trees_please
Bluelighter
shit man, youre only 18 years old. there are hundreds of millions of girls in the world. but you only have one dick.
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Might follow a girl to college...
- Thread starter ZeroBlood
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I read all of your advice, and I think I will go there. Even if I end up never talking to her after a month or so of being there, you are all right: I probably will find other friends and there will be other girls, and hopefully I won't be too concerned about her. And yeah, based on what shes like, I am sure that we can stay friends even if I tell her how I feel and she doesn't feel the same back. If its still too much for me to handle in 9 months when the first semester starts up then I will just do my best to find other friends and keep my distance. Also, I'm studying accounting or computer information systems, and I believe shes studying something with Biology. Nothing similar at all lol.
Also, slight addition to the story which makes things suck even more: Earlier tonight, she texted me to go hang out with her and a friend. I figured I'd go and then depending on how things go, let her know how I feel without completely creeping her out, and then if it looked like there was no chance then I was going to try and see if I felt okay being just friends. We get the place to eat, its me her and her best friend. Things were going fine and we were planning on going to hang out somewhere after eating (not sure where we were going to go, i think one of their houses or something, idk) and I was planning on trying to figure things out when we got there. After we walk out the door, she tripped, hurt her hand, and I'm pretty sure its broken. She sat in her car with the doors locked and her head down for like 15 min while me and her friend were talking, and then we all just went home and I am assuming she is at the hospital right now getting it looked at. It looked pretty bad, and we were all just awkwardly quiet in the car on the way back to our houses.
Not sure where to go from here now. Didn't have a chance to see if it was just a friendly get together or going to be something more than that because all we did was eat and talk a bit, and I hadn't done or said anything out of the usual yet like i wanted to. Not sure if this was the right thing to do or not, but about 30 minutes after getting home I texted her saying i hope shes alright and to let me know if she wants to talk to someone (figured shed be sad and bored waiting at the hopsital). She didn't ever call or text so idk, im assuming shes probably in pain/shock in the ER. So yeah, this whole scenario kind of sucks for everyone involved lol.
Also, slight addition to the story which makes things suck even more: Earlier tonight, she texted me to go hang out with her and a friend. I figured I'd go and then depending on how things go, let her know how I feel without completely creeping her out, and then if it looked like there was no chance then I was going to try and see if I felt okay being just friends. We get the place to eat, its me her and her best friend. Things were going fine and we were planning on going to hang out somewhere after eating (not sure where we were going to go, i think one of their houses or something, idk) and I was planning on trying to figure things out when we got there. After we walk out the door, she tripped, hurt her hand, and I'm pretty sure its broken. She sat in her car with the doors locked and her head down for like 15 min while me and her friend were talking, and then we all just went home and I am assuming she is at the hospital right now getting it looked at. It looked pretty bad, and we were all just awkwardly quiet in the car on the way back to our houses.
Not sure where to go from here now. Didn't have a chance to see if it was just a friendly get together or going to be something more than that because all we did was eat and talk a bit, and I hadn't done or said anything out of the usual yet like i wanted to. Not sure if this was the right thing to do or not, but about 30 minutes after getting home I texted her saying i hope shes alright and to let me know if she wants to talk to someone (figured shed be sad and bored waiting at the hopsital). She didn't ever call or text so idk, im assuming shes probably in pain/shock in the ER. So yeah, this whole scenario kind of sucks for everyone involved lol.
Captain.Heroin
Bluelight Crew
Do what you want to man. 
It sounds like you are figuring it out on your own.
It sounds like you are figuring it out on your own.
Pagey
Bluelight Crew
OP it really sounds to me like you're only considering this university because she's going there, and if that's the case this could be a huge mistake...would you actually have applied there were it not for her?
If I had found it on my own, yes. She's the reason I found it though which I guess makes it a bit different. In comparison to the other Similar University that I am considering, I prefer the one she's going to much more than the one I was looking at by a long shot. I also tried finding a similar University that I like better but I didn't find anything that looked better for me. So I'd like to say that my consideration for the University itself isn't based on her at all, but maybe I'm still subconsciously factoring her in without realizing it, idk...
Pagey
Bluelight Crew
^Okay well fair enough then. If you think you'd really enjoy your time at that university & it would work well for you regardless of that girl then I guess you can just see her as an added bonus and go for it. My point was just, don't compromise your future based on a potential girlfriend. Especially since needless to say, you'll be meeting plenty of girls next year, haha.
kytnism
Bluelight Crew
op my only suggestion is to write an honest list of pros and cons down, and review it that way.
in doing that sometimes, our true intentions become clearer and will hopefully assist your decision making.
do whats right for you.
...kytnism...
in doing that sometimes, our true intentions become clearer and will hopefully assist your decision making.
do whats right for you.
...kytnism...
B1tO'RoughJack
Bluelighter
write an honest list of pros and cons down, and review it that way.
...kytnism...
great stuff.
pofacedhoe
Bluelight Crew
whoaaaa!
university is expensive.
do not rush into it. take time to figure out what career you want and then look into how likely your degree will get you into that.
learning is for future earning. take time and go for something will a high employability factor
i wish i had done that instead of rushing to uni to do something that has made me no money and saddled me with debt simply because i didn't know what the working world is like and thought "gee uni sounds fun". yes it is but you should come out of it with a skill you can sell and a career plan.
university is expensive.
do not rush into it. take time to figure out what career you want and then look into how likely your degree will get you into that.
learning is for future earning. take time and go for something will a high employability factor
i wish i had done that instead of rushing to uni to do something that has made me no money and saddled me with debt simply because i didn't know what the working world is like and thought "gee uni sounds fun". yes it is but you should come out of it with a skill you can sell and a career plan.