Recently I made a post about my boyfriend's meth use and mood swings due to withdrawal. To give you a bit of background, we have been together for one year and he's been an addict for about six months. He has always been a very heavy drug user in general.
This used to be fine, as I like to party on the weekends as well, but in the last few months he has completely lost control.
He has tried to cut back on his meth use (4 - 5 weeks clean, I think) but is really just replacing meth with very heavy drinking, accompanied with lots of ecstasy and a large amount of weed. He'll have these binges a couple of times during the week and all weekend long. He's even began drinking codeine, and dangerous amounts of it. I'm not sure he's even extracting it properly, as he's always complaining of stomach cramps (but then again the excessive drinking wouldn't be helping!). He used to only smoke weed in the evenings, but now it's all throughout the day, even at work. I can't remember the last time I saw him sober.
His problem has not gotten better, it's just been replaced by something else that is, in a way, even more destructive to his mental and physical health. He is extremely disrespectful to me. He is constantly making plans with me when he's drunk and then standing me up later. I cannot believe how quickly this has escalated into something even more fucked up than it was, and all so he can cope with withdrawal. I do not know who he is anymore. It's almost like meth is the better alternative, which is scary.
I understand that beating this was never going to be easy, but his drug/alcohol use in general is just getting a lot worse.
Yesterday, he said to me that he doesn't want to quit, just wants to cut back. I can't make him want to get better. I really feel that he needs to do this on his own. I feel that by me sticking around, it's just a validation to him that his use is not that bad.
It hurts me so much to watch him do this to himself. It also hurts that all of this shit comes before me. I used to be a priority for him. I am now an option - someone he can call to come down with when all his mates have gone home and he feels lonely.
He assures me that he is not unhappy and doesn't need any help. But how could a happy person do this to themselves?
He clearly does not want to stop. Perhaps I'm abandoning him, but I really don't want to be around this anymore.
I have relayed everything I've said above to him many, many times. I am at a loss at what to say now. What can I say to him to make him realise how far it's gone and why I'm leaving?
Thanks in advance.
This used to be fine, as I like to party on the weekends as well, but in the last few months he has completely lost control.
He has tried to cut back on his meth use (4 - 5 weeks clean, I think) but is really just replacing meth with very heavy drinking, accompanied with lots of ecstasy and a large amount of weed. He'll have these binges a couple of times during the week and all weekend long. He's even began drinking codeine, and dangerous amounts of it. I'm not sure he's even extracting it properly, as he's always complaining of stomach cramps (but then again the excessive drinking wouldn't be helping!). He used to only smoke weed in the evenings, but now it's all throughout the day, even at work. I can't remember the last time I saw him sober.
His problem has not gotten better, it's just been replaced by something else that is, in a way, even more destructive to his mental and physical health. He is extremely disrespectful to me. He is constantly making plans with me when he's drunk and then standing me up later. I cannot believe how quickly this has escalated into something even more fucked up than it was, and all so he can cope with withdrawal. I do not know who he is anymore. It's almost like meth is the better alternative, which is scary.
I understand that beating this was never going to be easy, but his drug/alcohol use in general is just getting a lot worse.
Yesterday, he said to me that he doesn't want to quit, just wants to cut back. I can't make him want to get better. I really feel that he needs to do this on his own. I feel that by me sticking around, it's just a validation to him that his use is not that bad.
It hurts me so much to watch him do this to himself. It also hurts that all of this shit comes before me. I used to be a priority for him. I am now an option - someone he can call to come down with when all his mates have gone home and he feels lonely.
He assures me that he is not unhappy and doesn't need any help. But how could a happy person do this to themselves?
He clearly does not want to stop. Perhaps I'm abandoning him, but I really don't want to be around this anymore.
I have relayed everything I've said above to him many, many times. I am at a loss at what to say now. What can I say to him to make him realise how far it's gone and why I'm leaving?
Thanks in advance.
