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I feel like I'm 17 again!

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Daesr87

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Hey everyone!

About two months ago, I was doing my homework at a cafe and I met a really cool girl. I'm usually super shy, but we ended up talking for about a half hour. We ran into each other a few more times at the same place, but we never talked for more than a couple of minutes. She's way into art, and so am I. As I was about to leave one day, I walked up and told her she could borrow my book, and she seemed really excited.

Later on that day, she emailed me and thanked me for the book, and said she would give it back to me before I leave town in the next 6 months. After telling her to hold onto it as long as she wanted and that it was nice talking to her, she asked if I had one of those social network pages and I gave her my name. She ended up sending me a request the next day, which I accepted. :D

I messaged her and asked how she was doing, and we ended up talking for about 5 minutes. Other than that, we haven't talked or anything. I'm not used to situations like this, so I'm not sure about what to do. If she asked for my name and sent the request, does that mean she wants to get to know me? (I know that sounds dumb.) The last thing I want to do is send another message and seem like a creep. Would it be a bad idea to wait for her to hit me up? I'm only in town for a few more months, but it would still be nice to hang out with someone fun even if it's just as friends. It's pretty hard to come by funny, genuine people these days. This girl has been on my mind everyday and for the first time in about 5 years, I feel young again.
 
Sounds like there could be something there!

Just enjoy having a little chat getting to know each other then ask her out on a date.:)
 
well since she's obviously showing some kind of interest, I don't think you would come off as a creep at all. enjoy :)
 
That's awesome you're feeling the sparks bud! You can definitely hit her up, just give it like a day or two. When you do, keep it really simple & try to open with something humorous and allow her to respond. You kind of have to gauge off of her, and use a push & pull technique. Most women will become un-attracted to you if you come on too strong too quick.

Try not to be too needy. You want to have a cool confidence about you. As she responds to you and shows more interest, you can slowly do the same. Be sure to be a little flirtatious and show interest from the beginning or you may be put into the friend zone.

Definitely listen to her, and ask her interesting questions. If she really attractive, try to complement her on her personality, style, or intelligence if it is genuine. Also, it can be a cool thing to pick on her / tease her (if she is confident). You really don't want to be that overly nice "kiss ass" guy which most women find lame. That's why its okay to challenge her, flirt, tease her, and make your interaction adventurous. If you can give her something other guys can't, she'll come back to you..

If she ends up not being attracted to you, its no big deal. There are plenty of charming & beautiful women out there. You just got to put yourself out there. You already have some good qualities about you that good women will be attracted to.


I'm little BIG Pecker 8)
 
^Little BIG Pecker
I think you've sed it all, you defiantly know how to play the game, Op has got to get somewhere with that advice.
 
one day, I walked up and told her she could borrow my book, and she seemed really excited.
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It wasn't the book ;) have fun man :)

t to know me? (I know that sounds dumb.) The last thing I want to do is send another message and seem like a creep. Would it be a bad idea to wait for her to hit me up? I'm only in town for a few more months, but it would still be nice to hang out with someone fun even if it's just as friends
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Good, write that. Not the friends part. But that youre in town right now, and want to so some stuff with someone. No big deal right? You don't need to hide your interest, she's probably in to you too. you have to write her though (because of social conventions)
 
Thanks everyone! I really appreciate it! I plan on sending this tomorrow or Tuesday! :)

You seem like a really fun, genuine person. Even though we only talked a few times, it was always cool. I'm leaving in November for at least a year, so if you ever want to hang out at (the place we met) or anywhere else, hit me up.

I almost said: Even if we just hung out as friends, I think it would be really fun.

I appreciate everyone's input for real! Thanks everyone!
 
How about: "Hi I was thinking if you want to do some stuff one of the days."

With me, offcourse ;) (could be sent right after first)

Don't know about the last bit, it really depends on your relations with her. They are specific. I mean, Idk if you are crazy in love with eachother now. If so, then mail would look different. you know.
Anyway, short and simple

English is not my first language btw, so you may want to edit :)
 
Would you like us to put the condom on as well?? Lol

That seems alrite what you've wrote there. Just remember tho, when trying to chat someone up or make a move you need to do it your way, because acting like or being someone your not can come across weird of fuck things up. Good luck to ya tho!
 
She asked for YOUR information. She likes you. Or at least that initial attraction is there. Keep on writing her and MEET UP WITH HER!!!
 
you risk losing something by not acting

if you act and it doesn't work you tried which is better than not trying.

just do it!!!!!!!!
 
I would. Women and wine go great together. Then just let nature do the rest
 
How old are you? and have you asked her out yet? GOOD LUCK MAN.

it is better to ask her in person, but if you can't, then online is all good. still, it is much better to set a date, NOT 'do you want to hang-out sometime' she can say yes but then nothing will happen. you have to put a date


Definitely not weird if you ask her out, she seems very interested in you.

Ask her out at a OFFICIAL TIME and place, a much better way to do this - i use this when i get a girl's number, and it is very easy to tell if she is keen or not

"there's a cool bar XXXX in the city, we can grab a drink. Are you free Thursday evening at 8? "


set a time and place as above, you'll get a true answer. gl my friend.

when you go out, don't stress, just be yourself. it's not all on you, she has to put effort into conversation, it takes two ppl effort to 'mingle'. let it flow and if things go well on the date, use 'a reason' to go back to your place or her place together.
 
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Pop some addies together and live happily. But KNOW YOUR DOSE! kNOW YOUR BODY!
*Writer of this does not take adderral*
 
bluelighte said:
Pop some addies together and live happily. But KNOW YOUR DOSE! kNOW YOUR BODY!
*Writer of this does not take adderral*
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I wouldn't suggest this for the same reason someone else mentioned not getting her drunk. No need to add drugs to the mix as it will just make things more confusing, imo. Especially so with regard to a stimulant. I'm a nervous person to begin with so if I took a stimulant before asking a girl out or going on a date with a girl, I'd be freaking out, lol. I'd look like a stereotypical nervous person in a film; sweating, looking around constantly, fidgeting, constant narration coming from my mind about how I'm about to fuck things up haha.

Anyways, I wouldn't suggest adding drugs at first since you don't want to make things harder on yourself. Maybe I would suggest a small dose of a benzo if you have anxiety like I do and getting a drink or two at a bar would be fine as well. I just don't think it's best to try to get very intoxicated on a first date.
 
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