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how to get through the night?

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dull

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ok heres the story....theres a gig coming up that i really want to go to and ive never been to a show in my life sober. how do you cope going to shows sober after years of drug use? i never had a problem with alcohol only when i was a little tacker. i see no harm in having 2 or 3 or 4 drinks as i havent really drank for years and i wont relapse because i hate the next day...is 4 drinks allowed or is that against the rules lol??

Also im on invega and i plan on gettitng with my girlfriend later on that night lol .....is there ANYTHING that will help my erection? please please help me
thankyou
 
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I suggest you ask your question about ED in SLR, you'd probably get some useful feedback there. Alcohol use in particular, and substance use generally, is known to promote difficulties maintaining erection, so drinking before sex probably won't help the cause.

Hopefully you can get some specific advice about how to better prepare yourself for your shows. All that comes to my mind is the danger of how having one or two drinks can easily lower your inhibitions and turn into having ten or twenty drinks if over drinking has been an issue for you in the past.

Are these any other substances, such as some cannabis, that you can take to chill you out that are safer and have less harmful side effects than ethanol?
 
I don't think there will be too much temptato at a show. I suggest not bringing casj as the venue will accept debit cards where drug dealers wont. That way you can't buy drugs. Someone might offer you a tiny bit free but that's not too hard to turn down.
 
well i guess i have no choice. i can't for certain reasons
 
I dont think i will go. Someone will offer me something & i wont be able to say no...plus ive never been to a show sober so itll be wierd. Shh fuck just once cant hurt its a special occasion then im done finished with it all.
 
If you nervous about the show sober and don't trust yourself then don't go, there will be other ones. If possible slowly reintroduce yourself to shows locally. Maybe start off going to a restaurant with live music as it's only for an hour or so and you can experience it sober. If you're fine with that maybe next time try a local bar or pool hall and stay a little longer. Work your way back up to concerts. I knowlocal venues aren't the same as concerts, but some of the dynamics are similar so if you can create new sober associations to aspects of concerts you will be more comfortable when you donfinally go to your first one sober.

Regarding relations with your girlfriend on ivega - there is an ivega mega-thread in mental health that is very active. I would seek advice in that thread as well. ToothPasteDog is right, alcohol may make the issue worse.
 
Ive decided to get completely out of my mind because i figured out my issues had nothing at all to do with drugs
 
I find I can fuck all night on opiates. xanax on the other hand I have to be very attracted to the woman or I can't get hard.
 
How/why are these monitoring you? Like drug testing monitoring, parent/family, employers or treatment staff? I am sorry to hear you're having to put up with that, shit drives me insane.

What about it is giving you a particularly hard time?
 
Why are these monitoring me? These what? So you had it too?
 
They, not these. Sorry for any confusion, my social skills are not quite yet up to par. Twas a typo, nothing more. Nothing less. I'm also a strange mother fucker, it is just that I embrace my eccentricities as skillfully as I can. I'm learning how to live a healthy life, if slowly. It is a lot of fun actually - I'm enjoying the process I mean :)
 
If you're talking about court/work/frwinds and family monitoring you it just takes time. You have to regain their trust. With respect to work and court you may have to ask what their policies are as those terms are predefined and regulated. If those listed above aren't the entities monitoring you who is?
 
Based on your other threads/posts you sound extremely paranoid op. Get some help.
 
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If you're talking about court/work/frwinds and family monitoring you it just takes time. You have to regain their trust. With respect to work and court you may have to ask what their policies are as those terms are predefined and regulated. If those listed above aren't the entities monitoring you who is?
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Casre too elaborate
 
drop the two RED viagra pills. shit generic blues should be missed. Avoid the alcohol, no good.
 
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