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how to get over your ex sleeping with someone

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musman69

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Just curious how to get over my ex sleeping with someone while we were broken up? I understand we weren't together, but it's still hard realizing she was sleeping with someone.

We have recently gotten back together and have been dating for 2 months now. It's just hard for me to get past. I'm the type of person that has to know everything. So I find out more than I should of ever know and now it's killing me. One thing that drives me crazy is the photos she sent him in such a short time. It took me way longer to get those.

All that should matter though is that I'm with her
 
Keep in mind that you're back together, and that it happened when you were both not in a relationship with each other.

Focus on your relationship with each other, ignore the past, and don't ask for the details like you did. Good luck.
 
It's well known that woman can deal with that sort of thing better than men can. I would move on. Start over.
 
Its pretty much visceral that you react that way. I know I would. While my coping advice may not work for you, I would simply say "She's slept with others guys before, too. Why should most recently matter?" There is no difference in the chronology thats intrinsic to your situation. She wasnt with you, and you already hit the nail on the head: She's with you and thats all that matters. For relationships sake, get involved with her as a human being at the present, not as the verb's she commits in the past.
 
sometimes people cant accept the reality of their partners past? and thats fine. what one person considers ok, another is mortified by? neither is right or wrong. you just simply have to accept where your feelings are at and be honest with yourself when asking "is this something i can see myself ever getting past? or is it something that is always going to linger with me mentally, further creating issues of trust, being unable to fully express my love for my partner etc?" and if its the latter; perhaps some additional time apart could be of value to you. you cannot "punish" your partner for your feelings, and vice versa. communication goes a long way also in healing. talk to her?

good luck op <3

...kytnism...:|
 
musman69 said:
Just curious how to get over my ex sleeping with someone while we were broken up? I understand we weren't together, but it's still hard realizing she was sleeping with someone.

We have recently gotten back together and have been dating for 2 months now. It's just hard for me to get past. I'm the type of person that has to know everything. So I find out more than I should of ever know and now it's killing me. One thing that drives me crazy is the photos she sent him in such a short time. It took me way longer to get those.

All that should matter though is that I'm with her
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It was rebound sex - she will 'teach you' (even though you were no longer together) buy doing xyz. If you didn't get back together she would have possibly felt like shit for doing it (check this section and you will see).

You can either put it behind you, get it said or your going to let this eat you from the inside which will eventually destroy what you have.

(Its nothing though - you split up, she needed companionship / sex, she got it realized you were better and got back with you).
 
The reason she sent pics to someone else sooner than she sent them to you is maby you brought her out of her shell when you was with her and made her more confident, who knows??

My best advice to you about her fucking someone else while you was on a break is get over it you can't change history just leave it in the past.
 
I guess the hardest thing to get past is some of the kinky stuff she did with him. Especially considering they dated for about a month. He had her hanging from a ceiling. I wish she would of let me do stuff like that
 
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