Need Help met psycho alcohol bipolar schizo woman how to deal with it

[allone]

i stayed 3 weeks with this weirdo crazy ass bitch and i think i love her because i keep thinking about her well being now that im away. she kicked me out because she took in some random homeless guy who is a heroin addict off the street to live with her. they probably inject themselves now as i speak!!!
ANYWAY, i really do care for her well being as she is slowly decaying real bad. i just saw her today briefly for like 10 mins to check on her and she was not only an alcohol but looks like heroin addict too now. this guy is fucking her life up!!! I know she is mentally ill, but what can I do to prevent her from dying?? I was thinking of hospitalizing her as she was hospitalized 6 times this and last year. her 10 year old son abandoned her, most of her friends too. she got fired from work. has been drinking for the past 3 weeks i was with her. which is fine, because i drink too and i controlled it somehow and kept her safe. UNTIL this idiot came into her life. NOW she both drinks and does heroin! WTF!? I called the cops once to get this faggot off her place but those morons AS USUAL, did not do shit! they couldnt LEGALLY enter private property without a fucking warrant! this guy has so much drugs on him, to kill an elephant. how the fuck do i get him off her before he kills her??? And no, its not because i got replaced and kicked out and im jealous, i just worry A LOT for her well being ok? She OD once when i was still there when this piece of shit was around and he injected her with heroin without me being able to stop it. THEN I fucking saved her life with narcan, ok? This fucking idiot kept saying i should let her wake up on her own lol wtf man!?!?!
How do i get the cops to enter the place and search and arrest him??? Please help!!!

 

[dasbonz]

Don't get the fucking cops involved!!! Bad choice! Sounds like she wants to self-destruct, let her and be thankful you got away from it.
DO NOT GET THE COP'S!!!

 

[Jabberwocky]

I know she is mentally ill, but what can I do to prevent her from dying??

Unfortunately not much. Only the person themselves can save themself.

her 10 year old son abandoned her, most of her friends too.

Umm.. what? You mean he went to live with the father or other family...? How does a 10 year old child abandon their parents? I assume you mean she abandoned him

Calling the cops on her is not something I would advise. It's not going to help the situation and she is not going to like you more for putting her in an institution

I'm sorry man, I wish I had more advice for you, but when someone is suffering from mental illness and/or heroin addiction the only thing that can save them is themself.

You stayed 3 weeks with a "weirdo crazy ass bitch" and fell in love with her? Not saying its not possible but... are you ok yourself brother?

Also when I date women one of the first red flags I look for is mental problems. I have them too, and two people with mental health issues usually do not mix very well.

Nobody here can really help you with this situation man, sorry to say.

And TBH, it sounds like you're a little bit jealous here. No judgement. I've been there.

I think you should work on yourself and reconsider your position here. What made you fall in love with a "crazy bitch"? Think about it. Even if it is "love", why would you love someone who abandons their child and "kicked you out" for some other dude? That makes no sense and makes me think you might have some issues of your own to deal with. Again, not judging you, just telling you like it is.

 

[Deleted member 521610]

mate just let this one go she seems pretty far gone and she will not choose you over heroin. Count your self lucky you got away from a crazy person because that shit will just drag you to some dark place aswell.

 

[allone]

Don't get the fucking cops involved!!! Bad choice! Sounds like she wants to self-destruct, let her and be thankful you got away from it.
DO NOT GET THE COP'S!!!

i got them involved already and they did shit for nothing. just gave me attitude and i wanted to fucking yell at those assholes but kept my cool. ANYWAY, lesson learned.
BUT how do i let someone self destruct like this?? doesnt sound normal or good for me or her!

 

[Jabberwocky]

BUT how do i let someone self destruct like this??

You have to learn how to let go and let the universe do what it does. People will kill themselves, trees will burn, children will die....

You can't let yourself burn with them.

Sad reality of the planet we live on.

I'm sorry for your situation. What's the quote? "If you truly love someone, let them go"?

 

[allone]

Unfortunately not much. Only the person themselves can save themself.



Umm.. what? You mean he went to live with the father or other family...? How does a 10 year old child abandon their parents? I assume you mean she abandoned him

Calling the cops on her is not something I would advise. It's not going to help the situation and she is not going to like you more for putting her in an institution

I'm sorry man, I wish I had more advice for you, but when someone is suffering from mental illness and/or heroin addiction the only thing that can save them is themself.

You stayed 3 weeks with a "weirdo crazy ass bitch" and fell in love with her? Not saying its not possible but... are you ok yourself brother?

Also when I date women one of the first red flags I look for is mental problems. I have them too, and two people with mental health issues usually do not mix very well.

Nobody here can really help you with this situation man, sorry to say.

And TBH, it sounds like you're a little bit jealous here. No judgement. I've been there.

I think you should work on yourself and reconsider your position here. What made you fall in love with a "crazy bitch"? Think about it. Even if it is "love", why would you love someone who abandons their child and "kicked you out" for some other dude? That makes no sense and makes me think you might have some issues of your own to deal with. Again, not judging you, just telling you like it is.

"You stayed 3 weeks with a "weirdo crazy ass bitch" and fell in love with her? Not saying its not possible but... are you ok yourself brother"

lol im not i think. im also an alcohol and we are both alcoholics but she is psychotic quite literally out of her mind. am i too?? how do i know if im not crazy as well?? its hard to self analyze you know. i think i have mental problems for sure. i dont think im ok honestly. maybe im losing my mind as well. she told me many many times she is losing hers and i keep telling her , she already did. then I STILL wanna stay with her. wtf is going on man.... maybe ive lost my mind too and i keep thinking she is losing hers and im trying to actually prevent that while at the same time im gone as well. shit.... i prolly need psychedelics to analyze this situation better!!!

 

[Jabberwocky]

lol im not i think. im also an alcohol and we are both alcoholics but she is psychotic quite literally out of her mind. am i too?? how do i know if im not crazy as well?? its hard to self analyze you know. i think i have mental problems for sure. i dont think im ok honestly. maybe im losing my mind as well. she told me many many times she is losing hers and i keep telling her , she already did. then I STILL wanna stay with her. wtf is going on man.... maybe ive lost my mind too and i keep thinking she is losing hers and im trying to actually prevent that while at the same time im gone as well. shit.... i prolly need psychedelics to analyze this situation better!!!

You should honestly seek some help, brother. I have been through alcoholism, heroin addiction, psychosis, schizophrenia... everything you mention....

You should see a psychiatrist or get a dual diagnosis.

Good luck bro.

 

[dasbonz]

The more you try and control this situation the more out of control it will become before eventually blowing up with lots of collateral damage. You need to take care of #1 in your life and that should always be you and no one else. This woman is going to do whatever she wants no matter who it hurts. One more thing; guy's always want what they can't have. I learned that the hard way after getting a divorce from my first ex-wife. Good luck!

 

[Jabberwocky]

You need to take care of #1 in your life and that should always be you and no one else.

Can't like this enough. It's not selfish, it's reality. You can't help or love someone else until you help and love yourself.

 

[allone]

i should seek help for myself, correct. that basically sums it up actually. im completely breaking down here with my alcohol withdrawals plus my suboxone addiction. plus i had to meet that maniac at such a sensitive time.... absolute disaster! what a fucking disaster! why did i have to meet her at such a sensitive time of my life, i do not know. i met her because im an alcoholic just like her and then we introduce the heroin addict in our lives (the past me) and he takes over her and kicks me out (as i kicked out heroin) its like some type of weird God's plan for punishment

but guys if you see her and hear her voice and how LOST AND CONFUSED she is, you will not say what you say now. im not even in love actually. i just FEEL for her.

 

[Jabberwocky]

i should seek help for myself, correct. that basically sums it up actually. im completely breaking down here with my alcohol withdrawals plus my suboxone addiction. plus i had to meet that maniac at such a sensitive time.... absolute disaster! what a fucking disaster! why did i have to meet her at such a sensitive time of my life, i do not know. i met her because im an alcoholic just like her and then we introduce the heroin addict in our lives (the past me) and he takes over. its some type of weird God's plan for punishment

One of my favorite quotes is:

"Trust the timing of your life"

Things happen when they do for a reason. You were probably led here to post this so maybe you realize that you need some help.

Go get a dual diagnosis my bro. It's not a sign of weakness to seek help - if anything it's a strength. I definitely have had several dual diagnosis appointments, and I'm still here, alive and sane because IT HELPED ME.

 

[allone]

I’m confused, is this new addict you? Or does she just cycle through men every couple weeks to live with her?

None of this sounds healthy or productive. You really don’t have anything to say about her or this new junky at all. Why are you taking over the care of this three week old relationship. Is the first time you thought you were in a relationship? You are not in a relationship dude. I have a wife and kids that are grown, that’s a relationship because we are a family.This is your ego talking, and how on earth did you end up being in love with her! I’m not judging you, but I think you knew exactly what she was. How long were the two of you dating? How and where did you two meet? Answer these questions first, and you will know the answer concerning your love!

Just spitballing here, but I’m not feeling a love connection. I am feeling danger! Danger from you, because she kicked you out for good reason, even if that reason was to get high. Don’t EVER threaten a woman with locking her or anyone else up around her. Especially after 3 weeks, over ever!

Stay the fuck away from her. You will be the one that ends up in prison, or worse. CLEAR ENOUGH

—Wizard

i was seeking alcohol and ended up in this late night open liquor store and she was on the street asking for cigs. i tried to help her, talking to her and then next thing i know we are both chugging her vodka bottle and she invites me over. then we stayed 3 weeks together and had shitload of good fucking sex! BUT its not just the sex. i felt for her as a SISTER. we call each other brother and sister now. i dunno what being married is or having kids is as i have never had that and im too old now to have it anyway. i just go for anything that can keep me away from loneliness ok? good luck with that, but i cannot achieve it at my age, its too late. i just need company. misery loves company

 

[HoldBack]

Don’t stick your dick in crazy... up there with never trust a junkie in the list of rules to live by...

 

[Jabberwocky]

always ask for help if you are spiraling out of control.

Sometimes when you are fucked up enough and everything is spinning you need something to grab on to in order to steady yourself. Usually help from another qualified person. For me it was always a psychiatrist. Preferably one that is also a neurologist. Worth the extra $$

-snafu

 

[NYCityguy]

Almost all the advice given to you here is absolutely spot on!!!
You asked for our advice. Don’t disregard what everyone is telling you.
You can’t see it because your in it. Forget her. Leave her alone. Let it be. Thank GOD your out of it!!
You met her at night on the side of the road..... you know what she was doing right????
Listen I’m not gonna make you feel pain. Just trust us. Go get yourself some help. Stay away from her and the heroin. Go get a dog if your lonely
I have been involved in the same shit And as the story goes she died. I’m telling you what happened to me. She overdosed.

If you want more pain misery loss of money anguish no chance to survive then go to her house.

And stop with the cops!!! Never speak to them.
Hang on you can make it. We all did!!

 

[Jabberwocky]

Alcoholism is no joke (but what you said kinda was)!

Certainly not. I used to think alcohol was a shitty, dumb almost an excuse for a drug.

Now it's killing me, ruining my life and a hell of an addiction.

I still fucking hate alcohol, but in a different way.......

I used to think it was a shitty high.... now its hard to imagine life without it...

why spend $40-60 on a half g of heroin when I can spend $7 on this bottle of liquor?

fuck

 

[Jabberwocky]

Those are two piss poor choices. Get some speed (adderall or prescription meth) Get a script speed, like smart people do, (easier to dose) and some diazepam and gabapentin, also some thiamine (B1) and a nurse to check your vitals while you detox from alcohol. If that’s not available check in to a detox center and keep yourself alive (hopefully).

That’s my main point on @allone thread about that girl. Booze ain’t no joke and is easy to over do. I’m six times now since 27 y/o. Doesn’t get any easier, and I’m sure they won’t take me seriously on trip seven! Food will be good if I’m always emaciated (Wizard will be)!

Point is, to seek out care from a medical professional when you need help! You will listen to them, because they will keep you alive (hopefully).

—Wizard

I remember I had one pysch who prescribed me this weird "new" drug. instead of 75% dex / 25% levo amphetamine like adderall it was 50/50. Can't remember the name, started with an E.

Anyways every pharmacy I went to either did not have it in stock or had to order it. Shit was fucking $400/month!!!!!!

Lol so of course I didn't get it. Just give me some fucking adderall.

Or meth. Whatever.

I don't like meth because for some reason I can't control myself on it like heroin or other drugs.

Give me a gram of meth.... might as well give me a fucking gun to my head. I'll be up for 10 days, crash my car, call my saint of a mother a cunt..... you get the point...

 

[Jabberwocky]

They do that shit at detox places. Send you home with scripts no one can afford to fill. I’ve learned because, if you fuck with my meds, my Tourette’s fucks you right back! I forgot how dirty those fuckers were. I’m older and louder now with Tourette’s, so they give up immediately and let me self prescribe my own shit I want. Fuck that hustle. I win every time and they know it. Same for all y’all!

Don’t ever let some fat piece of shit tell you what you already do. Ever!

—Wizard

I have certainly had some help from shrinks in my life.... I've also had them diagnose me with fucking bullshit. The same one that diagnosed me with drug induced schizophrenia also diagnosed me with bipolar disorder. I am the chillest fucking dude on this planet and have no mood swings........ but he said I was bipolar and had me filling lithium and anticonvulsant scripts. I would say fuck him but he also gave me librium to get off alcohol and other shit. Both good and bad, but overall more good then bad. Miss him. Every doc I've since since then was 99% bullshit. Might as well take their degree and shove it up their ass because they seem to enjoy it.

 

[4meSM]

That sucks...I'm sorry man but I have to quote J Cole on this one: "Don't save her, she don't wanna be saved".
You can't force her to sober up and be with you, it seems like she's in a downward spiral and it will only stop if she wants it to stop or if she asks for help... Best of luck.