Getting Back Together Stories

[RhythmSpring]

Do you have any? Where you had a long-term meaningful relationship, broke up, and got back together more than a year later?

Does this even happen? Ever?

 

[Pharcyde]

i dont think it ever happens

 

[T. Calderone]

I'm sure it does happen that people reconnect with an old love. Never with me though.
I've had on-again, off-again sort of relationships. But after a year, no.

 

[Pagey]

I'm sure it's possible if both people have grown and matured in the meantime and managed to learn from their mistakes...but I doubt it happens very often. If at one time, breaking up was the only solution you could find to dealing with your relationship problems, I think it's probably quite unusual you manage to find other ways to address them later on. You'd certainly need for a lot of time to have gone by since the break-up. I've never heard of people happy in a constantly on-again off-again relationship.

 

[Maya]

Yes I am actually in one right now.. We met last 2006 and broke up after a year and started dating again early this year and our relationship has been stronger than ever.. I believe in destiny and if you are really meant to be together no matter how long you are apart if it's you and him/her and you it will happen

 

[HCandKROD]

Yeah, I lived with a girl from 1987 to '93 then we broke up due to a lot of different things. She had a horrible temper and I had an alcohol problem. Went our way till 1997 we met again in Atlanta airport. We dated and got married in 1998. I had been sober for 3 years but she still had a bad temper. I ended up telling her to go to hell in March 2000. Haven't seen her since but heard she is on a mental disability. I learned my lesson once is enough with seeing someone. Never try it again.

 

[95Land]

I dated a girl in high school for a couple years. I did and do absolutely love her.
She kinda/sorta spurned me for someone else and then went to college. I did my best to move on in my own direction.

The feelings never really went away, though. I spent the next decade addicted to various drugs, mostly dope. I knew she was graduated and married. I didn't know that her husband was a complete sociopath and that they were both addicted to heroin and she was also a alcoholic.

I ended up moving back to the area we're from, she was still there and I found out her husband was now her ex-husband and he was also in jail. So, I sent out some feelers through people we both know to see what her deal was.

It turned out she had gotten sober. I got her digits from someone, we started talking again, and I found from talking to her that her feelings seemed to be in line with where I was at.

We got back together a year and a half ago. It's far from perfect, but it is a lost love, finally fixed, type situation.
When things are going good, I think about how crazy it is that we ended up back together and it almost makes me wanna cry. Then there's other times when I wished I'd left things alone.
But I suppose that's about par for any relationship. The ups and downs just seem a bit more extreme. Overall, it's pretty cool that it ended up happening. So, yes. It does happen. .

 

[Johnny1]

I was with a girl in three separate stages, the last one with us getting engaged and then breaking up six months later, and I haven't seen her since. I had thought she was "the one," but it turned out I felt differently when I was facing marriage to her.

Between the second and third time we were together, I dated a woman for three weeks. I thought things were going great, but then she told me I was a pompous ass and broke up with me. I think it was because she was scared, because we had potential for a permanent relationship and she wasn't ready for it; she would probably disagree. I ran into her four years later and we started dating again. Now we've been married for 10 years and have a wonderful daughter.

 

[Jean-Paul]

i started seeing my ex again recently and promptly fell in love with his old friend about two months later. i think he knows we are a better match despite his dramatic scenes (ie claiming in person that we would still be friends and he dgaf and a goodbye hug and then going on this weird facebook freak out once he got home. apparently i was a "whore" who "cheated on him" even though we were in a limp as fuck "maybe" relationship where he thought he could just keep me a secret and ignore me and i'd always be there for him). oh please.he's just so dead now. he plays video games. and plays video games. and doesn't do anything interesting. i was impressed by his filmmaking and creativity in the beginning but didn't realize he didn't care enough to actually keep doing it and would keep it his claim to fame for life. and he was constantly on my ass about 'watching my behavior' from shit that happened years ago, and it was like that was fucking years ago, does time not move for you? do you not evolve? he honestly thought i'd never get over him and so he felt like he could be whatever piece of shit he felt like. now he is free to be a deadbeat without worrying about having to change.
i found a better catch who is still misanthropic enough but not as nihilist and it's been great for my head. and it's actually cool he grew up with my ex, because he understands me better for being the type of person who would love him, and knew i had to have some intelligence.
i never thought i'd be able to fall in love again, it just seems like one of those once in a lifetime things.
i mean i have had bullshit dating experiences but not serious loving someone besides my ex. so it was like. light at the end of tunnel.
i don't understand people who have been together forever, but i've changed a whole hell of a lot in my life. my first boyfriend grossed me out after about two years. i just realized i wanted nothing to do with him or any association with him and had to completely change myself. but everyone at my high school knew us as "that couple" (you know the sad looking ones in band shirts sitting on the floor) and i had a huge existential crisis and just started drinking cough syrup and reading philosophy books obsessively and stopped talking to everyone and started wearing really horrible things like bright purple corduroy pants from the seventies. then i dropped out. so yeah, i'd say i dealt with that personality crisis pretty well. i even had a really great phase where i pretended to like to go to raves and deal with ravers like three times, and that is just time i can never get back.

 

[Maya]

I was actually jealous of couples who have been together forever but at the same time.. At some point in the relationship either one will get tired of the same old routine and would want to explore.. unless both are willing to open up to other stuff I guess the relationship will be exciting again..

 

[Pretty_Diamonds]

Send her flowers! "Thinking of you--would love to hear from you -<insert number>, <your name>"

 

[double ewe]

did several years of on/off with my high school girlfriend. the hurt and frustration from breaking-up accumulated, rather than going away once we got back together. eventually it became more resentment than affection.