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How do I Confront my Alpha Male dealer that is shorting me

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Lylawinesnob

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Hey Everyone, So. I had a problem with my meth dealer/friend. My bags were always a fair price and weighed right. Until a couple weeks ago. He changed suppliers and the quality became pretty hit or miss. Then, my bags started weighing light. First time, I called him out on it and he fixed it. Then I dropped my scale and broke it. He and I have always been friends, so he knew i was without a scale. First, my prices went up because of the "new supplier". Now my bags are VERY light, I can tell even without a scale.


I I have really tried to believe that he wasn't messing with the weight, and upping the price. But, he is acting just like my last dealer did when his bags started feeling light (right before he stole 270$ ). He complains about people never paying on time, and I am a steady client that pays on delivery, never wanting free shit cuz we were friends. I was Always buying at least a gram a week, sometimes more, although with the quality dip, price increase, and short bags I haven't been buying except in emergencies.

My new scale came in and I have a delivery from him arranged for tomorrow. I want to weigh it and then confront him with solid evidence but I do not want to piss him off. My question is, how do I confront him without bruising his ego and losing my contact? My other contact is MIA since his his hair follicle test, and I do my best to make sure NO ONE knows that I do this stuff. He knows he has me because I don't want to meet other dealers and I refuse to drive dirty. He delivers. But He gets so defensive if I tell him anything, even simple things like, you shouldn't drive you are falling asleep at the wheel. So what do I do? How do I go about this?
 
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PriestTheyCalledHim said:
Find a different dealer. Don't confront this person, or go to dangerous places. Stay safe.
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Well, I have been robbed flat out by the last 3 dudes. Im starting to think its because I am a woman and they know Im not going to fight them or be ridiculous. But I am afraid to put my face out there anymore. I don't want to be known, and I have been in more places than I want to.
 
quit meth?

has that really not come into it? robbed by loads of people trying to take the piss. its when its a need rather than an option/choice that you are stuck with the worst behaviour from others and you have to accept it. or you can regain some power and control for yourself and cut the need part out.

not easy but better than having rows in this type of environment
 
pofacedhoe said:
quit meth?

has that really not come into it? robbed by loads of people trying to take the piss. its when its a need rather than an option/choice that you are stuck with the worst behaviour from others and you have to accept it. or you can regain some power and control for yourself and cut the need part out.

not easy but better than having rows in this type of environment
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Well, I already am not smoking bc of all this. And I suppose that would make sense, but I am looking for a way to confront an alpha male. This is not just about meth. This happens to me all the time. The auto mechanics, at work, in my personal life. Anywhere that a man asserts his dominance and knows he has me. I can't just leave the auto shop without my car, or leave my job, and I did leave my boyfriend, but then he wrecked my car. How do I get through to this kind of guy that I am a person who deserves respect without sinking to their level?
 
Use your intelligence. Alpha males aren't that hard to deal with. And most of the time what you perceive as an alpha is most likely just a beta tryna talk the talk but wouldn't be able to walk the walk. Every individual is different so you need to figure out what angle works on each person.
 
dope, right?

it's just what shitty middleman do - they short you a bit. I would try to find the dealer one step above him?

what does being an Alpha male have anything to do with that? you said he's sensitive - not the trait of a fellow Alpha iirc
 
axl blaze said:
dope, right?

it's just what shitty middleman do - they short you a bit. I would try to find the dealer one step above him?

what does being an Alpha male have anything to do with that? you said he's sensitive - not the trait of a fellow Alpha iirc
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Maybe sensitive is the wrong word... He acts like an asshole to me when I point out things that should be obvious. It's like he knows that I will try to find a resolution for his bad behavior by improving mine. And I am sick of it. It's like he always has to assert his dominance in EVERYTHING. It's annoying. He just started this, and when I told him I dropped my scale that when shit really started weighing light. He knows that I don't have any proof
 
Pharcyde said:
the dope game aint for everybody man

d. quit
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Well, I don't understand why he isn't at least using good business sense. From a purely economic standpoint he has lost a client that always pays, and buys a good amount. In the dope game, clients that pay are the only ones that matter. He tells me that everyone reneged and no one paid him blah blah blah. He hands shit out for free, and he is cutting off his legs by shorting the paying clients. You are Right tho. The dope game ain't for everyone. He isn't keeping his shit straight. He's gonna lose pretty quick.
 
Pharcyde said:
either
a. tell him to his face
b. run that fuck and put a gun in his face
c. find a new dealer
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I vote for A. lol
Thank you I don't know why I have been letting him do this to me. I don't need him, I don't even HAVE to pay for this shit. I have let this gone on by acting like a little girl. IM a Grown ass Woman. This is over. I'll let you all know how it goes.
 
Lylawinesnob said:
Maybe sensitive is the wrong word... He acts like an asshole to me when I point out things that should be obvious. It's like he knows that I will try to find a resolution for his bad behavior by improving mine. And I am sick of it. It's like he always has to assert his dominance in EVERYTHING. It's annoying. He just started this, and when I told him I dropped my scale that when shit really started weighing light. He knows that I don't have any proof
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man, dealers always assert their dominance. trust me. as an Alpha Male I have to bite my tongue on the daily in the drug game. nothing more disgusting then having some methed out, cracked out, trailer park piece of trash yell at me with vigor because I called him in 40 mins when I was supposed to call in 45 mins

it's just something that you have to get used to. I know it sucks, trust me

can you find another dealer or are you stuck with this one? and you're a lot like me, man. I buy big quantities and expect it to weigh right and ever since my homie went to prison it's like even that much is too much to expect??
 
Lylawinesnob said:
I vote for A. lol
Thank you I don't know why I have been letting him do this to me. I don't need him, I don't even HAVE to pay for this shit. I have let this gone on by acting like a little girl. IM a Grown ass Woman. This is over. I'll let you all know how it goes.
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A gram a week is not that much. An ounce or two a week makes a damn good customer.
 
axl blaze said:
fuck yeah, lady. stand up to his shit. be loud, fuck him, throw furniture!!
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You could go that route, and it would be tempting to do so. However, there's also the issue that this guy is probably crazy as hell given that he's all strung out on meth and all. God only knows what he'd do if somebody confronted him. What pofacedho said actually sounds better, just quit the stuff at least for the time being...... not judging anyone's DOC but it's a drug with a high addiction potential and this could be a prime opportunity to either quit permanently if she chooses or at least take a break to assure that she isn't getting hooked.
 
It doesnt matter if hes an "alpha male". Douchebag, sleaze bag, alpha male, fairy. My suggestion is that you first have to realize there is no trust here. Youre going into this expecting a relationship, common sense, him being just and fair, respect. You wont find it, nor will you be able to reason with him. He might say "oh sorry, itll be good next time" and two times down the line, it will be light again.
Im not being pessimistic but out of, I dunno, 50 dealers ive met I could say I only trusted one, maybe two, to a point. Ive met the nicest, most sweet family men, who spoke so lovingly about their kids but were really just huge pieces of sh+t who tried to sc+w me over all the time and many were, oh so offended, if I said something. You just learn to only trust your gut and your scale. Or tell them to bring their scale with them. Dont think cause youre a good customer that you have some "credit" or that youre special. Even if you do, they forget that after one even if only slightly negative experience with you (like you saying theyre light). Theyll hold it against you even though they are scr+wing you over.

So Id say get a scale or make him bring it with him each time, its the only way really. Theyre cheap as hell, a used one is what 10 bucks? And dont let him give you any speeches about not trusting him or such BS. Meanwhile, trying locating a new dealer.

And youre saying in life you feel like its also like this. You just dont let it happen. But you also need to realize there is not such thing as absolute control in life. Mechanics scr+w everyone at some point in their life. Best you can do is to research the best one, this internet era is perfect for that, always demand a log to be kept, know everything that will be done in advance and for how much and NEVER let them repair anything that they "found" is wrong with the car and they didnt tell you in advance without checking with you first. AFter that, if you dont feel you can trust em take it somewhere else to get checked, if its really broke and check the prices on the net.

Regarding work and personal life, I dunno what you mean exactly, but in general id say there is no reason to let an "alpha" person to make you feel bad in any way. They cannot force you into anything and if you feel marginalized because theyre usually loud and obnoxious, you should realize that 99% of them are insecure pr+cks with zero self awareness and blinding ego. You dont want them to be your friend nor you want to be friends with any of their friends. Choose balanced people for friends.
 
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Rule #1. : there are no friends in the drug game. Stop buyung frim him and hopefully he noticrs the loss in business and straightens up. If he knows your his only dealer, hell do w.e he wants. Have some pride and put down the drugs vs keep getting ripped off.
 
axl blaze said:
man, dealers always assert their dominance. trust me. as an Alpha Male I have to bite my tongue on the daily in the drug game. nothing more disgusting then having some methed out, cracked out, trailer park piece of trash yell at me with vigor because I called him in 40 mins when I was supposed to call in 45 mins

it's just something that you have to get used to. I know it sucks, trust me

can you find another dealer or are you stuck with this one? and you're a lot like me, man. I buy big quantities and expect it to weigh right and ever since my homie went to prison it's like even that much is too much to expect??
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I found a new dealer, he is wonderful. We are both super conscientious, weighing everything several times just to be sure. Love my new scale, super bad ass. I lucked out, my new dealer is the douchnozzle dealers supplier. The confrontation went fine, he is out a customer, and I am in with his supplier, so my shit is pure.
 
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