Cane2theLeft
Bluelight Crew
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If you want to address me personally, please PM or IM me - no need to derail the thread (FTR I'm guilty of doing this as well, I'm not saying it's just you).
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Dialectical Behavioral Therapy. It's the only treatment for BPD that's shown a modicum of empirical success.
Go get it. Period. End of story. Fly halfway around the world if you have to.
I'm going to be straight with you. No games, no hugs, no self-helpy crap. Pay attention . . . and get BETTER.
BPD behaviors are designed to short-circuit personal relationships. That's the reality. The emotional dysregulation, splitting, attention seeking/chaos-drama cycles, lack of consistent interpersonal skills . . . left untreated, these GUARANTEE that every one of your interpersonal relationships ends in distater.
Every. Single.Time.
DBT teaches emotional regulation and changing of belief systems upon which maladaptive behaviors are based. It teaches you that what you are feeling in the moment might not actually be reality. It teaches you that people are usually NOT all bad or all good. It teaches you to recognize the primitive defense mechanisms of BPD when they OCCUR - not after the fact.
You have an attachment disorder. This disorder is rooted in an all-consumming fear of abandonment. Not just an abandonment 'issue'; a full-fledged, kung-fu grip, death-dealing abandonment NIGHTMARE. You must go deal with this. If you don't, you will re-enact this abandonment cycle in every one of your relationships. You will literally go through life ensuring that your greatest fear - ABANDONMENT - comes true.
BPD is a cruel irony: fear of abandonment causes the Borderline to behave in specific ways that ENSURE abandonment. It's like having a terrifying fear of clowns, and going to the circus every day. Borderlines go through life making their worst fears come true, over and over and over and over and over again.
You can make this STOP. You can END IT . . . if you go get the right treatment. You can have a good life, with friends, co-workers, family, relationships. You really CAN feel good. IF . . . you go face that abyss inside yourself and get the skills required to get along in this world.
BPD's are often unusually talented people. With the right treatment, they can go far in life. They can even help other BPD sufferers. Imagine that . . .
And don't bother with traditional 'talk-therapy.' It's useless for BPD, and often makes it worse. BPD's can and often do run circles around therapists who are not trained specifically to deal with Borderline Personality Disorder. And as far as medication; BPD is not organic in nature, it's a characterlogical disorder. At best, all medication does is treat the co-morbid symptoms of BPD, such as anxiety disorder and dysphoria. Medication for BPD's is like putting a bandaid on a shotgun wound. Get real, and get the help you need.
Go get it. Period. End of story. Fly halfway around the world if you have to.
I'm going to be straight with you. No games, no hugs, no self-helpy crap. Pay attention . . . and get BETTER.
BPD behaviors are designed to short-circuit personal relationships. That's the reality. The emotional dysregulation, splitting, attention seeking/chaos-drama cycles, lack of consistent interpersonal skills . . . left untreated, these GUARANTEE that every one of your interpersonal relationships ends in distater.
Every. Single.Time.
DBT teaches emotional regulation and changing of belief systems upon which maladaptive behaviors are based. It teaches you that what you are feeling in the moment might not actually be reality. It teaches you that people are usually NOT all bad or all good. It teaches you to recognize the primitive defense mechanisms of BPD when they OCCUR - not after the fact.
You have an attachment disorder. This disorder is rooted in an all-consumming fear of abandonment. Not just an abandonment 'issue'; a full-fledged, kung-fu grip, death-dealing abandonment NIGHTMARE. You must go deal with this. If you don't, you will re-enact this abandonment cycle in every one of your relationships. You will literally go through life ensuring that your greatest fear - ABANDONMENT - comes true.
BPD is a cruel irony: fear of abandonment causes the Borderline to behave in specific ways that ENSURE abandonment. It's like having a terrifying fear of clowns, and going to the circus every day. Borderlines go through life making their worst fears come true, over and over and over and over and over again.
You can make this STOP. You can END IT . . . if you go get the right treatment. You can have a good life, with friends, co-workers, family, relationships. You really CAN feel good. IF . . . you go face that abyss inside yourself and get the skills required to get along in this world.
BPD's are often unusually talented people. With the right treatment, they can go far in life. They can even help other BPD sufferers. Imagine that . . .
And don't bother with traditional 'talk-therapy.' It's useless for BPD, and often makes it worse. BPD's can and often do run circles around therapists who are not trained specifically to deal with Borderline Personality Disorder. And as far as medication; BPD is not organic in nature, it's a characterlogical disorder. At best, all medication does is treat the co-morbid symptoms of BPD, such as anxiety disorder and dysphoria. Medication for BPD's is like putting a bandaid on a shotgun wound. Get real, and get the help you need.
GenericMind
Bluelighter
There are plenty of people that are just as, and more, fucked up as you are. It shouldn't prevent you from being in a relationship if you don't want it to.