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Girl friends that love to do drugs v:s Hiding drugs from that one bitch :)

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So i have had a few girls that would love to party and i have had the women who despise drugs! tell me your story about what you did with the party girl and how it affected your life ? Then tell me the about the women who knew nothing of your drug use and how far you went to hide it from her ? as your last comment tell me what girl you had better moments of real connection with ? and for the lady's that read this just swap out girl for guy and women for man !!!!
 
I personally don't really date men who don't do drugs. The closest I've gotten is that I've been on a few dates with guys who only drink alcohol…but usually I can tell from the start that we probably won't be the best match. Drugs are a big part of my life at this point in time, so of course it's going to be something that I talk about a lot. If someone doesn't partake in similar substances (or at least tries to understand them and learn about them), holding a conversation will probably be pretty difficult.

That being said, my current boyfriend loves drugs as much as I do which works out well because I love doing drugs with him. When we met, the only thing we both did was smoke weed and we discovered our love of drugs around the same time (before we started dating). We love to trip and roll together, and it's brought us so close and I feel so connected with him because of it. We've also ventured into a number of first-time drug experiences together, which is always such a bonding experience. He's my favorite drug partner. :)

As well as that, we both look out for each other and make sure neither one of us is going too deep. And whenever one of us wants to try something new we always talk about it and research it together that way we both know what the other person is getting into. It works out really well.
 
I agree with pazma, the second I realise a guy isn't into drugs or open-minded about them then I know it is never going anywhere. It's not about being able to talk about your experiences, but being against drug use says something about the guy's personality and ideological values, something I don't agree with.

I introduced my partner to drugs when we met. He was never a user, but only due to access issues. It's wonderful experimenting with drugs as a couple at first because not only do you get the experience of discovering another human being, you also get to discover wonderful drugs with this new person in your life. Only problem is you have to suffer on the comedowns together, and while sometimes you can help each other get through it, usually you end up fighting and creating a big divide between you over time. Seeing the other person on a comedown warps your opinion on them and you can never return to what you had before. Of course, it is also a great way to get to know each other. I did my first acid trip with my partner as my sitter and it brought us very close together. When you're constantly watching each other's backs on drugs, you really develop a strong bond of trust.
 
Great thread.

Currently, I haven't had a steady relationship with a girl in several years. I suppose I love dope way more than any girl in my life. I will say though, that in the past, I dated girls who were into drugs, and it often wound up being the basis of the relationship. In other words, without the drugs, the relationship was empty. Then again, certain drugs are worse in that respect than others. I would love to find a girl who would take LSD and roll with me at raves and hiking/camping in the woods, but shooting eachother up with speedballs is a recipe for disaster.
 
so from a perspective im hearing is there is no trying to hide your drug use! it just will not work out . so no matter how attracted or interesting a person is the no drugs thing just destroys any possibility of a real connection ?
 
To me, if you have to hide your drug use, what's the point of the relationship? Your partner should except you for who you and all this business of 'changing him/her' shouldn't even enter the picture. My wife knew full well what I was into when we met. I never hid it from her. Just my two cents.
 
Me an my girl are very open about our drug use and it's great.

We trip on l on hikes and roll at festis used to get faded together all the time now we aren't as much but I love it all.

Cept the harder ones I do alone aka BINGE.
 
TheRapperGoneBad said:
Me an my girl are very open about our drug use and it's great.

We trip on l on hikes and roll at festis used to get faded together all the time now we aren't as much but I love it all.

Cept the harder ones I do alone aka BINGE.
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very open except the hard ones you do alone and binge ! so you do hide some use from your significant other???
 
All the girls I've dated have been into drugs except one. One friday night though when we were chilling at mine I put 140mg MDMA crystal in her coke and 160mg in mine. She was angry when she initially realised, but that quickly changed :)
 
i thought you meant 'hiding drugs from that one bitch' as in hiding the drugs from that girlfriend that loves to do drugs lol

i really don't care if they do drugs or not, id prefer that they dont but that also often comes with nagging to get off the gear
 
Sweet Jones said:
i thought you meant 'hiding drugs from that one bitch' as in hiding the drugs from that girlfriend that loves to do drugs lol

i really don't care if they do drugs or not, id prefer that they dont but that also often comes with nagging to get off the gear
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LOL that's funny is this so you don't have to share your gear? and my main question to all interested in this thread is the actual connection with a significant other. Some find the connection is by far way deeper wile sharing drug experiences together. Others have to hide there addictions ! and a relationship based on lies is well a lie. I also wonder? if couples in recovery together, then find that the drug was really the only connection they had. breaking the relationship apart!? basically finding out that they do not actually love each other, they just loved doing drugs together ! I hope more story's like this or opposite of this will be shared here.
 
pazma said:
I personally don't really date men who don't do drugs. The closest I've gotten is that I've been on a few dates with guys who only drink alcohol…but usually I can tell from the start that we probably won't be the best match. Drugs are a big part of my life at this point in time, so of course it's going to be something that I talk about a lot. If someone doesn't partake in similar substances (or at least tries to understand them and learn about them), holding a conversation will probably be pretty difficult.

That being said, my current boyfriend loves drugs as much as I do which works out well because I love doing drugs with him. When we met, the only thing we both did was smoke weed and we discovered our love of drugs around the same time (before we started dating). We love to trip and roll together, and it's brought us so close and I feel so connected with him because of it. We've also ventured into a number of first-time drug experiences together, which is always such a bonding experience. He's my favorite drug partner. :)

As well as that, we both look out for each other and make sure neither one of us is going too deep. And whenever one of us wants to try something new we always talk about it and research it together that way we both know what the other person is getting into. It works out really well.
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Damn that's a pretty cool relationship. I sometimes wish my marriage was like that. My wife is completely against drugs and as much as I agree that they can be dangerous.. so are a lot of things! We just have different views on certain things especially drugs. I find them to be amazing especially if used in moderation. Granted I have been 2 years clean and sober from Meth which I am happy about.. I still think about it and miss every moment that I had when I used because I personally got a lot of enjoyment out of it. I feel that it ruined some things in my life only because I was using too much but before my wife I absolutely loved using Meth with a few pornstar women I know and love to hang out with. Before my wife it was just meth and women.. women who used of course, and it was easier because I didn't have a relationship.. just casual sex and it was fun! It was stress free, no drama and I had a lot of freedom. I wrote a lot when I used, and I recorded a lot. Sang a shit ton and love to play the piano. On top of that I absolutely loved to lift weights on it and was completely shredded at 185 Ibs with 4% bf! I miss those days definitely. I love my life now but I definitely do think about those days when I was free to do drugs. It never bothered me. But I guess it comes to a point in your life where you have to pick what's more important. I love my wife and I know she just cares about me.. but I do sometimes wish we felt the same about drugs. Shes only rolled and she never really got addicted to it. So only ecstasy and drinking for her and it's been years since she's done either. For me I've pretty much done it all lol my favorite being Meth.. for me it just has a lot of uses that I get out of it *shrugs* well that's all for my venting lol hope I didn't annoy any one!
 
Draven26 said:
Damn that's a pretty cool relationship. I sometimes wish my marriage was like that. My wife is completely against drugs and as much as I agree that they can be dangerous.. so are a lot of things! We just have different views on certain things especially drugs. I find them to be amazing especially if used in moderation. Granted I have been 2 years clean and sober from Meth which I am happy about.. I still think about it and miss every moment that I had when I used because I personally got a lot of enjoyment out of it. I feel that it ruined some things in my life only because I was using too much but before my wife I absolutely loved using Meth with a few pornstar women I know and love to hang out with. Before my wife it was just meth and women.. women who used of course, and it was easier because I didn't have a relationship.. just casual sex and it was fun! It was stress free, no drama and I had a lot of freedom. I wrote a lot when I used, and I recorded a lot. Sang a shit ton and love to play the piano. On top of that I absolutely loved to lift weights on it and was completely shredded at 185 Ibs with 4% bf! I miss those days definitely. I love my life now but I definitely do think about those days when I was free to do drugs. It never bothered me. But I guess it comes to a point in your life where you have to pick what's more important. I love my wife and I know she just cares about me.. but I do sometimes wish we felt the same about drugs. Shes only rolled and she never really got addicted to it. So only ecstasy and drinking for her and it's been years since she's done either. For me I've pretty much done it all lol my favorite being Meth.. for me it just has a lot of uses that I get out of it *shrugs* well that's all for my venting lol hope I didn't annoy any one!
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so don't you think and or feel like you are hiding a part of yourself from your wife? your here talking about your DOC how long until your using again if not already ? if the experience of substance is what you want? mixed with a beautiful women wanting to share the experience with you! in my experience people manifest what they truly want in there lives. Love or drugs man love or drugs ?
 
I'm female and straight so just swapping male/female.

"tell me your story about what you did with the party girl and how it affected your life ?"
my boyfriend and I both love partying and whatnot but we've been dating for almost five years and the relationship is awesome. it isn't centred on drugs as there is a lot more to our relationship than that.

"Then tell me the about the women who knew nothing of your drug use and how far you went to hide it from her ?"
I didn't know anything about drugs until I started dating my boyfriend.

Honestly, I think it's good to date someone who has similar views as you. Someone who uses a lot more drugs or someone who doesn't use drugs probably isn't a good fit for a recreational drug user. But it's also important to ensure that's not the entire part of your relationship. Can the two of you go a month without using drugs together and still have fun? That is important!

Just got a PM from someone so I want to expand on this... it is important to connect with your partner outside of drugs. Like having intellectual conversations. Having sex sober (sex when you're high can be different than sober sex... do them both!). Ensure you have mutual interests outside of drugs... for us, it's psychology, cooking/baking (vegetarian/vegan), math, computer programming. And making sure you're still doing things with your partner that aren't drug related. Go to the movies sometimes. Stay in and cook a nice meal and cuddle while sober once in a while. Go for hikes. I dunno, whatever people like to do.
I love partying. My boyfriend loves partying. We're REALLY into the scene in our city. Heck, we put ON parties. But that's not all our lives are. There is a lot more to the relationship than that :P
 
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I've been with the same girl for 10 years.I met her via someone bringing her to my house to score dope.We had instant chemistry and soon started dating.At first everyone told us that dope was the only thing we had in common,it was a relationship doomed to failure blah,blah,blah.Well,for ten years we've stuck together through thick and thin,we have never argued over drugs or money and we never held out on each other.Through all the ups and downs we split everything 50/50.Whenever I got locked up she stuck by me and visited me every week.We have been through hell and back together,we're each other's favorite person to get fucked up with and even quit heroin together.And our relationship is as strong as ever.We are used to being together 24/7 and she is the only girl I have ever felt like I didn't need space from.I honestly can't imagine life without her.We still like the prescription party and a little drink together but we remain together even after heroin has been firmly out of the picture for a little over 3 years now.I'll wrap this up before everyone starts thinking old downerhead is some kind of puss cake but yeah,we both like to party but know there are more important things.Nobody better not call me a wuss lol.
 
downerhead said:
I've been with the same girl for 10 years.I met her via someone bringing her to my house to score dope.We had instant chemistry and soon started dating.At first everyone told us that dope was the only thing we had in common,it was a relationship doomed to failure blah,blah,blah.Well,for ten years we've stuck together through thick and thin,we have never argued over drugs or money and we never held out on each other.Through all the ups and downs we split everything 50/50.Whenever I got locked up she stuck by me and visited me every week.We have been through hell and back together,we're each other's favorite person to get fucked up with and even quit heroin together.And our relationship is as strong as ever.We are used to being together 24/7 and she is the only girl I have ever felt like I didn't need space from.I honestly can't imagine life without her.We still like the prescription party and a little drink together but we remain together even after heroin has been firmly out of the picture for a little over 3 years now.I'll wrap this up before everyone starts thinking old downerhead is some kind of puss cake but yeah,we both like to party but know there are more important things.Nobody better not call me a wuss lol.
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thats tight brah yeaghhh :) thats the kind of connection im talking about !!
 
In active addiction, I never dated other addicts. One IV heroin addict in a relationship is plenty, add another and I don't think I could have even attempted to stay functional. I was in the same relationship for most of my IV use and even though he enabled me, it definitely added some stability to my life.

I'm now dating an addict, but we're both in recovery. I think now that I'm sober, it would be hard to date a normie.. because we're both recovering addicts, we get each other and are understanding of the other's struggles while keeping each other accountable.
 
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