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girlfriend just told me shes been cheating for over a year

tidruid89

tidruid89

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My girlfriend just told me this morning that she has been lying to me for over a year. To make matters worse she rubbed my face in it and said that she is with a real man and gave me all the details about when she was seeing this guy and how he makes 100 grand a year. She told me all this out of nowhere after I told her this morning that I was planning on flying back to Washington state more frequently to look for work. I'm not sure if she is making this up to hurt me or she really is telling the truth. All I know is that I'm done with her superficial and lying ways. I needed to vent this shit. Sorry. I scheduled to get a full std screening tomorrow morning. This is bullshit
 
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Wow.
What a prick. Wow. How long had the two of you been together?
Well at least now you hopefully won't have any regrets about the relationship being over...and sometimes it's easier to move on from relationships that end badly because you can just focus on your anger rather than on nostalgia/sadness (ie. you won't miss it as much).
The important thing to remember is not to blame yourself for what she did. Clearly she's a pretty awful person (not for the cheating, although obviously that's pretty bad as well, but more because of how she rubbed your face into it...) and I'd speculate that her issues are entirely hers and don't have much to do with you.
Try to focus on yourself in the next few weeks, see your friends a lot, that kind of stuff. Also, I hope this won't affect the way you see women as a whole or that it won't make you paranoid in your next relationship since, well, obviously we're not all like that. Good luck :\
 
That was the very sound advice. Thank you! In the last 24 hours this happened and also I got a notice that my landlord sold the house I'm living in and gave me no notice until yesterday afternoon saying I have 30 days to vacate the property. I've got some leads though . I'm terrified that I could have contracted an std from this girl.
 
Ouch, talk about a shit week...in itself it might actually help you to find a new place to live though, where you won't have shared memories with your ex. Changing atmosphere and doing new things always really helps to get over break-ups and to move on.
Regarding the STD - no point stressing out over something you don't know! Yes, it's possible you might have gotten something from her, but it's also entirely possible you haven't. Imagine in a few days you learn you're completely clean and you'll have wasted your time tearing your hair out and panicking over nothing in the meantime? You've made the smart move of scheduling an appointment for tomorrow, so just try not to think about it at all until you get the results back - and then you can deal with them appropriately if needed. But there's absolutely no use in worrying over a possibility :)
 
Don't stress too much about the STD thing. I obviously can't guarantee anything but the chances are pretty slim that you have an STD. She was only with one guy, it wasn't like she was sleeping around. So your chances are lowered. But wait until you hear back.

I'm sorry you're going through this. It is tough to go through breakups, especially when cheating is involved. I'm glad you know NOW so you can get out of that relationship and on with your life! Hopefully you can find a new place to live and everything. You've gotta keep yourself busy and stop thinking about her so much though. *hugs*
 
Captain.Heroin said:
Whether or not she was being honest, you shouldn't be with her.
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What he said! Shit, that is some cold ass shit she laid on you and you don't deserve it. I'd tell her with ethics like her's, there's no way in hell a man who's secure in his profession and making good money is going to be willing to put up with that lame ass shit she's shoveling out. I'd guess he'd have no time or patience for such things. He may take a fling with this girl but he's smart enough to know, this one is not a candidate to take home to good ole Mom.

I say you leave with your head held high knowing you took/walked the high road and once she showed her true colors, you bolted. I promise she will be the one bouncing from relationship to relationship until she figures out how to "grow up" emotionally. Dude, you will be FINE!
 
tidruid89 said:
My girlfriend just told me this morning that she has been lying to me for over a year. To make matters worse she rubbed my face in it and said that she is with a real man and gave me all the details about when she was seeing this guy and how he makes 100 grand a year. She told me all this out of nowhere after I told her this morning that I was planning on flying back to Washington state more frequently to look for work. I'm not sure if she is making this up to hurt me or she really is telling the truth. All I know is that I'm done with her superficial and lying ways. I needed to vent this shit. Sorry. I scheduled to get a full std screening tomorrow morning. This is bullshit
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so you said you were leaving to get work and it was then that she claimed to be having an affair with a rich man all along

how convenient:|

weather there is truth to this or not- she ain't worth it.

has she been living with you? and who has been paying for rent?
 
whether she is being dishonest/vindictive etc is unimportant. why someone who loves and respects you would say such things (truthful or not) is the real issue at hand.

has anything eventuated since, OP?

...kytnism...:|
 
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