>>is it just me or are most feminist lesbians? all they do is rag on men and how we use women as objects.>>
It's just you. Most feminists I've met are straight, and most lesbians I've met have better things to do with their time than rag on men.
Heh...I could be called a feminist, although I have certain hesitations about applying the label to myself. I am definitely not a lesbian.
>>look at how many women are the ones filing for devorce these days. its not the men leaving the women behind, its the women realizing they can have anything they want using that little thing with hair on it, and saying fuck this dude.>>
Or perhaps it is that more women won't tolerate disequitable treatment.
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I would say that gendered oppression goes beyond the relationship-based conflicts you cite. We still see widespread disparities among wages between women and men and "pink-collar" work and typically male professions. We still see many more women taking the "double-shift" of domestic and wage-labor than men. We still see the devaluation of feminine attributes and valuation of that which is constructed as masculine in society at large. The feminist movement still has a great deal of work ahead...
>>i watched the E true hollywood story on jenna jameson the other night and there was a feminist on there talking about how wrong the adult film industry is. good ole jenna told her, "why should i feel bad because i have sex for a living? the women get payed more than the men, we get to choose who we work with, and we have a high quality of life".>>
Jameson makes a good point, and this actually gets at a long-going debate between so-called libertarian feminists and other feminists. Now, I would imagine that many women have different impetuses for and feel different effects from acting in the porn industry. On the other hand, so-called "objectification" does seem to be more prevelant for women than men and does have specific, measurable deleterious consequences.
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