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I'm stuck in a rut?

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DaylightDreamer

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Hey guys,

I just need to get this out as its really bothering me.
It may not be as serious as other stories on the dark side, but it's still getting me down.
At the moment I am in Summer holidays waiting for results to see if I have gotten into university.

However, lately I feel all my time has been devoted to passing time away and I have gotten very depressed about this. I feel as if my life is going nowhere and I am unable to muster the motivation to accomplish anything positive. It seems I am stuck in a period of existential angst. Usually I consider myself an outgoing and social person but recently I have just been sitting around at home bored, watching films, browsing the internet etc. Furthermore, I've noticed all of the sudden when I do go out I feel extremely awkward in social situations and a mental barrier in my mind stops me from getting on with people as well as I usually do and/or meeting new people.

Last week I managed to motivate myself to stop taking drugs which I feel has made me feel a lot better about myself, but I still am noticing that I still have a very low self esteem and still cannot motivate myself to go out and do things.

I've been telling myself that everything will change once I go to university, but I'm still really worried that I will remain socially awkward and will not make new friends at university as well as a persisting un-motivational attitude which would obviously affect ability to do well in school.

Can anyone provide suggestions on how one can turn their life around in a positive way and create the willingness to act freely for the self rather than continue in my drab and lifeless ways?

Thanks for reading this :)
 
DD,

Do you exercise? I know it sounds simple, but even a walk will help. As you get older those "ruts" become deeper and we call them "routine" and you have a harder time breaking out of them. so train yourself now to "change" what you don’t like. Force yourself to take small steps to change things.

If you have recently stopped taking drugs that may account for some of the awkwardness you mentioned. It can take time to feel "normal" again.

Life to me is like a tornado, you are either spiraling up or spiraling down. You need to find something to jump start some positive feelings/direction.

and don't worry about feeling weird at university...everyone else is feeling the same way. Just be you and I bet like minded friends will find you and you them. Don't put to much worry on yourself...know that this will all pass and soon you will look back and wonder why you felt this way. It's a journey ...enjoy!
 
University life can be great. For me, it provided a goal to work toward and took up the majority of my time so I didn't have to worry about feeling bored.

It sounds like you're just going through a normal life phase. It's good to question where we are in our life and where we are headed. Often even if you don't try to meet people you will make some friends just from group assignments and that sort of thing. Have fun :)
 
Thanks guys, I'm already starting to feel slightly better.
Booked some holidays to Europe, and have decided to attempt to take up DJing which I've been wanting to do forever.
I am buying decks soon and have come across a large amount of records.

I went to the gym a few times a week before, but I have started going daily recently.
I am so excited for university. Been reading up about freshers week as well which looks like it will be so much fun.

Thanks guys, I think I was just in a bad place, which I'm dragging myself out of.
 
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