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Just wondering, I noticed it''s common for all the addicts I know to still live at home with their parents or who raised them. I still live with my parents. Now most of the ones I know don't have jobs, go to there doctor once a month do their shit in a week or so then scam or hang around other people with their drug of choice..I think the only thing that has stopped me from doing that is being on Subs, I end up using every month, I added it up in my head I have spent $500 on opiates in the last week and a half or so and then I haven't added up the benzo's, weed, and other stuff. Now if I got a second job or moved up where I worked at my income would be better, but not now, and even being on subs I still blow my money on drugs(mostly Norco's and Roxi 15's now, I really miss when it was Roxi 30's and Morphine 100's=(, can still get the morphine but it's the 60's and the 100's are just way easy to work with to me. Anyway, so who else?
 
I actually was full blown IV addict blk h 3-5 times a day worked two jobs and started college hung out with friends but that's cause I was very lucky I had 3-4 connects so I would never be sick even 3:40 am I would pick up . I live with my parents even not addicted it's not the drugs mainly as it is the economy of our generation for real.

Ask yourself how many 18-28 year olds you know who went to college got a really really good job right away paid off debts live alone successfully and have a perfect life? I know 1 he dropped out of college actually to save the insane debts. 30 years ago it would take 1 year minimum wage to pay off 1 year college now it's 4 years minimum wage for 1 year college and inflation and prices for apartments or housing, everyone needs roommates or become a couple who work together a lot
 
Can't imagine still living with my parents. I mean the drug use is bad enough, why add the parent factor in? Pure mess. I'm very glad to be on my own. Even the time when I lived with my SO was kind of rough because of my "strange hobbies". Kind of glad to be completely on my own again. It's that kind of freedom which has 2 sides to it - firstly it feels good as you don't disturb or come in conflict with anybody, but then there is that part of it which means excess freedom can lead to even worse choices in life...
 
Invisible Helper said:
I actually was full blown IV addict blk h 3-5 times a day worked two jobs and started college hung out with friends but that's cause I was very lucky I had 3-4 connects so I would never be sick even 3:40 am I would pick up . I live with my parents even not addicted it's not the drugs mainly as it is the economy of our generation for real.

Ask yourself how many 18-28 year olds you know who went to college got a really really good job right away paid off debts live alone successfully and have a perfect life? I know 1 he dropped out of college actually to save the insane debts. 30 years ago it would take 1 year minimum wage to pay off 1 year college now it's 4 years minimum wage for 1 year college and inflation and prices for apartments or housing, everyone needs roommates or become a couple who work together a lot
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Sucks for you who live in such countries/states. Where I live university education is free as long as you perform adequately, and if you study well you can even get paid.
 
There's no way I could live the life I live if I were to still be with my parents. I go out at 3, 4 AM just to score sometimes, no way I could or would do that while based out of my folk's home. It's bad enough that I live with someone else in close proximity to me (I live in a house divided into subunits).

My parents are good people though...last time they visited me they brought me a zip of weed they grew. :)
 
Ya, when I was using I was high and clumsy with how I hid my shit(leaving bent spoons in car, q-tips with one end gone laying on the table, nodding out on the couch to have my mom or dad find me...sigh, and my dad knew what I was up to because a couple of times I would wake up and find my bent spoon sitting at the end of the, finding rig. More careful now, but ya...want my own place but do not see that happening without two jobs, like this one girl I work with who has worked for a month straight, and tomorow is her 1st day off in a month.
 
I lived with my parents for a few years after school. It helped me pay off loans faster and I also wasn't mentally stable enough to be on my own for a while tbh (For instance i visited the loony bin in 2011 and 2012 was very difficult as well). I greatly appreciate how generous they were since it helped me a lot financially, however I did lose a chunk of my life during that time since it impacted my ability to be independent in other ways--their house, their rules of course. I'm on my own now and doing just fine juggling work and play.
 
I live at home and go to school. I'm looking for work now. It sucks, but I need their financial support right now... I'm 18 btw.
 
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Belligerent drunk I live in Los Angeles California ... You still didn't answer my question ? What job hypothetically is gonna give you ALONE enough to pay rent 1200$ minimum maybe 1000$ and that's shitty areas apartments and pay school and car and bills in our generation shit is harder and parents expect from what they saw where you could work at Taco Bell and pay rent in a nice apartment complex or pay college easy . I'm saying 18-28 by that time you should develops enough to hang alone idk I just don't see many kids succeeding unless they had parents' help a lot
 
After being on my own since 18, I had to move back in with my mom. I just wasn't able to hold down a job anymore due to going in and out of the psych hospital. But oh man I miss living on my own.. My mom gets pissed at me for wanting a job ha
 
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Belligerent drunk I live in Los Angeles California ... You still didn't answer my question ? What job hypothetically is gonna give you ALONE enough to pay rent 1200$ minimum maybe 1000$ and that's shitty areas apartments and pay school and car and bills in our generation shit is harder and parents expect from what they saw where you could work at Taco Bell and pay rent in a nice apartment complex or pay college easy . I'm saying 18-28 by that time you should develops enough to hang alone idk I just don't see many kids succeeding unless they had parents' help a lot
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It depends on where you live. I live in eastern Europe and here if you study well the scholarship is basically enough to pay rent and most expenses. University education is free unless you're a complete dummy, so there's that, plus the scholarship on top which makes studying pretty much like a job with about minimal wage. It also depends on how you prefer to live - I don't own a car, I don't buy clothes or pretty much anything besides food and drugs and don't go out, so my expenses are fairly low (fun fact: drug budget is at least as big as the rest - bills (I own the place, so no rent), food and other stuff).

Most people I know rely/relied on scholarships or worked a simple job with low pay alongside studying and that has been enough.

I understand though that life in the US is way tougher in this regard, but there are other places in the world other than US, where stuff like this is possible.
 
^it's harder than you'd think to leave a country and gain citizenship rights elsewhere (unless you have direct provable ancestry in a country with good entitlements and progressive citizenship laws)


I live on my own a long distance from where my parents live (same country, opposite coasts). I consider my pretty lucky for people in my age bracket, both in terms of situation and developments in life. I definitely had help getting through college and bad choices during it, but not overly so, my parents always tried to instill some level of independence in me (never had a CC tied to parents, always had to pay living expenses, paid my car insurance, etc..).
 
It's next to impossible to emigrate from USA to another first world country without significant career credentials or experience in a needed field. I've looked up what it would take to move to NZ for example and to gain citizenship it is a pretty long road. If you aren't going to be an immediate help to their economy they don't want you.

I have a friend whose dad is Danish, he was born here in USA and hold dual citizenship thru natural birthright. He went to Denmark because of the scholarly stipends and had his whole education paid for until he got a steady job in Germany. I don't know if he's ever gonna come back because life is so much better for him over there, and he doesn't even speak any of the langauges fluently (danish, german, etc.)

When talking about independence from age 18 onward USA and EU are night and day. If you don't have family help or prodigious smarts its really an uphill battle in the states. Don't get me wrong, I love this country, but the lack of accessible higher education is really lacking.
 
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It depends on where you live. I live in eastern Europe and here
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I have a question. How prominent of a language is English where you live? Would it be possible to live there speaking only English or would a second language need to be learned?
 
Pibolar said:
I have a question. How prominent of a language is English where you live? Would it be possible to live there speaking only English or would a second language need to be learned?
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The newer generation typically speaks pretty good English. I've been all across the Nordic countries (Norway, Sweden, Finland) and I have to say that compared to Western Europe, a lot more people speak English very well or are willing to (no offence to frenchies as I love 'em, but I could barely find anyone who would talk in English with me while in France; same goes for Spain). I live in Estonia, one of the Baltic countries, and while the level is still pretty high here, it's not as good as in aforementioned countries. So I can't really answer your question unequivocally. There are many factors that affect this:

-Here, people aren't really used to speaking English in day-to-day settings. Yes, majority can speak it well enough, but it comes as more of a surprise when you suddenly start using English. We don't have many immigrants here... duh, who would want to come here. Everyone wants to live in the Nordic countries! Which is also why up there people have no problems switching between languages.
-Some people don't speak English. What are you going to do with them? I mean if there's a situation where communication is necessary but is nowhere to be found. Creates unnecessary problems.
-It's easier for you if you can learn the national language. While learning a new language is not easy at all, it makes everything down the path easier. By the way, Estonian is not my mother tongue either, but it still is a lot easier to use that than force everyone around me to use some other language.

Bottomline is, yes it would be possible. Still not as convenient as learning a second language in my opinion. But definitely possible.

Felonious Monk said:
^it's harder than you'd think to leave a country and gain citizenship rights elsewhere (unless you have direct provable ancestry in a country with good entitlements and progressive citizenship laws)


I live on my own a long distance from where my parents live (same country, opposite coasts). I consider my pretty lucky for people in my age bracket, both in terms of situation and developments in life. I definitely had help getting through college and bad choices during it, but not overly so, my parents always tried to instill some level of independence in me (never had a CC tied to parents, always had to pay living expenses, paid my car insurance, etc..).
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I'm sorry if my last sentence was confusing. I didn't mean to suggest that you should leave the US to search for better life elsewhere. I was just responding to Invisible Helper's comment trying to say that what he said doesn't apply to the whole world. You know, the US is not the only country on this planet?

Invisible Helper said:
Ask yourself how many 18-28 year olds you know who went to college got a really really good job right away paid off debts live alone successfully and have a perfect life? I know 1 he dropped out of college actually to save the insane debts. 30 years ago it would take 1 year minimum wage to pay off 1 year college now it's 4 years minimum wage for 1 year college and inflation and prices for apartments or housing, everyone needs roommates or become a couple who work together a lot
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There are a lot of factors in today's society that were simply not there when my parents were younger. In the 70's and 80's it was common for 18 year old's to move out as they could get jobs in manufacture and the cost of living was less. We also have an entire culture of debt in the U.S. which makes us think you should pay for higher education because if you are good enough you will be able to pay off your debt, unlike in some places in Europe university's are free if you prove yourself. I proved myself left and right but Uconn only cares about sports so my financial aid failed and i still owe sally mae 60k and Uconn directly 10k for simply not paying my last semester.

Then once i couldn't go to school in '10 i got addicted to opiates after returning to my hometown. I worked for minimum wage in a grocery store getting told what to do by 18 year old's at 24. Now i work in a failing small business and my g/f and i are starting to get the future planned for because as we all no there is no future planning on heroin.

I am blowing all my money on the things i couldn't due to opiates for the last 5 years but i am slowing that down to pay off the car i bought and try to get out of my parents house. My g/f has finally come out the other end from clinical depression (i think my arrogance, confidence and over all "holier then thou" view of myself has rubbed off a bit) so shes finally starting to realize that she must be my equal if i am so insistent she is so rather then her life being bad because she sucks shes starting to realize it was a bad hand and not just her and bad hands can be re-dealt sometimes :)

But i think people in the U.S need to get this idea of "out at 18" removed and replaced with "God get the kids out of the house by the time they are 30" which is my current goal. I need a different morning view then the one when i was 15, i have till 03/30/17
 
Moved out when i was 18, moved around for a few years, now im 25, destroyed by heroin & living back at home with my folks (who are aware of my problem/trying to help me clean up)..

I have always been able to hold my job, live out of home & be a little druggo for that many years.. But once i got onto H (through 2 dudes who i worked with for 8 years), everything went to the shit, i racked up a lootttttt of debt and i decided to take the plunge back at my Parents house.. I quit my job about a week ago, because i cant walk into that place anymore without going to get a hit off my boss.

Lucky my parents are cool and supportive. Heroin's a pretty big deal to them (duh!) but they have stood by me, and this is probably the only time in my life where i will need to fall back on them for a place to live.
 
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