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Never had sex....but want to before I turn 28

EP158207

EP158207

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So I'll be 28 soon, and I want to stop being so inexperienced. I'm thinking of asking one of my male friends to do the deed. I have three who have always had an interest in me, but I wasn't into them...

Or should I go down the route of either hiring a male prostitute?

I'm not into clubs so don't want to do that nor do I feel it's safe on sites like Craigslist. I figure a male prostitute will be clean, and I'm willing to pay for a good service.
 
Your inexperienced for a reason - you have not met anyone your sexually interested in. Do you want to have sex just for the sake of sex or are you seeking something more meaningful?

You think a person that sells his body is going to be clean? Urr hello - he has probably fucked more women that the average guy in a bar. Yeah he will be experienced, yes you will use protection but still ...

Flirt with one of your friends who has shown an interest, tell him your horny, thought about him recently etc , invite him over, few drinks and then take things further. Apologize the next day, blame the wine etc. yeah it will be awkward but he will not mind and you will have saved yourself a few hundred bucks :D
 
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You're right, bearlove in that I haven't met anyone I wanted to have sex with....I was waiting for mr right, or after marriage....but damn, there is No one out there that I want. I wanted meaningful sex...but now I just want sex. I'm sick of haring about my friends sexapades and not having anything to contribute.
 
EP158207 said:
You're right, bearlove in that I haven't met anyone I wanted to have sex with....I was waiting for mr right, or after marriage....but damn, there is No one out there that I want. I wanted meaningful sex...but now I just want sex. I'm sick of haring about my friends sexapades and not having anything to contribute.
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There really is a not time to lose your virginity / have sex - you meet somebody you like, it progresses you have sex. If you have not had sex yet then you simply have not met the right person so whats the rush? You know for a fact that you can go into any bar tonight, get chatting with a cute guy and get laid.

If your not into the bars /clubs etc - get flirting with the guys that know you way safer for you than paying by the hour.

It's sex - it's a human need like eating, sleeping etc. Yes you can attach so many emotions to it / make it as complicated as you want BUT you can make it as easy as you want, there should be no guilt / shame in having sex with somebody once (thanks for the sex now fuck off :D).

Don't do the prostitute thing - your not buying somebody, your selling yourself and your worth way more that :)
 
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It's up to you. Prostitutes are not always clean and the experience could end up being cold

I would wait until I found someone I wanted to have sex with. In my experience some people are innately good at sex and some are crap and you can only show someone so much. Sex is fun as well as meaningful and trying out new things can be good
 
pofacedhoe said:
It's up to you. Prostitutes are not always clean and the experience could end up being cold

I would wait until I found someone I wanted to have sex with. In my experience some people are innately good at sex and some are crap and you can only show someone so much. Sex is fun as well as meaningful and trying out new things can be good
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Po - you ever been with a prostitute ? Emotionally I could without a problem but just never needed to sell myself like that? Yeah once met a guy who I fucked and he needed change for the parking meter not sure if that counts?
 
Whore!

I did a prostitute ince. She was very attentive and kind.

Op. I have a friend that was under thr impression that she couldn't find a hot guy for a fuck buddy. I had her send me a pic of her ass. I made a Craigslist.org ad for her. We got 130 emails in an hour. About 8 were guys in great shape and pretty attractive. She changed her mind that night about craigslist.

Just sayin
 
Is the reason you haven't wanted to have sex because you have been waiting for the perfect emotional connection and it has never happened, or are you never been sexually attracted to a guy? If it's the former, go ahead and shag one of your friends. Often, sex is conducive to forming emotional connections, and it doesn't always work the other way around. But if you've never met someone you felt attracted enough to sleep with, then you may be asexual. Nothing wrong with that, and you shouldn't feel obliged to get laid because of social pressure.
 
I probably would have a used a whore long before the age of 28 if that had been the situation for me, but then I'm a male. Nothing wrong with using a pro if you want to imo! Chances are will be even be better than a normal guy for a female because a male prostitute is more likely to be competent in bed than your average dude. Nothing wrong with that, treat yourself!
 
I've been waiting for the right guy, I've found plenty of men attractive. I've even had a bf but I was hanging on to that old fairy tale wedding and first time sex with husband dream. It's all BS. Now I just want to have a few sexual partners, but I'd rather make the first one that is about me, one that I control. I think I'll go with a prostitute as then it will be about me and less about him. They are EXPENSIVE not like female hookers that you can pick up for twenty quid in kings cross. Damn. I saw this one guy he was £400 per "date"
 
I'm sure craigslist will work, I've tried it and got 100s of replies within the hour too. That place is full of men but I don't know something seedy about it. Sounds ridiculous seeing as I'm opting for a prostitute,
 
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I'm sure craigslist will work, I've tried it and got 100s of replies within the hour too. That place is full of men but I don't know something seedy about it. Sounds ridiculous seeing as I'm opting for a prostitute,
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I've met up with some great guys online :) - you want sex, they want sex not a problem. Just chat to somebody you like the look of, make sure that your both on the same page and meet up.
 
I hope your first experience is a good one, but I'd still urge you to reconsider - I can understand the want to just get it done and to control the whole experience, but are you really sure you might not regret losing your virginity like that? I'm not saying it has to be with the man of your dreams, but I'm just afraid a hooker is something you might feel bad about in the future. But of course it sounds like you feel bad enough about the situation already so I just hope it helps. Have fun :)

Afterthought - FWIW, a good friend of mine lost her virginity to a friend of hers after the two of them agreed they'd have sex if they were still virgins by the end of last summer. They're still friends now, she said it was quite awkward for a while at first but they're both happy they 'got it over with'. If you were to lose it to one of your friends I think you could manage to make it less damaging to your friendship - provided you make it clear it's to remain a friendship - and it's probably something that's less likely to generate negative emotions than hiring a prostitute.
 
Well, you said you haven't had sex because you haven't been sexually attracted to anyone yet...you might just not have regular sexual desire, then.

The problem with questions like these is that ultimately the decision is more than completely up to you - your body is your temple and it's not like any of us can tell you what to do with it.

Sex is an optional aspect to life - if you don't want it, then you certainly don't need it.

Living through life without having sex at all is usually considered a supreme virtue in many religious/spiritual traditions, so you might be more special than you realize.
 
Try it with one of the male friends ... or all three perhaps...
You'd probably regret the escort experience.
May I ask if you masturbate? It helps to know your way around your own body.
And it certainly helps to know what you might experience.
Good luck.
 
You sound really clinical about it.

Also sex can be pretty meaningful without having some deep emotional bond or 'true love'. It's intimate experience that is valuable.

Not trying to pressurise you into having sex with random people or anything. Maybe the reason you haven't found 'anyone right' is because you are a bit closed off sexually for whatever reason.
 
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Why don't you make it a "Before 30" goal instead? That way you have a couple more years to meet a good guy.
 
sex is great (as long as both parties are at least ok at it) for varying from person to person the fisrt 50 to 300 times especially if with different partners can't say what it's like with someone you truly love never truly loved a girl/woman and had sex with them
 
Bearlove said:
There really is a not time to lose your virginity / have sex - you meet somebody you like, it progresses you have sex. If you have not had sex yet then you simply have not met the right person so whats the rush? You know for a fact that you can go into any bar tonight, get chatting with a cute guy and get laid.

If your not into the bars /clubs etc - get flirting with the guys that know you way safer for you than paying by the hour.

It's sex - it's a human need like eating, sleeping etc. Yes you can attach so many emotions to it / make it as complicated as you want BUT you can make it as easy as you want, there should be no guilt / shame in having sex with somebody once (thanks for the sex now fuck off :D).

Don't do the prostitute thing - your not buying somebody, your selling yourself and your worth way more that :)
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I dont agree. My first time was with a good quality whore and it was fucking great. It all depends how much you want to fuck. I was 16,drunk,high and it was fucking great.
 
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