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My boyfriend has never gone down on a woman and I really miss it!

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jfksnn

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So , my situation is pretty simple. I have had much more sexual experience than my boyfriend and he and i are in a serious , monogomous relationship now and parts of my body are being seriously ignored!!
My boyfriend has never gone down on a women and I really miss it!
I thought at first it was because he's British and just a little stitched up , I'm American. Not the case. He's just had far less partners than me. He said he's open minded and willing to give it a go but i think he dreads it is scared and would rather not. Honestly if he's not going down on me I feel there should be an end to blow jobs. Only fair.
I want to direct him to some info to guide him a bit but part of me says he should do the leg work here on his own.

Any suggestions?
jfksnn:?
 
I'm sure there are plenty of links online that you can google that will give basic suggestions for giving oral.
Ahh, it's normal for him to be scared as he's never done it before. But let him know that it's okay, practice makes perfect ;) (the more practice, the better, lol). Just let him know that he doesn't have to be perfect right away, it takes time. Even though my boyfriend has had plenty of experience going down on previous girlfriends, etc., he wasn't very good the first time he went down on me! It takes time, it takes practice, and he just has to figure out what you like. :)
 
Lol, in my experience British guys are actually considerably more adventurous than American ones :p

But yeah, just maybe give him some indications on how to do it (although I'm sure rangrz would be able to give an amazing explanation...), tell him to do some research online (honestly that's how I learned how to give guys oral at first), and just kinda guide him while he's down there. Let him know he doesn't have to be absolutely mind-blowing the first time but that you feel this is really a pretty necessary part to your sex life.
 
unluckyyyyy.

Yo tell him to grab a copy of the kama sutra which has all the types of licking and sucking you want to be doing to a pussy. let him know when he's eating you what's good and what's not, and what needs to keep happening at a certain time etc :)

Rangrz posted some great advice in another thread...mod might link you to it.

I personally researched online and in lads mags before I started getting laid as I was a proper shy boy.

Also make sure he takes into account the merits of slipping a finger in the ass too, at the same time, when you're close to climax, and also the fact some women take longer to warm up and get gushy than others, so he will need to start eating yoghurts different from now on to strengthen his jaw. hahahaha ;)

On the real though - he just needs to do some research if he wants to give you a good time, and therefore keep you - as I know NO ONE wants a partner who's a crap shag.
 
jfksnn said:
So , my situation is pretty simple. I have had much more sexual experience than my boyfriend and he and i are in a serious , monogomous relationship now and parts of my body are being seriously ignored!!
My boyfriend has never gone down on a women and I really miss it!
I thought at first it was because he's British and just a little stitched up , I'm American. Not the case. He's just had far less partners than me. He said he's open minded and willing to give it a go but i think he dreads it is scared and would rather not. Honestly if he's not going down on me I feel there should be an end to blow jobs. Only fair.
I want to direct him to some info to guide him a bit but part of me says he should do the leg work here on his own.

Any suggestions?
jfksnn:?
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Oh wow. lol That sucks so bad, but if he's at least willing to give it a go, you can work with him. There are some guys who just won't do it.

If he's scared, do you guys do anything recreational that will loosen him up? Alcohol, MDMA, etc... It will help him loosen him up and he can give it a go. Once he gets over that hump, maybe he'll be less nervous.
 
Link to my Cole Notes version of how to nom a vajayjay.

Also make sure he takes into account the merits of slipping a finger in the ass too, at the same time, when you're close to climax
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Hot, make sure he takes into account the merits of slipping his tongue into her ass before/during the nomming too. :) Doing so is very sexy for both parties, and in my exp, tends to get the girl quite aroused. Oh, another thing that in my exp (which has significant breadth and depth and a fair number of sexual partners over the years) is it seems that having the guy lay down, and the female straddle him "sit on his face" works best for finishing up the orgasm. Like the nomming starts with her laying down and him nomming her like that, but than switching to her straddling to actually approach climax.

Most recently, I got my fiance these things and she really likes getting nommed with them inside her. :)


Many websites have good advice on how to give brain to a girl. Just for the love of Science and all things Logical, don't ask 4chan's /b/ anything about sexuality or girls in general. It will lead to disaster.
 
Maybe you smell funny down there? As in he sniffed his fingers and it was like turned prawns...
 
B1tO'RoughJack said:
Rangrz posted some great advice in another thread...mod might link you to it.
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Anyone got the link? :)

I know if it were me in your boyfriends situation I'd probably be intimidated by my lack of experience and knowledge of the female anatomy. We men are often intimidated by things that we feel we may have inadequate experience or skill in.

But most guys I know love to pleasure their woman, so I'd hope he'd be down to learn with some advice, support and direction from his partner. If he ends up enjoying eating poonani half as much as myself you guys are in for a treat!

Good luck to you guys, every clitoris deserves some love! :)
 
In some ways you are lucky. You have a blank canvas to work with & he does not have to "unlearn" anything.

You can tell a lot about a guy watching him eat a mango cheek.......
 
^regarding the mango - there's a fellatio method in the kama sutra which alludes to eating a mango.

Jerry Atrick said:
Umm. You prolly want to ask permission before sticking things in your partner's ass.....just sayin.
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Nah man - usually I would if I was going to penetrate with anything other than a finger, if it was with a new person. But nah - it's all good as long as there's a pause and linger over the bum. They know what's coming. :p
 
^ Disagree B1tO', the guy (or girl for that matter) needs to check if it's okay first. I've been with WAY too many guys who just assume they can do whatever they want with my ass and it really pisses me off. It's different if it's a boyfriend, but still.
 
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