Me and my gf are over 2.5 years together and the last couple of months i really had enough of her i dont see myself living with her my entire life i like to end our relationship but its complicated cuz we both work at the same place at nights only the two of us and she knows too much about me she knows my scams at work so iguess i cant piss her off or else she will tell my boss and i just feel its so hard to end our relation after so long time any 1 have advice for me?
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How to end a long relationship?
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LilbabiC
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Maybe find a new job and then just be honest with her about your feelings.
Talk to her about your feelings - if you that unhappy in your relationship she may be feeling the same way or will have at least noticed that your not happy. If your honest and open about things then there is less chance of her running to your boss etc.
Don't start dragging up small things that have happened over the past x amount of time but just state that your unhappy with the way things are / have turned out etc (depending on your circumstances).
Good luck
Don't start dragging up small things that have happened over the past x amount of time but just state that your unhappy with the way things are / have turned out etc (depending on your circumstances).
Good luck
AndroidsDreamofBTC
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You might also consider not running scams at your workplace...
the subject of breaking up has been covered extensively in slr. related reading:
Breakup Advice (Do's & Don'ts)
Which is worse- being the dumper or the dumped?
consensus seems to be that you need to be sure of your course of action (i.e. if you plan to break up, you need to be sure that's what you want). once you've decided that you want to break up:
- do it soon
- keep it brief
- make it clear
- don't try to sugar-coat it
generally speaking, there's no way to break up with somebody and not hurt them and you need to understand that going into it. good luck.
alasdair
Breakup Advice (Do's & Don'ts)
Which is worse- being the dumper or the dumped?
consensus seems to be that you need to be sure of your course of action (i.e. if you plan to break up, you need to be sure that's what you want). once you've decided that you want to break up:
- do it soon
- keep it brief
- make it clear
- don't try to sugar-coat it
generally speaking, there's no way to break up with somebody and not hurt them and you need to understand that going into it. good luck.
alasdair
Lysis
Bluelighter
lol exactly.
Find a new job, then break it to her. I generally hate being shady when it comes to relationship stuff, but when it comes down to your work and/or income, sometimes you have to do what you have to do to make sure you don't lose a GF and a home.
rangrz
Bluelighter
Why would I want to?! I'd like to make it as agony inducing as possible.
Tech Kinetics
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Ask her for money, and don't pay her back.
You'll lose her in a heartbeat.
Good luck!
You'll lose her in a heartbeat.
Good luck!
hyroller
Bluelighter
grow a pair and be firm but gentle when you talk to her, to tell her you don't see the relationship lasting because your feelings have changed and life is taking you in different directions. apologise for hurting her feelings but assure her that you felt it was the right thing to do, to let her know where she stands. tell her that because you've fallen out of love with her, breaking up is for the best since she deserves someone to love her equally in return, and as upset/mad/defeated as she reacts be as amicable and empathetic as possible, so you don't make out like a completely insensitive guy (or one lacking in testicular fortitude/any sense of dignity to speak of). just man up and give her the least of what you owe - the truth.
Perpetual Indulgence
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Find another job. Stop scamming.
Break up with her thoughtfully. If you aren't into it, it is not going to get better over time. Only harder.
Find another place to live as I assume you live together. If not, breaking up and leading separate lives is easier.
2.5 years seems like a long time but it is not. Be grateful you are not completely intertwined financially or have children.
Break up with her thoughtfully. If you aren't into it, it is not going to get better over time. Only harder.
Find another place to live as I assume you live together. If not, breaking up and leading separate lives is easier.
2.5 years seems like a long time but it is not. Be grateful you are not completely intertwined financially or have children.