Long time single!

[mribas]

Hey Bluelighters! Wow, I used to visit this site like 12-15 years ago, no joke. Super glad to see ya'll are still around. I had something like 15,000 posts before.

Anyways, just something that's been on my mind lately.

I'm 33 years old, great job, very healthy, confident, keep myself well, relatively attractive... and I've sort of become comfortable with a life of solidarity. Don't get me wrong, I have great friends and family; but when it comes to actually dating, I seem to just keep everyone at arms length. I'm trying to figure out if it's a preference thing... as in I'm just happy with my life and independence... Or if it's some level of dysfunctionality that I have which keeps me from developing a functional relationship.

I don't really have a problem getting dates; I just seem to have a problem turning them into anything meaningful. Meaningless hook ups and superficial "hanging out" just loses its appeal after awhile.

Anyone have similar scenario? Or any insights? Not really sure what type of introspection to undergo here. Maybe this is all too vague really; but just curious if anyone has suggestions as to how or what I should look at, within myself.

 

[llama112]

Maybe you haven't met anyone that you really connect with. That's okay. Sometimes it takes a while. You've got yourself figured out which is great. I know so many people who are amazing but, at age 30+, single. That's okay. There are others like you. You just have to meet someone who you really work well with!