TDS How to Keep Going With the "Fuck Off" Mentality

[oreocub]

For the last two years I've seen all types of horrible people acting on others. For the most part I'm an above average person with decent social norm characteristics so I typically don't find myself a target of say daily insults, remarks or judging so to speak.
However when I'm confronted with horrible people who I just know hate me for whatever reason, I push them away and just give off a "fuck off" aura by not talking to them or just saying nothing to them.
This is a double edge sword and leads to a lot of problems, especially when you want to meet someone who is associated with the person you don't like.
Is the passive-aggressive "fuck-off" mentality a bad way to push away bad influences? I try to be nice to everyone I meet, but if they treat certain people due to their disabilities or just annoying characteristics I'll sometimes hint at their own faults if I talk to them.
Is this bad? Does this lead to a lower opportunity for friendships? Or are most of these people not just worth my time?

The fuck off mentality always leads up to me in the end and I hate myself sometimes the way I treat people, and causes anxiety down the road, no matter how effective it has been for me to push away judgmental people I typically don't like. But I don't like judging people because there is always two sides of the story and I don't know what they're going through or have experienced in life.

 

[lilmikeeis]

I have the same thing heres my 2cents. I have the fuckoff mentality too but i also have a look that says talk to me youll get your ass handed to you. I say keep that mentality it lets people know that you are more of a serous person. Not someone they wanna get beef with. But get on your good side. But it also scares people away. Heres how i deal with mine. I just smile and act like all happy, more of like a nerd. But when the time comes and you have that mentallity people will look at you diffrently like they will appricate you more. idk if any of that made sense

 

[CfZrx]

My first thought was where is oreocub meeting all these people? I guess maybe you go to AA? I dont think passive aggressive is better than assertive style, but then some people aren:t worth the time it takes for an assertive comment.

 

[lilmikeeis]

My first thought was where is oreocub meeting all these people? I guess maybe you go to AA? I dont think passive aggressive is better than assertive style, but then some people aren:t worth the time it takes for an assertive comment.

If you talking to me i dont go nowhere.

 

[oreocub]

I don't go to AA. I typically meet a lot of new people on a weekly basis.

 

[T. Calderone]

I don't think it's wrong for you to stand up for people who can't do it for themselves. And no, it shouldn't take away your chances for future friendships. You want quality friends, not judgmental jerk friends. Even if you are unable to verbalize to them how their behavior bothers you, try to keep these negative people at arm's length the best you can. Don't let mean people drag you down to their level!

In my own experience, people who act badly like that have their own issues. Part of you wants to tell them off but on the other side, you know no good will come of it. That's why they pick on others- because they can get away with it knowing that they won't be called out. Maybe one day, one of them will come to you for advice or just to vent. That's when your empathetic skills can really help them.