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Ladyfiend

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I have genital warts - they flare up occasionally and it does my head in. Luckily my partner is cool with it, but that doesn't stop me feeling humiliated whenever one rears its ugly little head.

So.. Who has had them? What is your preferred remedy for their removal?
 
hahaha, I do not have genital warts, but I have a birth mark (not on my penis but in the area), and one time many moons ago a friend of mine was giving me this blowjob, and a few seconds after starting, she said, "wait! soandso said you had a wart.... i can't do this" I was like "uhm, no, its a birthmark and wtf why is he saying that to you?"... hahaha, was quite awkward, but i was tripping so it was kind of hilarious. because it was not a real wart, she continued. Nowadays I have my beauitiful fiance of 5 years and she couldn't care less... its not even unattractive per say, so I havn't had it removed. But man, if I had warts? Fuck that!
 
Ladyfiend said:
I have genital warts - they flare up occasionally and it does my head in. Luckily my partner is cool with it, but that doesn't stop me feeling humiliated whenever one rears its ugly little head.

So.. Who has had them? What is your preferred remedy for their removal?
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Geez girl, you are brave (posting this)!! I would be so sensitive about a subject like this that I would be worried about asshole comments.

That's not to say that it is not one of the most common STDs and there are way more people with them than ever admit to it. I don't have them, but I was always kind of a freak about making sure people wore condoms until I knew them well/was in a one on one relationship. Not to say youyou didn't use one cause it is one of things you can have any contact with and end up with it. Plus a lot of people lie or don't even realize they have them. Men especially can have them and not even have symptoms or realize it. Ok...I will quit stumbling along there before I make ass of myself.

But since you brought the subject up I have a question (if you don't mind). How do you approach the subject when you are with someone new. I know you are in a long term relationship now but how do/did you handle it when it came to time to be with a new partner? I always wondered.

Years and years ago I worked at a juvenile detention center for boys for a few years and you wouldn't believe the number of kids that would come in saying "hey miss nurse, what is this bump on my penis" (of course some of them just wanted to show their little weiners off). But at the end of the day I used to always think how it sucked for so many of these kids to have herpes and genital warts (and worse for a few), something they would have affect them the rest of their lives. I would cringe knowing as youngsters they were spreading it around to tons of people. I would try to educate them on the importance of protection and informing partners. That was never well received and I was never sure how to tell them to go about informing potential partners. Secondly I felt bad knowing that one day they would want to be with someone for more than a fling and thought about how hard it would be to tell someone you really cared about and chance having that person say oh hell no, I don't want any part of that.

Of course, I'm not implying you should be ashamed or anything I just wondered how you handled it and how most people reacted when you told them (if you did). Genital warts, whether anyone wants to admit it or not, is so much more common these days anyways that it might not be met with the same notions as it was when I was much younger. Now there are also a few more effective treatments than there used to be for herpes and warts so that is a plus.

Anyways I was just curious, since you brought the subject up, if you don't mind sharing how you dealt with this issue.
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Ok Ok I am sorry, that was rude. And hey, I havn't ever been that rude nor am I normally . I guess I should be more sympathetic, I am sorry. Isn't there a cure for warts though??
 
Ladyfiend said:
I have genital warts - they flare up occasionally and it does my head in. Luckily my partner is cool with it, but that doesn't stop me feeling humiliated whenever one rears its ugly little head.

So.. Who has had them? What is your preferred remedy for their removal?
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Don't let it do your head in.

HPV is so common that more than half of all sexually active people will get it at some point in their lives
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Have you seen your doctor? Have they given you options for removal? I've had (non-genital) warts frozen off and it's fairly painless.

Magickduck said:
I have a birth mark (not on my penis but in the area)
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I have 2 birthmarks, one on my penis and the other where my thigh connects to the crotch, and both of them have been confused for STD's 8(
 
I first had mine frozen off... Then I did it myself when they returned.

It actually stopped me from pursuing a relationship with a girl I really liked... Or rather sealing the deal and showing how interested I was. I went to kiss her as we laid next to each other, to express that at least some communication from the mouths should stay, in response to something she said about preferring not to use our mouths to talk. Would have been a great way to start things. She was receptive... but the depressing reality that I couldn't continue how I wanted to without awkwardness then, hit. I didn't want to hide it from someone I didn't want to hide from. Not that I had really obvious symptoms but I was feeling rather serious about her. Fuck God. Really. Fucking asshole.

This out of the way... 5 years later... I don't care the same about the disease. I have faced magnitudes worse, and it sounds awesome that you found the truth of a boyfriend who doesn't care. Life happens. If we all got so embarrassed and stopped having sex if we got this disease, I have been told, we would stop reproducing. Maybe exaggeration but still.
 
Genital warts should be removed. They are caused by HPV, which puts you at risk from all kinds of things later in life.
I have heard that HPV infection is rising. Getting your warts treated will help in combating the spread of infection.
 
I don't have them but I know a lot of gay men who got them from anal sex and who gave them to partners and whoever they had sex with since they had them and just wouldn't tell or thought they couldn't infect others or that having them removed would stop them from infecting other people but thats not true, and I know a few gay men who stopped having receptive anal sex completely because of them. I have met other people who claimed they had throat cancer caused by HPV but in reality it was from something else.
 
To answer your question, Missmeyet, I sometimes go years without getting a single wart, so if I am single and haven't had a wart for ages and it's just casual sex, I never mention HPV, and would always use a condom.

If I'm getting serious about someone and we decide we want to stop using condoms, I discuss my HPV history and let them know that if my immune system is down, I could possibly have a wart flare up.

If I am single and develop a wart, I do not have sex at all. Even though the wart is so small and would never be noticed, I still avoid sex even with a condom.

My current partner and previous one were both totally unaffected when I told them about my HPV and warts. If a guy didn't want to be with me because of that then I straight up wouldn't want to be with that sort of person anyway.
 
"HPV is so common that nearly all sexually-active men and women get it at some point in their lives. This is true even for people who only have sex with one person in their lifetime." from here> http://www.cdc.gov/std/hpv/stdfact-hpv.htm.. did you read that ducky:p I wouldnt sweat it at all.. sorry you experience the warts.. but it really is not a big deal at all
 
Magickduck said:
But man, if I had warts? Fuck that!
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how is this helpful?

this woman has to deal with a real situation.

its not life threatening it just had a social stigma attached to it. i have a wart on my right index finger and i cant even be bothered to deal with it. i had warts as a child, then got rid of them now this ones back. i also cannot shift athletes foot. you get rid of it, then go swimming then it comes back...

anyway i dont know what advice to give you other than work on your confidence. you could have a prolapse/hernia which is much more serious and affects your sex life more so be thankful its just a cosmetic issue rather than a structural one

learn to accept yourself and be thankful for the good health you do have. it doesn't always come as standard
 
pofacedhoe said:
how is this helpful?

this woman has to deal with a real situation.

its not life threatening it just had a social stigma attached to it. i have a wart on my right index finger and i cant even be bothered to deal with it. i had warts as a child, then got rid of them now this ones back. i also cannot shift athletes foot. you get rid of it, then go swimming then it comes back...

anyway i dont know what advice to give you other than work on your confidence. you could have a prolapse/hernia which is much more serious and affects your sex life more so be thankful its just a cosmetic issue rather than a structural one

learn to accept yourself and be thankful for the good health you do have. it doesn't always come as standard
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Genital warts can be life threatening since they can give people anal cancer, cervical cancer, throat cancer, and they're easily transmitted and people get infected and spread them easily.
 
I know first hand how life threatening it can be - the HPV has already caused severe dysplasia on my cervix in the past which resulted in me having to have laser surgery about 10 years ago to prevent the cancerous cells from spreading further. I was only 17 at the time, and if it weren't for early intervention, I would have needed to have a hysterectomy, or worse.
 
Ladyfiend said:
To answer your question, Missmeyet, I sometimes go years without getting a single wart, so if I am single and haven't had a wart for ages and it's just casual sex, I never mention HPV, and would always use a condom.

If I'm getting serious about someone and we decide we want to stop using condoms, I discuss my HPV history and let them know that if my immune system is down, I could possibly have a wart flare up.

If I am single and develop a wart, I do not have sex at all. Even though the wart is so small and would never be noticed, I still avoid sex even with a condom.

My current partner and previous one were both totally unaffected when I told them about my HPV and warts. If a guy didn't want to be with me because of that then I straight up wouldn't want to be with that sort of person anyway.
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Sounds like you are being safe and notifying your partners before getting into a serious relationship. Good stuff. As guys, that's all we ask.
 
I once flared out, I freaked the hell out. Weird thing was I got fevers feeling dizzy it was really painful when I had to go toilet. For a couple of days I couldn't sleep and Finally got the courage to go docs and got everything checked up!! Thankfully I didn't have anything. Apparently it was a sever yeast infection that just got out of control, I know gross but after a week of antibiotics It never happened again, this was about a year ago.
 
Theres something called Wartrol for getting rid of genital warts. According to the CDC, 80% of the western world will deal with genital warts at some time in their lives.

Personally I might be happier with occasional genital warts. I currently get cold sores, and its right out there in the open for everyone to gawk at when I get one. Talk about embarassing.
 
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