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I Need Serious Advice from Men & women please!!!!!!!!!

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hurting101

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So I dated this guy for 10 years we moved to a new city to be closer to my family and he started acting different when I realized he was talking to someone new so he left me for A much younger girl they dated for 3 months until she got pregnant and she had an abortion and they broke up so what does he do he starts making excuses to contact me about him wanting his computer back which was bullshit because I did meet with him and we went to dinner and had drinks next thing you know we had sex and he kept telling me how much he missed me and how he loves me and this girl he was with was crazy and it was never a relationship blah blah blah because of so much history we had we continued to date and had sex for a few months next thing you know all of sudden I didn't hear from him for a couple weeks which was odd so I go on his Facebook and see a weird post he wrote that day about breaking him down and how he is watching her which had me thinking he isn't talking about me so I decided to text him and he tells me he wishes he can say different but he is dating the same young girl again with no titles at the moment! I pretty much felt a knife cutting my heart to hear those exact words! He says i wish you the best at the end of the day. really your gonna do me like this? Yes I know i shouldn't have sex with him but it felt so right and now I'm left again heartbroken. I m trying to move on but its hard because it was working before until he came back to my life again. I keep telling myself I can't let him in again if he tries. But all my friends say if he did it once he will do it again because he knows how much your hurt. What do y'all think?!
 
Sounds like he is either seriously confused or playing you. Even if it is the first one he is not handling the situation appropriately and to me that is a major sign of immaturity. This seems to put you two in differing maturing paths in life which is inevitably going to lead to a break up or a fucking broken ass relationship.
 
Don't let your fear of the unknown future drive you back to a damaging relationship. Every time he does this it'll chip away at you.

You know what to do.
 
He's using you / stringing you along / whatever.

Delete him from your phone, facebook, life, everything..
 
your so right! its too damaging! and he will do it again huh?! I do know what to do ! thank you
 
@ Rickolasnice he is i helped him financially and am always there for him and he knows it! i have to stop! I did delete him. he knows he can come back but you know what not this time. STRENGTH!
 
^ That's the spirit :)

Trust me I've been in a similar situation and what phliper said is true.. it chips away at you every time.. Don't end up the shell of a person you once was (/still are)
 
I know it's hard specially if you really loved the guy but girl you gotta move on.. First of all he is a douche who doesnt respect your feelings because if he did, he wouldnt have the nerve to even contact you after he got that girl pregnant. For me that's very insulting and hurtful. Second of all he seems like he is just having sex with you and when he is bored who disappears.. I seriously want to hulk smash guys like that! Anyhow I hope you think this through because by the end of the day you are who is most important specially your feelings. There are other guys out there who are faithful and would want to be in a loving relationship so don't get stuck with this prick :)
 
hurting101 said:
So if he does contact me reply with nothing right?
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Nope don't do it. These guys have given you great advice, like philiper said, it's going to hurt worse each time he reappears. I know you miss him and it must hurt like hell after ten years, damn! I had a guy do something similar to me last year and like your situation, he was only with her a very short time. Then call me and say she wasn't right for him, can't we be friends again, just come over and hang out with me, etc.

I got sucked back in and realized he was playing games with me. Every so often he would call and always seemed to have a hidden agenda (needed something) The last time he talked me into coming over and I remembered how bad it hurt the time before. That night, something came over me and I never called him back because it would have been the same shit. I changed my phone number so I won't be tempted to talk to him anymore.

You have to remind yourself how devastating it was when he cheated. You deserve to be happy and have a boyfriend who's going to treat you right. Don't settle for anything less. I'm glad you're living closer to your family now plus your friends seem to know this man is wrong for you. It's not easy because I know you really thought this time it would work and probably think about him all the time. You're better off without him.
 
Seems like you know what to do ... ignore him ... get him out of your life completely. He did it once, there is no doubt that he will do it again. You deserve to move on with your life and find someone else!
 
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