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Getting gf horny enough for anal without using coke

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Sorry: Title should be getting gf horny enough for anal WITHOUT using coke

Been a while bl ! :D so my gf and I pretty much decided to give up our rage lifestyles, in order to raise our son, who is now 2. We don't really use drugs anymore besides the occasional bowl and beer. Our sex life is good and playful. Occasionally, on the rare occasion we do go out, we might do some cocaine, which we have both enjoyed in the past.

When we do coke together, we both get crazy uninhibited and dirty. My gf turns into a horny little slut, begging me for butt sex, which I am understandably really into. Afterwards though, we feel regret, especially my gf, not about the sex, but about doing coke, since my gf used to have a serious problem and we are trying to be responsible parents and shit.

Do y'all have any ideas for how she and I can get her feeling horny enough and dirty enough to want anal sex without us having to do drugs?
 
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Can you not just stick a porn film on to watch together or read some dirty stories to get you both revved up?
How about a bit of dressing up and doing some role play that may help to get her in the mood if you can act out a fantasy of hers.
Good luck man.
 
You could go to a sex store and pick out sex toys that you both want to try out. And then when the kids are asleep have fun maybe video tape it and watch it later during your next sex session!
 
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You're pretty wrong. There is a stickied thread about drug talk in SLR so I'm not sure how you came to that conclusion.

To the OP, I suggest tease and denial.
Make her crave you, then she might want you in her ass.
 
this is a perfectly legitimate thread.

the problem here is that cocaine makes people VERY horny (as a strong brew coca tea aficionado i understand your problem)

basically you want to recreate that mega horny behaviour. hmmm somehow i dont think you'll be able to do it without the stimulants because without stims i'm just a normal level of horny. for me anal sex only feels good on serotonergic stims (mdma,mda,4fmp,etc.). sober it just plain hurts.

does she enjoy it physically without cocaine or is it just because she feels its dirty normally/lacks the cokey confidence to not worry about poop issues?

either way its a very expensive habit just to get some buttsex
 
Abject said:
You're pretty wrong. There is a stickied thread about drug talk in SLR so I'm not sure how you came to that conclusion.

To the OP, I suggest tease and denial.
Make her crave you, then she might want you in her ass.
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I gave the sticky a re read. I don't post much on SLR anymore. Everyone makes a mistake here and there. MY bad I will edit my post;)
 
pofacedhoe said:
does she enjoy it physically without cocaine or is it just because she feels its dirty normally/lacks the cokey confidence to not worry about poop issues?
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Yeah, this.
I'd expect if the two of you stay away from coke/stims long enough she might develop a taste for it regardless, but she'd definitely have to stay away from those drugs for a while so that she doesn't have that as a strong point of comparison I think. Is she usually inhibited during sober sex or is it just regarding anal?
 
Maybe go to a sex shop and find some toys?

Plan a romantic night, just the two of you, make it romantic, go from there!
 
I think that your gf likes anal, but is only excited enough to overcome her inhibitions after snorting coke.
Here it seems to me that your best approach is getting her to accept that anal is ok even when not high.
Trouble is, certain drugs just seem to make your butt feel like the best thing in the world.
I know cos this happens to me with mdma.
Possibly you could encourage her to play with her anus during masturbation.
Enough perhaps to arouse her to the possibilities of having anal when straight.
The adult store and porn are possibilities although rather confrontational.
Have you watched the Taormino videos about anal?
 
blue_locus said:
Occasionally, on the rare occasion we do go out...
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Try re-creating the "free" feeling of going out, and in fact do go out, and if possible enjoy some of the same exact stuff you normally do (is it going out to a club together?, going out to eat/date?, is it just getting a hotel or something to get high and have sex in?), just without the drugs.
 
I want anal so bad but my GF only let me try it a few times when she's drunk and it doesn't last very long. I don't even want to ask her again because I know she doesn't want to do it and is just doing it for my sake, that's not what I want. It's a damn shame 'cos I really just want to bend her over and blow up her ass :(
 
Thanks for the great ideas all! We've used a couple of them and will utilize more in the future! I think the main difficulty for us is finding enough time to really get down to business with our 2 year-old: always feeling rushed even if we have a night off. I imagine as he gets a little older it'll be easier cause he can stay with grandma longer, like a full 24 hours or something, at least.

In hindsight, I guess my real fear wasn't about being able to get really pornographic without coke, it was about keeping sex interesting and novel since that is a big deal for the both of us.

But there will never be a shortcut there like dopaminergic stimulants provides
 
That's great, I know it can be a challenge with a toddler keeping up spontaneity.
(easier with a babysitter!) <3
 
I've found that being drunk helps me enjoy anal more than I would sober. Not too drunk, just the right amount.

Maybe you could make it a special occasion? Go out for dinner (or whatever you please), crack open a bottle of wine, and have some fun :D
 
Yeah, the problem here is not just the level of horniness that she has for wanting anal but HOW the anal sex actually feels to her when she's getting pounded in the ass...there are definitely plenty of ways to just GET her horny enough to have anal sex, but I'd have to agree that stimulants like coke and amps, etc. make it feel a thousand times more positive when they're taking it up the ass. Speaking from experience as a top...

Also, surprised to not see this brought up, but since girls don't have prostates, they don't receive the same stimulation when they receive anal sex that (gay) men do. Just saying, there's nothing technically special to stimulate the woman when she's getting it up the ass, so it's pretty much up to her if she's willing to take it or not...
 
Prostate stimulation is not the be all and end all of anal sex IMHO.
Sexologists speculate about why some people find receiving anal pleasurable and others not.
Personally I think anal stimulates the muscles and nerves of the pubo-rectal sling, and perhaps other nerve endings as well.
My anal orgasms require penetration far deeper than the prostate.
 
i agree with most of the people here. first you need to get her to think it's okay - whatever is holding her back you need to talk about it. Is she insecure about her butthole? That thing can be a stinker. Does it hurt? Buy some lube. Express to her how badly you wanna do it (and why) and ask what it'd take to make her comfortable enough while sober. tell her you just wanna see if you can make it pleasurable just once for her.

second you need to make her hornier and more relaxed than ever. perhaps if you're good enough with your hands a full body massage could work. massage her back, her neck, her hands, her arms, her ass, her feet, her legs(swedish massage), her boobs(swedish as well, deep tissue on her upper chest), her pubic region(don't actually touch her pussy - just massage everywhere around it - you'd be surprised how many knots fester down in their pubic region) and spend an hour or two getting every last knot out of her body. she'll feel so euphoric from the endorphins it might be comparable to mdma and be enough.

third maybe you could look into natural aphrodisiacs? i've never had any luck with them but you never know. she'd likely not feel guilty at all with these.
 
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