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iridescentblack

iridescentblack

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I think the girl I like is a dom. Not sure how I know this either.

Someone close once told me that some people can just pick up on these things. Similar to how some people can just simply infer that other people like anal and things like that. It's not nice to exploit people's interests if they're not comfortable. I guess that's why I've put off seeing her again for a long time...

I've been attracted to older women all my life. And vis-à-vis older women are attracted to me as well too... assuming they're comfortable with me. I guess lately, as I'm getting noticed more and more by girls my age and even younger, it's forced me to look at a few things. So I'm weighing things, so to speak.

After I met the girl who dresses all in black, we agreed (kinda) to take some time away from each other because I had a dispute with a neighbor, he tried to kill me, and therefore the girl I liked and I, myself, decided it was better if I take some time "off" to sort things through. Well, all shenanigans aside, I did what I had to do and have to consider going back there and whether it's worth it or not.

I don't think this is all about kinky stuff and pleasure. I feel like she's just really mature about what I was going through back then.

Are any other men here attracted to doms? What's your take on this?
 
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iridescentblack said:
I think the girl I like is a dom. Not sure how I know this either.

Someone close once told me that some people can just pick up on these things. Similar to how some people can just simply infer that other people like anal and things like that. It's not nice to exploit people's interests if they're not comfortable. I guess that's why I've put off seeing her again for a long time...
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The most unexpected girls I've met have turned out to be doms. There was nothing that gave them away before they revealed the dom, and I read people very easy.

I like doms. My first "real" gf had strong dom-tendencies. Lovely.
 
Yep. Card-carrying:
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iridescentblack said:
I've been attracted to older women all my life. And vis-à-vis older women are attracted to me as well too...
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I constantly attracted MILFs in every bar I went to my entire life. It's both a gift and a curse, although now that I'm out of my 20s and sleeping with women older than me isn't so stigmatized, I'm happy with it. Hell.... I should go to a bar right now.
iridescentblack said:
I think the girl I like is a dom. Not sure how I know this either.
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I've always felt I had a very accurate sense of people, their personality and their lives just by talking to them. However, their sexual preferences or kinks are NOT easy to predict in my experience. (maybe it is for a dom? I wouldn't know)



I'm not a kinky guy, really quite vanilla, however I've always wanted to experience being dominated by a female. Not in a hardcore way, maybe, idk, but probably in a fun roleplay way. Who knows. I need to tickle my fancy.

Like being forced to have sex by a female without me expecting it. Being handcuffed. That's about as far as my kink goes.

I'm sure some dom females out there would love me. I can be quite shy at times ;).

But definitely not masochist, pain isn't sexy to me >_<
 
Sometimes I feel like the part of me that drives my addiction beyond my control is also what fuels my sexual tendencies. I love some of the aspects of BDSM. Most people are more likely to assume that I would be more dominant because of my personality and what all I am about. But my sexual nature is completely submissive.

Its usually not about what most think. A lot of people dont understand it correctly. For me it doesnt come from any desire of being controlled. Its NOT because I can be played. If I think someones manipulating me I will mind fuck them so hard theyll need therapy afterwards. It has nothing to do with feeling obligated to please a man
Its more about a man providing an atmosphere that promotes the trust and confidence that I need to become completely vulnerable. Then I allow him to have his way with me. Heres a good way to look at it...this doesnt make me a whore....it makes me his whore. Thats turns me on. Everyones different.

I don't have any insight from a female doms perspective but I can tell you all about what churns my butter about being a sub if you want.
 
iridescentblack said:
You support what- girls?
iridescentblack said:
You support what- girls?
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@iridescentblackp sorry obviously didn't read your post last night before responding in a way I must have thought would get cheap laughs...and I can't even blame etizolam. I'm not sure what it was. Maybe just a pavlovian response....

Aside from that yours is a problem I wouldn't mind having, minus the person trying to kill me part. Incidentally I wonder how much that adds to your attractiveness it certainly adds to your mystique... However I like how you left many strands of the story open.

It sounds to me like you're coming into your own and perhaps you have something of a bad boy persona that probably would be attractive to a domme if your feeling turns out to be true. That characteristic is often compensatory in a person with a gentle nature.

I twice hired a dominatrix, one time was just so-so but the other time was maybe the best $300 I ever spent. Afterwards we talked amiably and I was amazed at how she had transformed into a warm & sweet normal girl. Perhaps she felt comfortable to let her guard down (maybe due to the explosive nature of the orgasm I had achieved with the skillful help of her feet)
 
Kellsee said:
Sometimes I feel like the part of me that drives my addiction beyond my control is also what fuels my sexual tendencies. I love some of the aspects of BDSM. Most people are more likely to assume that I would be more dominant because of my personality and what all I am about. But my sexual nature is completely submissive.

Its usually not about what most think. A lot of people dont understand it correctly. For me it doesnt come from any desire of being controlled. Its NOT because I can be played. If I think someones manipulating me I will mind fuck them so hard theyll need therapy afterwards. It has nothing to do with feeling obligated to please a man
Its more about a man providing an atmosphere that promotes the trust and confidence that I need to become completely vulnerable. Then I allow him to have his way with me. Heres a good way to look at it...this doesnt make me a whore....it makes me his whore. Thats turns me on. Everyones different.

I don't have any insight from a female doms perspective but I can tell you all about what churns my butter about being a sub if you want.
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I get you completely and you know what because me and most of the men in my generation were raised by feminism to believe the very notion of whore was always and ever derogatory Thanks for opening my eyes
 
darvocet21 said:
I get you completely and you know what because me and most of the men in my generation were raised by feminism to believe the very notion of whore was always and ever derogatory Thanks for opening my eyes
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Oh my gosh!!! You have no idea how much I know exactly where you are coming from! Its crazy how you even mentioned feminism lmao! My oldest daughter is super feminist. Although I support whoever she is....its exactly why I feel so motivated to explain my take on it from this perspective. The irony of how most misinterpret and how it really is becomes so irritating. I think so much of it is about loyalty for me. When you are picky people tend to think that its because you're arrogant or conceited. Or its because you think you are too good for others. No. I am super humble. Its just that the more decisive I am about who I allow in my cookie jar the more intense its gonna be when I do. I get off in getting them off. I want him to feel like a god when he busts that nut lmaooo. To get what turns me on out of a man thats my type it takes nurturing him until its released. Plus theres something about being able to give him apart of me that most never get. I think a lot of women that are more submissive can relate. Theres no right or wrong way. We are all different. I just hate it when people assign condescending associations to everything they dont understand. If it doesnt float your boat you are not gonna understand it. And thats perfectly ok. But to allow that to dictate your opinions about it is the true definition of arrogance imo ya know.
 
Kellsee said:
Oh my gosh!!! You have no idea how much I know exactly where you are coming from! Its crazy how you even mentioned feminism lmao! My oldest daughter is super feminist. Although I support whoever she is....its exactly why I feel so motivated to explain my take on it from this perspective. The irony of how most misinterpret and how it really is becomes so irritating. I think so much of it is about loyalty for me. When you are picky people tend to think that its because you're arrogant or conceited. Or its because you think you are too good for others. No. I am super humble. Its just that the more decisive I am about who I allow in my cookie jar the more intense its gonna be when I do. I get off in getting them off. I want him to feel like a god when he busts that nut lmaooo. To get what turns me on out of a man thats my type it takes nurturing him until its released. Plus theres something about being able to give him apart of me that most never get. I think a lot of women that are more submissive can relate. Theres no right or wrong way. We are all different. I just hate it when people assign condescending associations to everything they dont understand. If it doesnt float your boat you are not gonna understand it. And thats perfectly ok. But to allow that to dictate your opinions about it is the true definition of arrogance imo ya know.
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Love your honesty and sexiness ... it reminds me of a quote attributed to Timothy Leary: "intelligence is the ultimate aphrodisiac." Thanks Kellsee
♾ may you become infinite love❤
 
darvocet21 said:
Love your honesty and sexiness ... it reminds me of a quote attributed to Timothy Leary: "intelligence is the ultimate aphrodisiac." Thanks Kellsee
♾ may you become infinite love❤
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Ty! Thats very kind of you! You seem very intelligent. I actually tried to respond to a few of your posts lastnight but kept gettin intercepted by hungry teenage boys. My son keeps a house full so I do a lot of cooking. Intelligence is very sexy! I am a huge quote person! Yours made me think of one of my favs by Rob Siltanen...

"Here's to the crazy ones, the misfits, the rebels, the troublemakers, the round pegs in the square holes... the ones who see things differently -- they're not fond of rules... You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify or vilify them, but the only thing you can't do is ignore them because they change things... they push the human race forward, and while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius, because the ones who are crazy enough to think that they can change the world, are the ones who do."
 
Kellsee said:
Ty! Thats very kind of you! You seem very intelligent. I actually tried to respond to a few of your posts lastnight but kept gettin intercepted by hungry teenage boys. My son keeps a house full so I do a lot of cooking. Intelligence is very sexy! I am a huge quote person! Yours made me think of one of my favs by Rob Siltanen...

"Here's to the crazy ones, the misfits, the rebels, the troublemakers, the round pegs in the square holes... the ones who see things differently -- they're not fond of rules... You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify or vilify them, but the only thing you can't do is ignore them because they change things... they push the human race forward, and while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius, because the ones who are crazy enough to think that they can change the world, are the ones who do."
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You aren't by any chance a MILF?
 
tubgirl.jpg said:
Why are you calling yourself a whore? Even if it was for the lolz, it seems to carry some weight.
I'm a whore too in that case, but too dumb to charge people.

I'm just asking out of curiosity. :)
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I wasn't lol. I was using that statement as an analogy in reference to the meaning behind what I was saying....if that makes sense...its hard to explain lol
 
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