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Is she still interested?

bighooter

bighooter

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Basically a girl who is a friend of one of my girl mates told my friend that she really liked me, in a way that she wouldnt just want sex with me but possibly a relationship.

Anyway i met her for the 2nd time (the 1st time i hardly spoke to her). I invited her round my house to get messy with my girl mate whos her mate and her bloke and my best mate.
Anyway we all got messed up on aMT and I was kissing her and real cose with her snugged up on the sofa and then after a while it seemed as if she went a bit distant with me so I layed down on the sofa she was sat the other end and I ended up falling asleep.

I awoke several hours later and everyone had gone but she sent me a text saying for me to ring her when i wake up.... i didnt coz I couldnt be fcuked to talk i felt like my brain had been removed from my skull so went back to bed. + I didnt want to ring her case I end up sounding abit to desperate/forward.

I sent her a message today saying ''sorry for being too messy (i was chewing my face off probz freaking her out) and sorry 4 fallin asleep but said it was nice 2 c her'' and left it that.

Im not very good when it comes with girls ive had a few relationships but theyve never lasted because of how I am (very introverted due to not having a mother as a child I learnt to cope on my own without needing anyone)

But anyway I just want to know whether I have done the right thing about playing it 'cool' and not acting to desperate/being too forward etc as in the past by doing so I have scared girls off.

I just want to know how I should play/talk to this girl, shes not exactly beautiful or smart but I find her sexy and ive been told by lots of girls that im fit.

I just need a bit of help When it comes to chatting up girls. PEACE x
 
Well I probably ain't the best person on this subject either, since my girlfriend has been a bit distant with me lately lol. But I think that's fine what you did. She did tell you to ring her though yeah, but you still contacted her via text since possibly being messy at the time, so that's not being too "forward". Just give it a couple of days (I don't exactly know what time period) or something and call her up and see if she wants to do something, and tell her you enjoyed her company or something. One area where us males are quite often stupid is remembering that males AND females (surprisingly lol) are human, and they get nervous and everything just like we do.
 
WICKED I asked her if she was up for coming over tonight and she said yes.

Does this mean she will want sex?
As im not fussed either way its just I hardly know her and like to get to know a girl before I have sex with them unless im intoxicated.
 
bighooter said:
WICKED I asked her if she was up for coming over tonight and she said yes.

Does this mean she will want sex?
As im not fussed either way its just I hardly know her and like to get to know a girl before I have sex with them unless im intoxicated.
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I'm not (nor is anyone else on this forum) a mind reader, so I can not tell you if she wants sex or not.

Play it by ear/eye. Regardless of sexing or not, do make an effort to get to know her as person, and hell, if it seems okay, be affectionate, whether sex happens or not.

The fact she wants to come over is a good sign in any case, so I think things are trending you way. Have a good evening with her dude!
 
You'll have to see how it goes (in regards to sex). Personally, I have never had sex with someone within the first few dates, but ehh everyone is different right? Be prepared for it of course! But just hang out with her. Watch a movie? Go for a walk? Things like that! Get to know her a bit more too :)
 
Let's not put the cart before the horse. This is why we girls can be seen like bitches. Don't assume she wants sex just because she wants to hang out. Sometimes, we like you but we're not going to have sex with you. It's a PITA to hang out with men and they automatically assume they have to take a chance and try to have sex with us. It's kinda annoying. Make it clear you're interested, but don't put her in that awkward position of telling you it's not going to happen.
 
How is it going? What are the signals like now?

You took amt, nice. That was my first psychedelic experience... haven't met anyone else who's taken it.
 
Its going great thanks guys, im now going out with her and things are moving really slow i.e Ive only kissed n caressed her.
Im finding it quite difficult to be myself around her though as shes very quiet and normally im quite zany, So I find it uncomfortable fooling around in front of her as she is a very quiet girl and it makes me feel like a fruitcake the way she looks at me sometimes as if in her head shes thinking im crazy.

So conversations are pretty trash at the moment and I kinda feel like i'm battling to put a smile on her face even though all I want to do is kiss her n make her feel good I sometimes think maybe if I kiss n caress her too much will I end up pushing her away?

I just need some guidance on how to play the game now as this is pretty much my first girlfriend.

cheers

O yeh and aMT is incredible stuff well n truly magical
 
Talk about the cool things you've done and the cool things you plan to do in your life. A girl wants to feel positive feelings about you and that is part of it. Ask her about what she's done and what she plans to do. Then give her your opinion on those things but make sure not to praise her too much. Remember, girls want a confident leader and not a weak follower. Usually the time will come where you have to make a big move on her - like a passionate kiss, a hand down the pants, etc. - unless she does it first, which is very rare. I know that's scary as hell, but if you want a real relationship with this girl, you NEED to make a move. It's just the way it is. If she resists, stop and change the subject. Then a few minutes or hours later, try again. You MUST eventually have sex with her if you want a relationship. After all, isn't that what happened with her last boyfriend? Sex builds strong emotional bonds. Good luckl
 
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