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Improving sexual stamina/lasting longer.

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psytaco

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I went on a date over the weekend with a pretty amazing woman. Beautiful, smart, cool and we had great chemistry. We didn't sleep together that night but we made out a lot. I'm seeing her next week and I am pretty sure that it want be long before we wind up in bed together.

However, although it is not a common occurance, there are times when I don't last long. Not premature ejaculation but rather only lasting 4-5 minutes. Normally I can last for as long as I feel like it and then just concentrate on cumming and it will happen. Problem is I am super attracted to this girl and if the sex is good I can see myself getting really turned on and not being able to last long.

I want the first time to be pretty amazing. Are there any drugs or techniques that I can use to make myself last longer but not decrease sensitivity or fuck up an erection? I have fucked on codeine and it is good in that everything feels normal and I last way longer. Only downside is that sometimes I cannot cum. Benzos make me last longer but can also fuck up my erection. Alcohol makes me last longer but I don't enjoy sex as much. Any natural techniques I can use?

Condoms (which I plan on using) should help.
 
beat the monkey just before u meet her u can try all the downer drugs and shit,but really,just fap before its effective,its healthy,its perfect solution
 
I say, from a woman's perspective, don't take any drugs or alcohol to last longer.

Do your thing and if you happen to come early say to her, "damn, you turned me on so much I couldn't help myself, but don't worry, round two is coming up."

Then, while you give yourself a chance to recharge, concentrate on her and her pleasure. Make out with her. Go down on her. Etc.

To be honest, I would 100% rather this scenario than one where the guy is pounding away forever taking a long time to climax. Especially if it is a first time that makes me think something is wrong with me. That scenario could happen if you mix substances in there...you never know how your body reacts.

I tend to take it as a compliment if a guy comes quickly, but it is essential to make sure she gets off as well, and also to go for it again to show that you have some stamina.
 
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Yeah if you pop off early, just tell her it was because she is just so hot and turns you on so much. Then, be sure and go down on her (so you're not selfish), then once she's all riled up and you're ready to go again in 10-15 minutes, get back to the fucking.
 
Honestly, I am having trouble finishing at the moment. It is amazing sex and all, but I only blow sometimes. A lot of the time she gets sore and needs a break...but when I finish it's always awesome and she ususally rubs herself to climax afterwards.

Re the question of improving sexual stamina, I guess you need a gf that enjoys getting laid, so that you can practice...
 
1) pace yourself. don't go as hard and fast as you can at the beginning ( i know some girls prefer it rough but in your case it's better being gentle atleast until you get the hang of things... ) and work your way up. just take it slow. women love it when i tease them - for instance only go halfway down your shaft deep-wise for your strokes for a minute or two and then take it out to the point where your head is barely touching her lips and then slide it back in slowly and as deep as you can get it, hold it there for a second and then slowly thrust in and out... really get her to enjoy it before you switch your pace up and start fucking the shit out of her.

2) jack off once (or twice if you wanna be in bed for 30+ minutes) beforehand.

3) edging. this means stopping when you're getting close to cumming. this takes practice... if you learn to time it right you can have many orgasms without cumming - rinse and repeat.

4) wear a rubber. it makes it feel less amazing. and it protects you of course.

Have you asked her how long it usually takes her to cum? If it's under 10 minutes you should be able to pace yourself long enough. I'd work on the art of rubbing her clit while fucking so you can get her to climax sooner and closer to the same time as you. Going off that same principle, have lots and lots of foreplay. Give her a full body massage, make out for ages, eat her out for 10 or 15 minutes. i tend to stray away from fingering during foreplay, i like my women to be craving the feeling of something inside of them prior to me sticking in and i've found that fingering also lowers the anticipation. i love it when i've turned a girl on so much that she's begging me to fuck her.
 
I can honestly say all of this shit is in your head. You can read and read and read about all kinds of techniques and studies, but it is all mental.

I go through phases of not being able to get hard, and it only happens when it's on my mind. The more it happens, the more it is on my mind. Your biggest goal should be to find someone that you're totally comfortable with, and someone that won't judge you when it happens. Maybe even someone that will go the extra mile to make you feel comfortable and keep trying.

I find when you reach that level with someone, when you love someone, those insecure thoughts start to fade and before you know it you won't be able to blow it on a regular basis lol. I've found that sometimes I'll say very early on when my girlfriend and I start to have sex, "I'm not ready to come." to myself, I'll end up lasting longer. When my girlfriend first recognized my fetish, I couldn't even get hard because I was so anxietable, purely from being too excited or nervous about it or something. Anxiety, especially sexual anxiety, is a very strange thing. It all comes down to being comfortable. Find the right person.
 
neversickanymore said:
I have no idea about this.. I actually want to come quicker.. we all have our issues..
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Yeah I'm the same way. Having used H for so long and now methadone, most of the time it takes me forever to come, if I even do at all. I've actually had to fake it many times with my girlfriend so she wouldn't be self conscious. So the times where I come quickly I'm ecstatic. Hah.
 
Lost Ego said:
1) like my women to be craving the feeling of something inside of them peahrior to me sticking in and i've found that fingering also lowers the anticipation. i love it when i've turned a girl on so much that she's begging me to fuck her.
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Fingering with just one finger can heighten the anticipation, though. My FWB will be touching me, we'll be making out, ect, and he'll put ONE finger inside me. Which feels good but isn't nearly enough, and i'll say "more" and push against his hand but he won't do it, he sticks with one and basically drives me crazy, so by the time he finally pushes his cock inside me it feels amazing. Teasing is good. :)
 
BlueSaffron said:
Fingering with just one finger can heighten the anticipation, though. My FWB will be touching me, we'll be making out, ect, and he'll put ONE finger inside me. Which feels good but isn't nearly enough, and i'll say "more" and push against his hand but he won't do it, he sticks with one and basically drives me crazy, so by the time he finally pushes his cock inside me it feels amazing. Teasing is good. :)
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horniest post ever- i have to say reading this it sounds like a move i'm gonna have to steal
 
Maca,, Red Ginseng
or the best of them all get a scipt for periactin, just take it 45 mins before or youll be too sedated
 
In my personal opinion the best way for me to exclude the possibility to cum at all - take to much stimulants. Normally my problem isnt cumming to fast but cumming at all, not that this has much impact on the sex itself as I have intense pleasure in the sex act. However - I can balance the whole thing easily with a-pvp, coke or whatifs. However, to much - and I'm impaired and only time can fix it.

Jerking of before the date would destroy the pleasure of sex later on, however it will make my head think straight and not think with the dick. If the problem is cumming to fast - incorporate your hands and face more and explain that because you come easily you need to exploit all other possible sexual acts before this ojne is used as you might unload quicker than wished for. I am pretty sure she can enjoy you and you her without penetration or blowjobs going all the time - in the end you win anyway is the way I see it :D
 
Beachcat said:
I say, from a woman's perspective, don't take any drugs or alcohol to last longer.

Do your thing and if you happen to come early say to her, "damn, you turned me on so much I couldn't help myself, but don't worry, round two is coming up."

Then, while you give yourself a chance to recharge, concentrate on her and her pleasure. Make out with her. Go down on her. Etc.

To be honest, I would 100% rather this scenario than one where the guy is pounding away forever taking a long time to climax. Especially if it is a first time that makes me think something is wrong with me. That scenario could happen if you mix substances in there...you never know how your body reacts.

I tend to take it as a compliment if a guy comes quickly, but it is essential to make sure she gets off as well, and also to go for it again to show that you have some stamina.
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This person said exactly what I was finna type! This is a perfect answer. And you know what, when I am with a dude and he nuts hella early, I don't get mad or think of him as less of a man.. I do realize that if he isn't having reg sex (which Id prefer if we are just starting out, I don't want him to be fucking everyone and their mom anyway,) that he may nut quick. It's okkkkkkk. Men, y'all over think stuff. Trust me. No need to be embarrassed.

Now, if you pop off real fast then just say "oh that was amazing" then roll over and fall asleep, that might be a diff story.
 
This is an easy one. First, you need a patient woman who loves you and can talk about sex with you--because you may need time to develop your capacity to "last." Second, do not come when you have intercourse. Only come once a week, perhaps, or twice a month. After awhile, you will be able to last and last. Your woman may have a problem with this as I did at first when one of my lovers did this very thing. I wanted him to come. It showed how exciting I was. Then he discussed with me his technique for pleasing a woman, so I wasn't disappointed that he didn't come each time. He was simply the most fantastic man in bed. We made love every day 2-3 times a day, and I had so many orgasms . . . ! I loved it. I waited for him to call. I was constantly tingling and thinking of him and could hardly wait to take off my clothes for him to entice him to bed.
 
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