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Cameronthacreator

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I'm nearly 18 she is 16 and I have just left school and she is still there, I have known her for about 5 years but not very well until recently when she just moved back to her mums house, anyway, nearly everyone I know uses facebook instead of texting so I am planning on using that to get her, we hang out on the weekend with mutual friends and stuff and she sometimes asks me to go drinking with her, my friends also told her (against my will) that I want to sleep with her, it annoyed me but apparently she feels the same but she also said she doesn't want to sleep with someone unless she is in a relationship (also where I live 16 is the legal age for sex) I am kind of annoyed though in case my friends have ruined my chances.

Anyway, all the girls I have been with I haven't had to try with and they have wanted me, so I am not sure how to do this, I want more than sex with her I want a relationship but I have never been in one, I have my licence and was thinking about inboxing her on facebook tomorrow and asking if she wants to go for a drive when she finishes school, but I don't know if I should or if that seems creepy, my friend that gets girls told me that I should fake confidence and write to her something like

"hey gorgeous what are you doing when you finish school?"
Or
"Hey gorgeous what are you doing? "
and her replying presumambly "not much"
and then me asking her if she wants to go for a drive.

I am worried that the gorgeous thing is to full on or if with her being a 16 year old girl that she would love it, I am also worried that she says no to me and then I would feel like an idiot, and then I am also worried she will friend zone me (happened so many times)

Sorry about all the rambling, can anyone tell me what I should do or help me out? also step by step guide would be very appreciated lol. and say she does say yes, what would we talk about in the car? I am not very good at conversations unless I am drunk.

EDIT: You know what, I think I am just going to stop caring what she will think about me and just write it, please though tell me some suggestions.


EDIT 2: Well I asked her and she said she was going to ask me if I would take her driving and said if she can get out of babysitting she will, so I am extremely happy, I decided to not give a **** and it worked, I didn't say gorgeous though, do you guys think I should ask her about what my friends told her and see what she says?
 
?[/QUOTE]OK so here is a girl who you actually want...who apparently wants you.

Makea move. Not on facebook - phone her up, or just wait til next time you see her, but make sure you find out where she gonna be (party, or social gathering).

I would MAYBE wait for her after school, but possibly not too - your age gap aint too big so I don't think that would be creepy.

Where you say the gorgeous thing is fake and too full on - do you think she's gorgeous? You have to compliment her. MAKE HER SMILE & feel sexy. THis will win in her heart, as a good start.

Just mix it up - you don't have to say gorgeous, or anything rehearsed, but it's a good start if you're not used to banter. Practice banter on people you're not really attracted to, and also people who you think you don't have a chance with - practice makes perfect and soon it will just flow. GIFT OF GAB!!!

EDIT: I'm glad you asked her...nothing wrong with facebook I guess, but keep that kinda thing to a MINIMUM...it's antisocial. It's OK to kick things off, but take the reigns in real life from here on out as much as possible, now she's said yeah - emailing/texting/facebooking is like writing a letter - so it's nice to see words. BUT it's too detached.

Step by step guide? I realize you like this girl - but come on. Use your imagination and your balls. NGGGGGRRRR.

From my experience, the gorgeous thing would be just right - she's young and naive enough not to know any better, so it should actually have it make her feel good about your view of her, and herself in general. It will make her smile - simples.
 
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B1tO'RoughJack said:
?OK so here is a girl who you actually want...who apparently wants you.

Makea move. Not on facebook - phone her up, or just wait til next time you see her, but make sure you find out where she gonna be (party, or social gathering).

I would MAYBE wait for her after school, but possibly not too - your age gap aint too big so I don't think that would be creepy.

Where you say the gorgeous thing is fake and too full on - do you think she's gorgeous? You have to compliment her. MAKE HER SMILE & feel sexy. THis will win in her heart, as a good start.

Just mix it up - you don't have to say gorgeous, or anything rehearsed, but it's a good start if you're not used to banter. Practice banter on people you're not really attracted to, and also people who you think you don't have a chance with - practice makes perfect and soon it will just flow. GIFT OF GAB!!!

EDIT: I'm glad you asked her...nothing wrong with facebook I guess, but keep that kinda thing to a MINIMUM...it's antisocial. It's OK to kick things off, but take the reigns in real life from here on out as much as possible, now she's said yeah - emailing/texting/facebooking is like writing a letter - so it's nice to see words. BUT it's too detached.

Step by step guide? I realize you like this girl - but come on. Use your imagination and your balls. NGGGGGRRRR.

From my experience, the gorgeous thing would be just right - she's young and naive enough not to know any better, so it should actually have it make her feel good about your view of her, and herself in general. It will make her smile - simples.
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I feel like I may have ruined it now, I should of just waited until the weekend. Or at least said gorgeous, I am meant to go driving with her but I have nothing to talk about so I will probably bore her, I should of waited until the weekend. Hopefully she has to babysit and I can just talk to her on the weekend.
 
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Cameronthacreator said:
I feel like I may have ruined it now, I should of just waited until the weekend. Or at least said gorgeous, I am meant to go driving with her but I have nothing to talk about so I will probably bore her, I should of waited until the weekend. Hopefully she has to babysit and I can just talk to her on the weekend.
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Just go for it. Maybe take her out to dinner, to a movie, something like that. See what she want to do.
 
What can we talk about though? I know everything about her so it is pretty hard to ask questions like that, and I'm not a funny person in situations like that because I am to nervous.
 
Dude you're thinking way too fucking much. Just ask her any simple question, or make small talk. It will eventual evolve into deeper conversation, whatever that may be, but you're not going to get anywhere by having a pre-set list of questions to ask a girl when you take her out. Let it be natural, and go with the flow. If she likes you, which it looks like she does, as long as she isn't extraordinarily shy (from your post it seems to me she isn't) she should reciprocate and the conversation will last throughout the drive without a hitch.
 
Drop the "gorgeous". Argh. Call her by her name. As far as conversation, people love to talk about themselves, so ask her about herself. And pay attention to what she says. Nothing more annoying on a date than a guy who doesn't listen, but spends his time thinking about the next thing he's going to say. Does that make sense?

Relax and have fun. And be safe, no babies!! :)
 
Just got back, success I think, we just went doing burnouts and stuff, nearly crashed, it was funny and the only reason she went home was because her mum rang her to go home, party at mine on the weekend so I'll talk to her drunk lol, I think I have finally learnt confidence is key.
 
^ youre not...you will only be temp friendzoned if you think too much, and don't try and kiss her. KISS HER. You've already been told that she wants tto fuck you. What more do you need? Make the first move, champ.
Cameronthacreator said:
What can we talk about though? I know everything about her so it is pretty hard to ask questions like that, and I'm not a funny person in situations like that because I am to nervous.
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You don't need to talk about anything pre-prepared hahaha... conversation will just roll if

J.D. said:
Drop the "gorgeous". Argh. Call her by her name. As far as conversation, people love to talk about themselves, so ask her about herself. And pay attention to what she says.

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you ask her about herself - get to know her - she will love that you're interested in her, and want to know more, and she will ask you loads of questions about you too if she's interested in you as a potential mate.

I couldn't agree less with the gorgeous thing - if you say it ONCE then call her by her name the rest of the time, I have found (if they are not a seasoned relationship person), that this makes them feel gorgeous. Every girl wants to feel gorgeous, beautiful, sexy (although calling her sexy is generally creepy unless you can pull it off right - just thrown in fleetingly and off-the-cuff), and telling her that - well it goes without saying really.

Cameronthacreator said:
Just got back, success I think, we just went doing burnouts and stuff, nearly crashed, it was funny and the only reason she went home was because her mum rang her to go home, party at mine on the weekend so I'll talk to her drunk lol, I think I have finally learnt confidence is key.
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Sounds like it went really well - she thinks you're real fun...now don't try and impress her too much or your car might be totalled lol.
 
dude your an older guy. its a lot easier than you think to get girls that are younger than you. sometimes they dont even like you they just want to chill with an older guy. Sounds like she actually is interested in you though so shouldnt be too hard. And yeah I wouldnt call her gorgeous until youve gotten with her a few times because before that it would just seem creepy.
 
^ trust me it works. ANd doesn't come off creepy - you just have to say it with a big fuck-off grin on your face.

This dude speaks the truth though - you're older and you have a car. You're bi-winning.
 
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different cultures I guess, I didnt know if this guy was in UK or not though I had a suspicion
 
get over it...it's a small price to pay - there's a 50/50 chance that will happen. although it seems the odds ar ebetter considering she has been said to want to fuck you too! So just make a real move! It will be embarrassing for a few seconds, but just shrug it off, and carry on talking or whatever...or get in a huff and have a go at her before dropping her home. How you choose to deal wit that situation and let it affect you is YOUR CHOICE.
 
Cameronthacreator said:
In Australia, what if I kiss her though and she rejects me, that will be embarrassing.
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If you kiss her and she rejects you, it's embarrassing, yeah.
If you kiss her and she kisses you back, YAY, that is what you want. :)
If you don't kiss her, you don't get to date her.

You've gotta take the chance. It sounds like you have pretty good odds though.
 
This dude spreaks the truth though - you're older and you have a car. You're bi-winning.
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LOL... oh to be a clueless teen again when merely having a vehicle got you laid.

In a few years, it has to be a NICE car, and weed won't cut it anymore, it has to be coke, and so forth, the $$ required to get laid just climbs endlessly.
 
Oh well we went for another drive last night, when she got home she wrote on facebook about how her night was good, so I hope I am going about this the right way, on the weekend I will ask how she feels when I'm drunk lol
 
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