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Managing horniness in LDR: To beat off or not to beat off

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shishigami

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How do you guys typically manage horniness while in a LDR? I won't be seeing my significant other for about 11 weeks and I was wondering what would be the best way to manage my horniness.

I see there's two ways to do it:
1) Beat off all the time. That's what I'm currently doing but I just find myself horny just as much.
2) Stop beating off. I would think that in a couple days/ week it would just get better.

What do y'all think?
 
Skype/IM etc and beat off together! During the day you can build so much sexual tension just telling the other person what your going to do, what you want them to do to you etc - that hooking up via cam is really satisfying. When in a LDR make ways of including your partner into your daily routine and it gets much easier to cope with (I did LDR for a few years - few months at a time).
 
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She's sailing in the Caribbean and won't be able to talk all that frequently, trust me if she was able to I would suggest that.
 
shishigami said:
She's sailing in the Caribbean and won't be able to talk all that frequently, trust me if she was able to I would suggest that.
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Why not suggest a sex (Treasure Chest) for each other, random videos, messages, stories, pictures etc. Then when you feel the need to be close to her you have a something to aid you. Even if you watch the same clip over and over it still makes you feel connected to her - if you give each file an 'open date' (and you stick to it) that could also give release when you open it.
 
I can suggest that but I'm looking for an answer to the initial question more. Do people find that masturbating frequently or infrequently (cessation) helps manage sexual arousal more.
 
Oh sorry -I thought you were asking two separate things due to your punctuation.

How do you guys typically manage horniness while in a LDR? Was the part of your message I opted to share my experiences with. *Leaves thread*
 
I would say just jack off but limit yourself.. idk what the norm is .. but half that. Like maybe.. 3x a week?
 
Wait for her to get back. It will be intense, trust me.

Rather than ask us, have you asked her? What does she want you to do? How is she going to manage?
 
for me if i avoid masturbating within a few days i will be in a very bad mood and start finding ugly/below average people so attractive that i cant cope. for me to wank more often is the solution to managing excessive horn. everyone is different though.

some people can just not orgasm for weeks and after a while it gets better. i have never experienced that myself
 
beat off as needed. If you stop, you're going to feel a greater urge, which may lead to things other than just beating off or your balls will end up hurting really badly. Either case it sucks, i'd just drop a few hundred on cam girls, gets me through rough patches... without feeling like i am a cheater cheater pumpkin eater lol.
 
I would continue to jack-off until you can find another woman to bang until she gets back. Do you really think she is sailing in the carribean and not getting banged herself ? Really ?
 
shishigami said:
How do you guys typically manage horniness while in a LDR? I won't be seeing my significant other for about 11 weeks and I was wondering what would be the best way to manage my horniness.

I see there's two ways to do it:
1) Beat off all the time. That's what I'm currently doing but I just find myself horny just as much.
2) Stop beating off. I would think that in a couple days/ week it would just get better.

What do y'all think?
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If you don't orgasm your body will force it on you because it a natural process that helps with hygiene and the health of your urethra. Saying that, beat it like it owes you money
 
will you be in contact at all with your SO while she is away?

to deal with this issue when separated; my partner and i rely on technology to assist our sex drives. sexy picture messages in the morning, masturbating together, phone sex, messages expressing what we would love to do to one another, sexy webcam sessions etc.

while it is a temporary substitute, it keeps horniness at bay and the sex when you are reunited, amazing.

...kytnism...:|
 
dieseldog1 said:
I would continue to jack-off until you can find another woman to bang until she gets back. Do you really think she is sailing in the carribean and not getting banged herself ? Really ?
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Do you think I wouldn't already be doing that if I was under the impression that she would be "getting banged herself"? I'd hate to be in a relationship with you if that's how your mind works.

Anyway I've found that not watching porn significantly helps.
 
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I would continue to jack-off until you can find another woman to bang until she gets back. Do you really think she is sailing in the carribean and not getting banged herself ? Really ?
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For sure. Scandalous bitches are always fuckng at least 10 other guys.
My girl tells me I'm crazy every time I bring it up but SHE'S the crazy one
I always see these texts from some guy named "nana" saying things like "love you baby girl good night xo"
 
If it's just about getting off then I would find someone else in the mean time. There's monogamy of the body and then there's monogamy of the heart.

I understand that for some people being loyal means not having contact with anyone else, but for me being loyal would be acknowledging the needs of my partner and wanting them to be happy... which means, granting them the freedom to get off with someone else instead of becoming a horny toad. Maybe I'm just too practical but I don't see any point in suffering needlessly, not when the solution is more local.

Unless of course you enjoy this kind of torment... then by all means, please continue. ;)
 
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