My friend is an asshole (total rant)

[Opioidlovingfool]

My friend really kills me. So let me start off by saying I'm withdrawling obv. I'm tryin to get her to give me the smallest ammount of a line to get me better for 3-4 hours to get me well then give it back when I get mine. Of course I always give back . But she always says everytime I help u an u never help me. That's complete bullshit btw, I ALWAYS help her when I can, this is someone I consider my sister and best friend. But she is single a and I am not so she doesn't understand the fact that I have to take care of two people with the money I have and when I say I don't have it I really just don't have it. Sorry about the rant but I just feel how I feel. Does anyone else no how I feel about taking care of two people on one persons money, or friend that act lik if u cant help them because u dont have it ur just fucking them over and u dont care about them, then use it against u? Anybody know what the hell to say to a person lik this?

 

[SirTophamHat]

If you don't have enough money to stay well, how are you keeping food in the cupboard?

Accept that your friend is not as reciprocal as you'd like her to be, since the issue seems to be recurring. Stop hanging out with her if she acts like this.

 

[T. Calderone]

When you get down to the nitty gritty, an addict will keep themselves well first before thinking about you. No matter how good a friend you think they are, it's every man/woman for themselves.

 

[Burnt Offerings]

If drugs is causing a significant strain on your "friendship", or if your "friendship" is based entirely around drugs, or if you're unable to separate your friendship from drugs, then that's not a real friend. That's a "drug friend". I've had many drug friends. Some of them I've even liked, some have been good people...I've never had any illusions about the nature of the relationship, though.

 

[SirTophamHat]

I lost 9/10 friends I made at university because they were drug friends. Good distinction to always make from the outset. Even my closest friend that I met there, we started as drug friends and it took years of trust building to realize that we were true buds.

 

[ErgicMergic]

My friend really kills me. So let me start off by saying I'm withdrawling obv. I'm tryin to get her to give me the smallest ammount of a line to get me better for 3-4 hours to get me well then give it back when I get mine. Of course I always give back . But she always says everytime I help u an u never help me. That's complete bullshit btw, I ALWAYS help her when I can, this is someone I consider my sister and best friend. But she is single a and I am not so she doesn't understand the fact that I have to take care of two people with the money I have and when I say I don't have it I really just don't have it.

If this is the actual truth, and there are no other sides of the story, and you are taking care of the person you're taking care of and going dopesick because all of your money's really going towards their food and well being, then I'd say your friend might be gas lighting you.

Gas lighting is a manipulation tactic frequently employed by people with narcissistic personality disorder, that, when used, can be extremely confusing and "crazy-making" for the victim unlucky enough to be on its receiving end.

 

[belligerent drunk]

I lost 9/10 friends I made at university because they were drug friends. Good distinction to always make from the outset. Even my closest friend that I met there, we started as drug friends and it took years of trust building to realize that we were true buds.

It's sort of funny and sad at the same time, because I had the reverse with one of my(perhaps the only) closest friends. We started hanging out around highschool and I was a complete square at the time, so no part of our friendship was about drugs, but we were still good friends. Come around uni and I started doing stuff and introduced him to some of it (he only drank and smoked weed before me, in highschool), our friendship takes a 90 degree turn and it's no longer about anything but drugs. So we did that for a while, but then I realized we hadn't anything in common anymore apart from wanting to get high, so we stopped communicating almost completely.