• S E X
    L O V E +
    R E L A T I O N S H I P S


    ❤️ Welcome Guest! ❤️


    Posting Guidelines Bluelight Rules
  • SLR Moderators: Senior Staff

Have you ever cheated on someone or been the other person who someone's cheating wit?

D

DrunkardsDream

Ex-Bluelighter
Joined
Sep 28, 2008
Messages
684
Have you ever cheated on someone who you were in a relationship with?

Or have you ever been single and knowingly been with someone who was in a relationship but cheating on their partner?

If so what were your reasons for cheating, or for being the other man/woman on the side?

I never have cheated on anyone who I was in a relationship with but I've had friends of mine some who I dated in the past want to cheat on their partners with me, in some cases I was tempted but I didn't do it but if the one guy seduced me I might go for it.

Maybe I'd feel bad afterward but maybe I wouldn't since his partner sounds like a total dick to me since he can get controlling/manipulating of my friend and calls him a "whore" just because my friend had sex with other men before he got with his current male partner (my response 8) my friend's partner was with other people but somehow this is OK or excusable while it's not OK for my friend to have had a life or sex life at all?), and they haven't had sex in a very long time.

I would not expect my friend to leave his partner for me or anything like that, and I would worry about getting hurt since this friend and I did date when I was younger and I did have feelings for him then.
 
Last edited:
Never cheated on anyone, but been the other guy with a married woman (luckily the next guy broke the marriage up, not me), and walked in on a girl cheating on me.

I consider the latter to be karmic revenge for the former.
 
I've never cheated on anyone. I've been cheated on a few times though, and these situations have left me feeling like I'm not good enough for most people I like. It's left me very insecure about myself too.

Cheating is not cool. If you want to fool around with somebody new, end the relationship before doing so because all it does it hurt the other person and ruin things for the two of you. Not to mention, if somebody you like cheats on their bf/gf for you, how could you trust them after that? If they were willing to cheat on their partner for you, what makes you think their not willing to do it again?
 
My girlfriend of 2 year cheated on me when I was 19. I didn't really give a fuck, tbh it kinda turned me on. When I found out she was cheating, I just started fucking other girls, to try to inspire some pain in her eyes.
 
I've never cheated on or with anyone. I have been cheated on once. It wasn't the most traumatic experience, but we hadn't been dating long and I wasn't terribly attached to her. It happened while I was out of town for a week on a ski trip that had been planned before we ever met and she called me like the second day I was out there to tell me and apologize. I was kind of dick about it. Told her to get an STD screening done and we would talk about it when I got back but that I wasn't going to deal with it while I was on vacation. I was fine for the rest of the trip and went home thinking I was over it, but when I went to see her I could hardly bring myself to touch her anymore. She was disgusting to me.

Anyway, all that is long forgiven, and I moved on from that experience fairly easily. What sucks a lot more is seeing a relationship that you care about end and your ex moving on with someone else. I have been on both sides of it a couple times, and I know the pain that I caused intimately, but I still don't regret it and don't think I did anything wrong in either case. When relationships end people move on, but it sucks when you don't want things to happen like that. Maybe it is just an urge to control what can't be.

Anyway, the right thing to do is to let them break up on their own. If my experience holds true it will probably hurt his ex a lot more if you let him fuck it up on his own and see your friend really moving on with you rather than just hooking up. He can't blame you or your friend then, only himself. Somehow it is still the ethical thing to do. Patience pays off here.
 
Id never cheat on a woman i was going out with. If i ever felt the need to cheat chances are there would be something really wrong with the relationship to start with so better to end it rather then go running behind everyones back and lying about it.

Now if some woman wanted to shag me how is it my fault that she has a b/f? :\
 
I've never been in a relationship, so I've never been cheated on. I've never been "the other woman." Although, I do get a lot of offers to be someone's piece on the side. I adamantly refuse, since I wouldn't want it done to me. Bottom line: if you don't have the balls/ovaries to end a relationship, you shouldn't be in one.
 
Ugh... I really hate talking about this, but I've been on both sides. I am embarrassed and ashamed to admit it. I believe being cheated on was my karma, although I don't believe in karma. lol But, I think I deserved it, and he was a total piece of trash for what he did, but I was too.

I have a very bad habit of being mean and doing whatever the fuck I want to do when I know the relationship isn't going to work, and this was one of those times. It's a bad habit, I know, but I start to resent the guy and get angry for all the faults I see in him and can't deal with it anymore. In my instance, it was someone who thought he controlled me and wasn't a mooch, but he thought I should be someone I wasn't and make money for the household while he spent it, and basically had the attitude that I would never leave, because I'd fail in life if I left. He was a douche in some ways, but a nice guy in others, if that makes any sense.

So, basically, I do what I always do and had to get away from him. When I can't stand the relationship with a guy who really hasn't done anything specifically wrong, I have to get away, because I know I'll say something I will regret, so I started going out with my friends, so I wouldn't be in the home and say something I shouldn't. And, I met a douchebag, made my mistake, and I really feel bad for what I did. It's cowardly, but I was relieved when he left. There were years of stories I could put here, but I just couldn't stand him anymore, and I did try to talk to him...screamed, cried, said bluntly what I didn't like, and he just disregarded my complaints and pushed me as if my feelings and complaints didnt matter. Basically, he thought I would never go anywhere and I was trapped, so I think my indiscretion was my way of saying "fuck you."

I have no idea if people have the same attitude, but if I'm going out all the time, I really don't care about the relationship and I know I do it to avoid an argument and saying something the other person doesn't deserve, which is why I say the same to people who post here wondering what to do with a cheater.
 
I've been cheated on. Its a shitty feeling but then again I can't really remember why I liked those girls.. I think it was just I was attracted to them and mistook that feeling for affection/love when really there was never a connection.... The first time I was really hurt and it kinda fucked my head for a while. Thought that I wasn't attractive enough for any of the girls I liked so I stopped talking to them pretty much in general, I was really young. The second time I didn't care, didn't really react to it at all just kind of brushed it off and then she gave me an out saying "I think we should take a break" and I was just like "ok", she expected me to chase after her for whatever reason. I just really did not care about that relationship at all.

I don't know why I see a future with these kinds of girls... Sometimes I think I'm hopeless as far as my emotions go, I tend to have a lot less control over them than I'd like to think or admit.. I bang them once and then I want a relationship for whatever reason (usually no reason at all).. I find out someone likes me and I can hardly believe anyone could ever like me so I become attached to them as if its something rare when really this kind of attraction can happen every single day if you put yourself out there... I guess I'm more confident socially now, to a fault even. More girls like me than I could ever keep up with. I much prefer to be with one person, don't ask me why. Maybe I have a deep set fear of STD's, maybe I'd rather keep things simple and not complicate my life further with more female interests. I take my women one at a time, for better or worse.. I also get off on denying chicks. Girls who are accustomed to getting dick on command, that stuck up "I know I'm hot, I'm gonna fuck you" mentality gets nowhere with me. I think its funny actually.......

Yeah idk why I'm ranting. Oh and to the second part of the question, yes I did once unknowingly fuck someones girlfriend. I didn't know she had a bf as she acted very single around me and my friends, I didn't care.. Never even met the guy but she told me afterwards that she had a bf.
 
I have never cheated but I have left someone for somebody else.
I was also the rebound for this guy.. whenever things weren't working with his g/f, he'd come to me and we'd see one another for awhile before things got better with her, then he'd tell me he couldn't see me anymore. They'd get in a fight or things would fall apart again, and he'd come crawling back. This repeated many times. I know that he also slept with at least 2 other girls while I was seeing him but this wasn't confirmed until after we ended our pathetic relationship.
 
I've only had two boyfriends, pretty much guarantee I've never been cheated on.
I'm still kinda iffy if I technically cheated or not. With my first boyfriend, I started hanging out with this other guy, I was on a "break" with the first bf but went "more" than the break allowed. But then that bf and I broke up anyway and I ended up with the "other guy". Didn't sleep with him until I was actually broken up with the first guy but it was still more than kissing.
 
I guess I cheated on my girlfriend, but I don't really consider it cheating because I told her I was going to have sex with this girl before I did it; I kept telling her that I needed to take a break and I couldn't be in a committed relationship, but she was just like, "no, no we're not taking a break... no way."

So..... I did what I said I was going to do. I had sex with the other girl, and I told her about it. I didn't even try to keep it a secret. It killed her, man, and it killed me too but it just... it was going to happen, and I told her about it.

Oh, and the other girl, she was engaged at the time. Anyway, it's a really long story but things worked out for the best in the end. We ended up taking the break, of course, and we ended up together about a year later. Actually, our relationship is probably better now than ever before. I needed to get it all out of my system, I think.
 
I fucked a chick the day after me an my gf of 4 years separated. I think that was kind of the same as cheating.
 
^well it wasn't.

I cheated on my first few long term gfs, more than once apiece - I did it coz I needed an ego boost at those moments in time...it didn't work, I just got guilt and more down on myself - it wasn't worth the cost.

I've also been the one who is sleeping with someone who's cheating on their SO - at the same time as cheating on mine...I didn't even think about it at the time. I didn't feel bad about it("makin" them cheat) - coz at the end of the day, it's not your fault - it just means you're sleeping with someone who's in a relationship they're not supposed to be in = fair game in my book.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Top