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Girl I met asked if we should be Facebook friends

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rollsolo

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Hey guys and gals

Met this cool girl in the best coast that I've been talking to via text here and there lately. When we met it was at a film festival that I was in. She was really cool and we connected very well. Fast forward a bit, I am now on the East Coast and her in the West Coast. She text me here and there and I text her back so we communicate like that. So this is funny... This morning I responded to a text that she sent me from last night. She text me back shortly after saying...

Her: Hey, should we be Facebook friends:
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Me: Idk (name) That's like unveiling the porn stash
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I thought it was funny to say and she replied...

Her: Ha!
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Her: I am ok with not doing it.
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I didn't say anything afterwards but I know she really wants to be my friend. I'm not sure how I feel about it at the moment. I don't have anything to hide but I kinda like the way things are now. I was thinking of just friending her first and saying "Hey, I did you the favor and added you first." idk thoughts would be helpful.​


 
floatingaround said:
Is it really that much of an issue to add her on fb?

Solid comment about the porn lol
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No it's not an issue at all really. As stated I have nothing to hide I just thought it was a little soon and strange that she asked about it. Would it be weird if I just went ahead and friend requested her at this point you think? Or leave it to bury.
 
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its not that i haven't been guilty of the same thing, but you take overthinking relationships to another lvl

love isn't some complicated strategy game where you have to make the right moves to win the conquest.

just say what you feel and move with instinct. if they dont like who you are, if your being real, they aren't the right one.

anyway you both live on opposite sides of the country so this relationship is only going to move to friendship first. so the stakes aren't that high imo
 
I know I'm very guarded about my fb page. I guess there's pics & memes as well as my contacts that I really want to keep quite private.

I rarely accept friend requests as my page is quite revealing regarding my personal life. I'm not one to post selfies & share with the world. OP may feel similarly.

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A little soon? Fucking hell, I've added people to facebook after knowing them for 2 hours. If you've got nothing to hide I genuinely think you're making a big deal out of this. If all of a sudden she starts messaging you constantly on fb then explain to her that it's not working. But essentially, fb is simply a platform to keep in touch with old friends or friends who live far away...
 
Yeah how is it to SOON to add someone to facebook? I don't decline an FB invite if I know someone. It could be someone I just partied with. People sometimes add me and I don't even know them. I make sure they aren't creepy (aka have mutual friends, probably go to the same parties I do), and go for it anyway. I've met some cool people that way.
I mean, everything you have on Facebook is basically visible to the world anyway (no matter how private you set your profile.....) so it's just an easy way for someone to connect with you. If you're looking to keep something private, it should NOT go on facebook, even if you only have your ten closest friends/family members on facebook. They aren't the only ones who can see it.
If you choose to only have ten people on your facebook, that's fine. Still don't post anything crazy personal.
Also, if you have someone on your facebook who you don't care about their updates, just unfollow them. It's so easy.
 
Pagey said:
A little soon? Fucking hell, I've added people to facebook after knowing them for 2 hours. If you've got nothing to hide I genuinely think you're making a big deal out of this. If all of a sudden she starts messaging you constantly on fb then explain to her that it's not working. But essentially, fb is simply a platform to keep in touch with old friends or friends who live far away...
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this.

its low on meaning, just dont publicly document your life or make clear statements that can backfire without thinking first. its fine to be philosophical on facebook and learn lessons and see funny shit
 
Just add her.. unless you don't really want to talk to her or if you really do have somethin to hide (including but not limited to hiding the girl in question from your personal life/friends/partner )

Facebook is THE place for connecting with people.. it's like a less romantic inclined version of aquiring someone's phone mber, hence less akward I imagine.
If I were more social in my outside life I would use Facebook more.
 
Ah rollsolo, we meet again. I see you have learned so much from your last thread regarding over thinking every single fucking interaction you have with women.

Friend the girl, Jesus Christ. It's not like she's asking for your social security number or something.
 
I don't quite understand what the big deal is but then again I also didn't understand that weird, creepy porn stash comment was about?
 
The big deal as I see it is that if you are in or working towards a relationship, you may find yourself defending your comments to people with whom you have no romantic interest or ay be people that you may have met, or some random that you met playing a zynga game 7 years ago. Your SO doesn't know who you are being cheeky or flirting with.
It is because of this, I prefer my gf not to be my Facebook friend, nor do I want to be hers
If I had a gf that is
 
I am glad I don't have a Facebook anymore. It caused to many problems with my relationship due to jealousy issues in both of our ends. She still has hers but I have matured a lot since then and could care a less what goes on since she barely uses it or talks to any of our old friends anymore anyway. Trust is key.

Why would you not want to be Facebook friends man? That's what the site is for. Getting to know people on a more personal level but in a less personal way. It's really not that big of a leap in terms of potential romance, but I say take your chances and go for it. Seems kind of silly to me to take social media so seriously. The effect it has had on people's interaction face to face is astonishing.
 
Are you autistic op? I'm not even asking that to be funny, but your communication with others is just cringe worthy tbh.
 
Thanks all for the replies. I ended up doing her the favor and friended her first. It really was no big deal. thanks again!
 
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