LiveIllegal
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I was recently invited to rush for a fraternity, but I'm not sure if I'm interested in joining one. Can someone tell me a little bit frats to help me decide if I should try to join?
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Well I think it depends on whether you are willing to pay for your friends, get treated like shit for a couple weeks of initiation, and look and dress like everyone else in the frat. I don't mean to stereotype, but this is honestly what i've gathered from the guys I know in frats. You really have to be the type of guy that doesn't mind conforming to what everyone else wants you to be. My girlfriend is in a sorority here at University of Central Florida, and i've seen them put her through some BULLSHIT over next to nothing. Someone found out that she smokes pot, and within a week they were telling her she had to attend drug counceling if she wanted to stay in the sorority. She's doing it, but I sure as hell wouldn't have. So basically what i'm saying is that frats and sororites are pretty much exactly the way they are stereotyped, and I consider myself pretty openminded concerning that type of stuff.
poopie
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greek salads are pretty good.
poopie
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p.s.
NO!
NO!
Solksjaer
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You can get just as much pussy not being in a frat as opposed being in a frat. Yes you might miss out in there annual toga party, but fuck it every frat throws one so why not throw one yourself. Stupid and a waste of time. Focus on your education, do well, and make something of yourself.
Liric
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Depends on the campus, depends on the frat. Some frats are really cool, some are not. Many attract a certain sort particular to them. Find one that fits u with dudes u like and wanna kick it with.
Of course, there is always the hazing, u know, maybe tie u to a fuckin bedpost, put a hanger on the stove and let that shit sit there for like a half hour and stick it in ya ass slow-like... tssssssss
Of course, there is always the hazing, u know, maybe tie u to a fuckin bedpost, put a hanger on the stove and let that shit sit there for like a half hour and stick it in ya ass slow-like... tssssssss
LiveIllegal
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What about sewing my asshole closed, and feeding me, and feeding me, and feeding me?
plurMONSTER
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that's their favorite.
I used to live in a sorority house and it was great! Of course, I was the only guy living in the house, I wasn't in Greek life, but still reaped all the benefits.
that's their favorite.
I used to live in a sorority house and it was great! Of course, I was the only guy living in the house, I wasn't in Greek life, but still reaped all the benefits.
I wouldn't do it. when I used to play football I was invited to join a frat of just football players. I wouldn't do it then, and those were the people I used to sweat with and hung out with more than my own momma. I wouldn't do it then, and I wouldn't do it now.
pr0ficient
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they're worthless, you'll be so thankful you didn't joing one (or regretting it if you did) by softmore - junior year for sure
dunwich
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I agree with all the above comments, except the one about salads. 
At my university, pretty much all the frats are either goody-goody douchebag associations or just elaborate excuses to organize a network of people that drink and smoke pot while at the same time try to look like upstanding citizens. A frat house is generally a big shitty building that smells like mold and beer and is filled with idiots who think they are cool wether they are or not. Being in a frat is good if you want to meet walking brainless vaginas, tho.
At my university, pretty much all the frats are either goody-goody douchebag associations or just elaborate excuses to organize a network of people that drink and smoke pot while at the same time try to look like upstanding citizens. A frat house is generally a big shitty building that smells like mold and beer and is filled with idiots who think they are cool wether they are or not. Being in a frat is good if you want to meet walking brainless vaginas, tho.
kittyinthedark
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Join a PROFESSIONAL fraternity, not a social fraternity.
I'm in Alpha Chi Sigma, a professional chemistry fraternity, and it's fuckin sweet. It's great for your resume, I have fucking amazing study partners, there's always somewhere for me to crash if I have to (we have two houses), we have killer parties, and we do charity work (which is really important to me). There's no stupid bullshit involved, and the people are genuinely great. Yeah, we skew towards the geeky side a bit, but to me that's a good thing :D
I'm in Alpha Chi Sigma, a professional chemistry fraternity, and it's fuckin sweet. It's great for your resume, I have fucking amazing study partners, there's always somewhere for me to crash if I have to (we have two houses), we have killer parties, and we do charity work (which is really important to me). There's no stupid bullshit involved, and the people are genuinely great. Yeah, we skew towards the geeky side a bit, but to me that's a good thing :D
BlessedAnomaly
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all frat boys are named "chad"
every time you see a polo shirt, collar popped, call em chad.
every time you see a polo shirt, collar popped, call em chad.
Hey now. I was a frat boy as an undergrad. And I liked living in a fraternity very much.
From above: "Well I think it depends on whether you are willing to pay for your friends, get treated like shit for a couple weeks of initiation, and look and dress like everyone else in the frat."
Fact: You need to pay for housing somewhere. and food. and if you drink, you gotta pay for beer too. The beer fairy is not real.
Fact: If you and several of your friends pool your money, you can save via the economy of scale, and then you all have a kickin' house full of fun toys to hang out in, and all your friends live right there on your floor.
Ignore these guys. Joining a fraternity is a very personal choice. You're joining for the other people in it and your relationship with them. If you and three of your current mates want to keep living together through the rest of college, and they all want to join a house, go for it. If you chill very well with the guys in a certain house, join 'em.
To all the people in this thread who are naysayers: If a bunch of people you were cool with said, "Hey look, we all want to live together, we found this really bitchin' house with a pool table, an xbox 360, and a bar in the basement, and we want you to live with us, sign in on this lease. And we've agreed to all chip in $20/month to the beer fund." -- you'd be hard-pressed to turn that up.
A fraternity is just this but slightly larger. Lots of houses do some sort of hazing. Depending on the school you're at, and the specific fraternity, this might be really bad. Not worth it. Ask around your campus about the specific house you've been given a bid for. Really jock, ROTC, or heavy drinking frats tend to have a reputation for some fairly serious hazing. There are also plenty of "nerdier" fraternities, filled with engineers, a whole bunch of Jewish kids, or just geekier guys. These tend to have not-so-bad (or at times, downright fun!) pledge processes. (Not that pledging is in itself necessarily a bad thing: done right, it can include lots of team-building and bonding stuff. Plenty of positive pledge experiences exist. Some of the hijinks I pulled when pledging are my most fun memories of college. Many houses now also have specific no-pledge policies. You can ask about this.) I figured that the pledge process at my house couldn't be too rough, since the president was legally blind, and he made it through.
And there is a whole range of houses in the middle, each with its own personality. Certain types of folks tend to gravitate toward each house. If you see your personality mesh with the vibe in one of these houses, don't let the label of "Fraternity" hold you back. Not all fraternities are like Animal House, any more than all drug users are heroin junkies from some horrible DARE stereotype.
Something to consider: everyone likes throwing a party occasionally. Some houses do this every week. But other houses have less demanding social schedules. When you pick a house, keep things like this in mind. You're picking a house because *you like the events there*. And you want to become a more integral part of them. If you don't like their social calendar (huge beer bash every friday too overwhelming for you, for example), don't join up.
That having been said, if you ever see a guy walking around in a pink polo shirt, collar popped, you can call him Chad. Those guys are douchebags.
From above: "Well I think it depends on whether you are willing to pay for your friends, get treated like shit for a couple weeks of initiation, and look and dress like everyone else in the frat."
Fact: You need to pay for housing somewhere. and food. and if you drink, you gotta pay for beer too. The beer fairy is not real.
Fact: If you and several of your friends pool your money, you can save via the economy of scale, and then you all have a kickin' house full of fun toys to hang out in, and all your friends live right there on your floor.
Ignore these guys. Joining a fraternity is a very personal choice. You're joining for the other people in it and your relationship with them. If you and three of your current mates want to keep living together through the rest of college, and they all want to join a house, go for it. If you chill very well with the guys in a certain house, join 'em.
To all the people in this thread who are naysayers: If a bunch of people you were cool with said, "Hey look, we all want to live together, we found this really bitchin' house with a pool table, an xbox 360, and a bar in the basement, and we want you to live with us, sign in on this lease. And we've agreed to all chip in $20/month to the beer fund." -- you'd be hard-pressed to turn that up.
A fraternity is just this but slightly larger. Lots of houses do some sort of hazing. Depending on the school you're at, and the specific fraternity, this might be really bad. Not worth it. Ask around your campus about the specific house you've been given a bid for. Really jock, ROTC, or heavy drinking frats tend to have a reputation for some fairly serious hazing. There are also plenty of "nerdier" fraternities, filled with engineers, a whole bunch of Jewish kids, or just geekier guys. These tend to have not-so-bad (or at times, downright fun!) pledge processes. (Not that pledging is in itself necessarily a bad thing: done right, it can include lots of team-building and bonding stuff. Plenty of positive pledge experiences exist. Some of the hijinks I pulled when pledging are my most fun memories of college. Many houses now also have specific no-pledge policies. You can ask about this.) I figured that the pledge process at my house couldn't be too rough, since the president was legally blind, and he made it through.
And there is a whole range of houses in the middle, each with its own personality. Certain types of folks tend to gravitate toward each house. If you see your personality mesh with the vibe in one of these houses, don't let the label of "Fraternity" hold you back. Not all fraternities are like Animal House, any more than all drug users are heroin junkies from some horrible DARE stereotype.
Something to consider: everyone likes throwing a party occasionally. Some houses do this every week. But other houses have less demanding social schedules. When you pick a house, keep things like this in mind. You're picking a house because *you like the events there*. And you want to become a more integral part of them. If you don't like their social calendar (huge beer bash every friday too overwhelming for you, for example), don't join up.
That having been said, if you ever see a guy walking around in a pink polo shirt, collar popped, you can call him Chad. Those guys are douchebags.
I will also put in a plug for the co-ops. A girlfriend of mine lived in one, and I spent lots of time hanging out with co-op kids. At most schools, they tend to be somewhat to a lot more "hippie" than the frats are. (Course, there's often a hippie/stoner frat, too.) They're quite financially sound, and usually fun places to be. They tend to be somewhat quieter than fraternities, and I honestly don't think they've got quite the same sense of "shared friendship" that a fraternity has, since team-building, "brotherhood," etc aren't as stressed. That having been said, they can be full of interesting and dynamic people, and as with fraternities, each house does have its own unique flavor.
Jamshyd
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I would most definitely recommend a co-op over a fraternity. I have never joined either but have friends in both.
A co-op life can actually teach you something about responsibility, and generally you'd have fun while you're at it.
Fraternity life teaches you nothing. In fact, i'd argue that it creates an imaginary safety-net with superficialities and alcohol that would make it even harder to deal with life.
A co-op life can actually teach you something about responsibility, and generally you'd have fun while you're at it.
Fraternity life teaches you nothing. In fact, i'd argue that it creates an imaginary safety-net with superficialities and alcohol that would make it even harder to deal with life.
Facekhan
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You can always join a Fraternity that is not part of the Pan Hellenic thing, they are usually the ones that specialize in certain majors but they don't haze and don't try to run your whole life.
I went to a few rush events and never really went passed that. Later on when I saw those guys, one of them told me I wasn't picked cause I was too chill a guy to torture for 6 weeks.
There is a big difference between what a fraternity is as an idea, (brotherhood, friends, a house, some parties, guaranteed social life, etc) and what they are in reality, (a lot of drinking, a lot of bullshit, and taking over your life to win contests with the others, like blood drives and shit)
I went to a few rush events and never really went passed that. Later on when I saw those guys, one of them told me I wasn't picked cause I was too chill a guy to torture for 6 weeks.
There is a big difference between what a fraternity is as an idea, (brotherhood, friends, a house, some parties, guaranteed social life, etc) and what they are in reality, (a lot of drinking, a lot of bullshit, and taking over your life to win contests with the others, like blood drives and shit)