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guys, do you prefer: toned women or soft ? why ? thanks !

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Does it disgust most men when a womans legs and butt jiggle when she walks ??? And I mean bare skinned, because a lot of women look toned while wearing clothing, but out of cothes they are soft and their lower half jiggles when they move. Would that be a disappointment to you to find that out ? Do u think women would look better on the beach if they didn't jiggle when they walked along in their swimsuits ? Or do you think this adds to the idea of a woman and does it turn you on ? And lastly, what do u suppose most men prefer, even if you believe it toi be opposite of your own preference ? Why do you think women on tv and in magazines always look so toned ? Be honest and don't sugercoat ur opinions. Thank you for your replies.
 
I generally go for very fit girls, but I don't think I would necessarily be disappointed if she was a little softer with clothes off than I expected. My interest in girls who are toned has mostly to do with the qualities I associate with a good body. Obviously, we have an urge to mate with people who are healthy, and appear to be so. I also tend to assume that if a girl takes care of herself she is probably fairly self reliant, which is by far the most attractive quality in a woman to me. Honestly, I might not be the best guy to respond to this. I have kind of weirdly specific tastes in women. I like women who are in or have experience with the military or medical field. I like women who were born in the spring. I like woman who push me physically and intellectually. If you have those qualities, but are a bit soft around the edges its probably not going to bother me too much.

With that said, judging a girl based purely on physique, yeah, I'd like to sleep with a toned rather than a soft girl. It's really a small part of what I look for, though.

I think that most guys have similar taste in women to me. They probably like big tits more than I do.
 
Well this is a pretty loaded series of questions. Many men prefer different things, just as not all women find the same type of man attractive. Personally I love a little softness in a woman, i think its incredibly sexy if its in the right places. But it all depends on the woman, some women look better with a little squish and some look better toned.
 
I like both toned and soft, each are good in their own way. It really depends on the girl overall... if I'm attracted to her, I will find her attractive all over. Really, the only generalization I can make about girls I am attracted to is that they are all on the short side.
 
I know a lot of guys who don't like toned girls at all (gotta have the thickness!). I also know a lot of guys that prefer toned girls. I'm sure plenty of guys love your body OP, no need to try to cater to everyone.

Regarding why girls in media are portrayed a certain way... Don't worry about it. It isn't an accurate representation of what guys like IMO.
 
Am I qualified to answer this? :P I'm not a guy but I am a lesbian!

But pretty much I don't think there's one set opinion, differs from guy to guy. I know the body of my 'ideal girl' isn't toned... Slight muffin top with a slight bit of fat in places (like thighs and upper arms!). 'Cuddly' without being overweight. x)
 
It differs from guy to guy but I think the OP just wonders what YOU think to get an idea of what different guys think. My bf likes my softness, I know that! I jiggle in a swim suit lmao. But I'm still healthy so it is okay. :)
 
as a woman, ime, people tend to see less jiggle when they look at me that i see when i look at myself. we tend to be our own worst critics. while you might see a little embarrassing jelly action on your body, it's probably much less noticeable and nowhere near as bad to others looking at you than what you perceive it to be. just be healthy, happy and accepting of yourself and the body you're in.

women in magazines and on tv tend to be altered surgically and/or digitally. do not let what you see in print or film dictate how you think you should look. those women don’t even look like themselves; recognizing the digital enhancements done to her photos, Cindy Crawford once said, "i wish i looked like Cindy Crawford."
 
^ It's just so true. We always see ourselves as fatter than we really are.

I used to hate my body, but I've grown to love my ass and boobs. lol I love them. I've recently joined boot camp and pilates. I want to get a little muscle, so yeah, I'm that typical girl who wants a better body, but to have an ass, you ALWAYS have to jiggle a bit. You got to learn to love yourself. You can be totally healthy, fit and beautiful with jiggle. Girls should IN NO WAY be embarrassed of their little imperfections. We're our worst critics, and a guy who truly loves us for who we are won't care. I've got bad taste in jerk guys, but something I've always been lucky to have is men who love my body. Imperfections are our own insecurities. Seriously, men are less critical of women than we are of ourselves. Women need to stop being so critical of our fellow females.

Also, gay friends help. lol Gay dudes are a girl's best friend.They will tell us REALLY when we look like shit and when we look hot. I seriously think all girls need at least 1 gay friend. lol
 
fit is way better.

let's not forget that sex is an athletic event, and to be good at it requires great overall fitness. my lady was a dancer for 13 years and she is very fit. her body is amazing. she's the reason why i got into lifting weights more than running; I want to have as good a body to her as she does to me.

i do not like fat. it is not a natural human thing. would a fat person survive in the wild? that seems almost too ridiculous to even consider.
 
Fat stores helped many of our ancestors through lean times. But, let us not digress.

:)
 
before we invented agriculture we didn't need fat stores because we are pretty efficient at hunting through persistence. it actually yields more pounds of meat per time required than all other forms of hunting besides gun.

EDIT: and even then it's only fat stores.. little bits of fat. we don't need much. our muscles have 20 miles worth of energy in them already.

but lets not digress lol.
 
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I'm a girl, and I'm worried about the same thing. I think a little bit of jiggle is cute, but not being overweight, like other posters have said. I know some guys that love a girls slight muffin top that shows over the strings on a bikni. I personally want to be more toned, but I think all girls do! A guy isn't going to take you home, take your clothes of and say "ewww your thighs looked way skinnier in those jeans. Get out of here and don't call me!" and if he does, he probably doesn't get laid a lot. A guy is just thrilled to get to be with a girl he cares about, and hes mnot going to reject you because your nail polish dosnt match or you look different without your clothes on.
 
_mistresspoppy_ said:
I'm a girl, and I'm worried about the same thing. I think a little bit of jiggle is cute, but not being overweight, like other posters have said. I know some guys that love a girls slight muffin top that shows over the strings on a bikni. I personally want to be more toned, but I think all girls do! A guy isn't going to take you home, take your clothes of and say "ewww your thighs looked way skinnier in those jeans. Get out of here and don't call me!" and if he does, he probably doesn't get laid a lot. A guy is just thrilled to get to be with a girl he cares about, and hes mnot going to reject you because your nail polish dosnt match or you look different without your clothes on.
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to the bold: why would you say that? maybe that guy does get laid a lot and by women more attractive than the girl he just took home.

i think it's ridiculous that the first thing women attack in men is their sex life and penis size. grow up, it's unbecoming.

and i have rejected a girl because she looked different with her clothes off. i felt cheated.
 
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to the bold: why would you say that? maybe that guy does get laid a lot and by women more attractive than the girl he just took home.

i think it's ridiculous that the first thing women attack in men is their sex life and penis size. grow up, it's unbecoming.

and i have rejected a girl because she looked different with her clothes off. i felt cheated.
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If you take a girl home, you should respect her for wanting to be with you. Okay, if you pay 100$ for a skinny hooker, and it turns out she's fat, you have a right to feel ripped off, but if a girls likes you enough to have sex with you, then you reject her for a minor flaw -After you get her in bed- that's pretty sad. It has nothing to do with penis size, I'm talking about respect.
 
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