.

I am guilty of it as well, I fucked one of my best friends ex's about 2 weeks after they broke up, I felt so bad about it I told him and he didnt talk to me for 6 months, but I felt guilty and had to tell him. Its encouraging to know that one day my libido will return and I'll find someone that makes me happy. Man, I tell ya what, her best friend had the hots for me, she'd always tell my ex, "I can tell he has a big dick, you can see it bulging out." couple times she even confronted me about me and my bulge package, I would have def hit that, I'd even PIIHB, Put It In Her Butt. Props on the 8 out of 10, good fucking job, pun intended.

Thanks guys for the input. Love will come my way, and when it does, love will come in many of different ways.

 

[Trying2Iso]

are you on meds?
I have no interest/libido ever since i got on Abilify (aripiprazole) it kills my sex drive and everything
if you get on meds you can forget about sexuality basically

 

[Resisting Nut]

Dude, Abilify FUCKED more than my libido up. I gained 50lbs+ easily, I was a walking zombie, no emotions what so ever. I am currently in the process of getting off xanax. I'm down to .5mg twice daily, but I really have come to the point where I hardly take it at all. Also, I've been off my Wellbutrin for 5 months now. I've been off suboxone for quite some time now, the only thing I really put into my body is Cannabis, Food, and water, oh and my one cup of OJ a day to keep the kidney stones away!

Fuck abilify forever, I wish for a class action lawsuit against that company due to the horrible side effects it produced. I could never get hard when my ex and I dated, IF i managed to get hard, I'd go limp, IF I stayed hard I could never bust a nut.

Suboxone = no libido
Abilify = no libido

I remember the days when I could smoke pot and I'd get a boner, oh those where the days.