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Girlfriend just wants to be friends for now...seeking advice/hope

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Sleek65

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I have recently got.in a relationship. We wers together for.about two weeks. One night she came over for a few drinks and she got a call from.a friend who is.struggling.. So she leaves and said she would be back soon. Hours past and i.kept texting her because.i was.just annoyed with her not coming back. I told her how this.was bs and that i was pissed. I was.drinking at the time.which didnt help. I texted her alot :-(. She came by in the morning and said she just wajted tobhe friends.for.now. She said to give her a few days of alone time. We laid.down together and i apologized etc. she said she would come.back.but she justel needed time to clear her head. What do you guys think the chances of her coming back. We rushed into it.kinda. I just really.hope she ces back.
 
When did this happen? I would leave her alone and let her have space. You only dated for two weeks and that's not very long. It's too late now to change how you handled it, so let's say you both behaved badly. She could have let you know that she wasn't coming back and you reacted by drunkenly blowing up her phone. I could be wrong, but if she really liked you she wouldn't have left you sitting like that. Now she only wants to be friends so it's best to let her be. Don't hold your breath waiting for this girl to come back and don't call or text her either.
 
You were only seeing her for two weeks... yes, breakups suck but you WILL get over it. Focus on yourself for now. If she really likes you, she will be back. But we can't tell you the chances of her coming back to you. There isn't some mathematical equation that will tell you that.
 
Ok. Thanks for the support! I screwed up. I just pray to Gof she comes back. I really want to text/cal her tho
 
nooneanymore said:
sounds like its over. and she's trying to avoid outright conflict by not just ending the relationship altogether.
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Today she broke it to me that she doesnt want a relationship right now. Im really heart broken. i guess i was dramatic
 
Her friend was struggling, and she was doing the right thing by being there and supporting them. You abused her via sms while she was in the middle of sorting something out. It was completely unwarranted, and a definite red flag at only two weeks in.

You were being selfish. You failed to support her. You made a difficult situation worse for her. I suggest you work on this before your next relationship.
 
sounds like you arent ready for a relationship anyway. if youre that attached after a few weeks and anxious when she leaves you probably arent ready to date someone. i know that feeling, it sounds like you made her out to be more than just a girlfriend, like she was filling something else for you
 
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