Interventions (and I don't mean the show)

[swiEric]

has anyone in here ever been confronted by friends and family or had an intervention done by close ones? I recently found out my ex girlfriend (whom I work with) and a few of my other coworkers are planning an intervention for me, and I don't know quite how to react. my first instinct is to tell them all to bug off and mind their own business, but I don't want to ruin the relationships I have or offend anyone.

I know I have a Heroin problem. about a hundred dollars a day problem. but I keep everything else under control, Im a good worker, a nice guy, I don't steal or fiend. I just like being loaded all day errrrday. but I really wish my ex and the people I work with would stop telling me what I should do. it all kinda started when I found out about a heart condition I have that makes it dangerous for me to do any kind of stimulant. I stopped doing coke and vyvanse, and Ive slowed down smoking but everytime I spark one up somebody has to give me shit and tell me I'm "not allowed to smoke". Im allowed to do whatever I want.

I think I might humor them, just tell them I have one rule and that is no ultimatums. I will listen to them and keep an open mind, but I don't think my habit negatively affects any of them, other than H causing a ed sometimes when my ex wants to do it. I'm still one of the best at my job.

what would you guys do (or what have you done) when faced with a similar situation?

 

[AfterGlow]

Interventions are all about ultimatums. Just be ready to accept whatever consequences there may be. You may not have a problem with your drug use, but they might. And if they tell you to clean up or else you're gonna lose a SO, a friend, or a job... be prepared to make a choice.

 

[swiEric]

well luckily no one who is in the position to fire me is involved, and even if they were that would not be part of it. theyve known about my drug use and they don't care, its really just the girls I work with, and my ex trying to change me. it really makes me mad because me and her were such good friends and now she acts like Im a charity case, always trying to help me and better me. shes really the only one out of the group I care about staying friends with, Im not fond of the rest of them they just think I am like them and my only friends are people at work.

they may have a problem with my use, but its a problem born out of social stigma, not of real reason. and I have a problem with my use, but its something I need to handle myself, on my own time and for my own reasons. I'm the kind of foolish stubborn person that rejects any kind of help, it offends me like they are calling me weak. anytime someone tells me to slow down or stop things, I reply by doing it even more (not in a dangerous way). I may be self destructive, but thats just me. I've always been the kind of person who followed my own rules and lived my life the way I want, which is how everyone should be. its not their problem if Im addicted to H. It's mine and mine alone, it does not affect them at all. actually, the few times I have tried becoming clean, they will always complain that I act angry or Im a "party pooper" while going through withdrawals. they've never known me sober, and it feels like my drug use and how I act loaded are a part of my personality to them, so now if I was off completely I would be a stranger to them, one they may possibly not like.

what pisses me off even more is a little while ago one of the girls threatened to tell my parents if I didnt stop. Im 23 years old, and she was going to tattle on me like a child. what a load of shit.

 

[comatoserct]

do what you said. keep an open mind, don't be rude or freak out, and think it out. it's happened to me (by parents and best friends/roommates) and there were certainly ultimatums. I would tell them that drug addiction is a tough battle and people don't just quit because other people want them to. no one can make a drug user quit, it has to be their decision. just tell them you aren't ready yet.

 

[Khadijah]

Ima keep this open until I find our old other Intervention thread--There was a thread called "anybody ever had an intervention" or somethin like that, askin the same thing, and it got closed back when it showed up a year or so back. So I was gonna close this one , but then i realized that I aint seen our intervention thread that we usually would send people to, in a while. So if that one pops back up and I can find it, well merge or close this one. But if not, this can be our new thread for talkin about interventions and doing them/gettin them done on you.

Here is the thread i was talkin about in here that got closed:http://www.bluelight.ru/vb/showthread.php?t=445730&highlight=intervention

Anyways, for now, back to yall...