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ronthedon

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everyone loves there family in some way...but in this thread if your parents or family has pissed you off, fucked you over, snagged your stash, got you arrested, kicked you out, or just fucked your life up beyond repair post your story please. Im sure in this community of people there are lots of good stories out there. please share...

heres mine

MOM: thought i had a drug problem all through high school because i wanted to smoke weed and drink on weekends at parties. Treated me like a downright criminal and used to act like a goddamn detective about every aspect of my life.

DAD (no relationship) showed up at a party i had at my moms house when he was barely in my life and beat the fuck out of me in front of like 30 people. A neighbor called the cops on him and we both got arrested. Him for assault(i was 18 ) and me for an underage.

this is just my example of me and i cant wait to here some others
 
I'll skip the family story. Suffice to say we don't get on :|

Things often improve with time though. Leaving home tends to help family frictions a lot and make communications better. Or at least bearable. Hang in there cos it gets easier <3

Sorry to hear your situation is less than ideal but you may find a thread like this is more suited to The Dark Side as it's more their territory. They're great for offering words of wisdom and support - can highly recommend it :)
 
Im so happy this turned up, so i can bitch about my day.

My mother just caught me blazing with my brother (im 20 hes 16). Im home on summer from college.

I know i was wrong, and can honestly say i wont do it with him until hes out of the house. But Mom insists we tell my dad about what happened tonight, and i know for sure he will be as pissed as hell- a fight could even breakout (almost has before).

I try to tell her, i wont do that shit again, i feel like shit, have felt like shit allllll day just sitting at home waiting for it to happen. I try to tell her things will be much better if we just dont bring this up to my dad. I tell her i might have to leave for a few days (if he doesnt kick my ass out) cause i cant handle the guilt, cause i do have a good relationship with my parents.

But i do feel you OP, i just smoke weed, and my mom thinks she has to be a fuckin detective. Im like 'get off my nuts'. She caught us cause she turned her car around this morning on the way to work to see if I was smoking before work. I want to slap her in the face, gooosh
 
why did you move my thread man? that fucked up... i wanted it in BDD because my thread was about parents and how they fuck up the lives of us so called "druggies" i dont want the responses from TDS viewers i want the people who frequent BDD to view this thread
 
Well i can't say anything but good about my mom really. Sure she drives me insane sometimes and can be more then naggy and sometimes comes off as not understanding of my drug use and overall situation at all but she really does care alot. She just gets frustrated that she can't do much to help my situation at all so thats when she lashes out.

As for my dad or do called dad i have nothing good to say about him at all really except for the fact that i don't have to see him much these days which is a very good thing. I often tell people i never had a dad and this is true because he was never there for me or my mom and never gave a fucking shit. The only time he even aknowledges my existence now is the occasional jab he takes at me such as "i see your smoking that weed again" or the famous "what are you doing lying around in bed all day" :|

The twat is so stupid that he doesent even bother to look around for me if someone calls and just says im in bed instead. He has done this several times when i havent set foot in my bed for days on end due to not sleeping. It's really fucking annoying when i have to call friends back just because he was too much of a cunt to bother to look around. Really he is very much like someone thats been in a phenobarbital stupor for the past 28 years.

The only way i can tolerate him, his stupid noise, his stupidity, his regurgatated anti-drug bullshit, racism and homophobia is on massive doses of opiates and benzos. If i ever have a kid and i think someday i will once i settle down im sure i wil be a much better father then he ever was. Hell if i show up i'd be a better dad then him :|
 
Well i don't feel like going through my whole story about my family, too much to type. But I can say that I've been kicked out many times, fucked over on probation because of my mom calling my PO and telling her what she thought I was up to, then when my PO violated me and it was decided that i'd be going to jail my mom called me a scumbag and said she never wanted to see me again, even though it was partly her fault i was violated in the first place. Many other experiences along the same lines, lots of cops, lots of being kicked out, but this last time i got kicked out for good. Im kinda glad about it though.

through it all though I can't say that I hate my family. I did some pretty nasty shit to them too....don't blame them at all for kicking me out of the family and telling me not to call or visit anymore. Its mostly my own fault.
 
Love both of my parents very much, cannot imagine how they put up with the amount of BS that I and my siblings have put them through. They provided me with love, support, a roof and an education. Sure they are not perfect and both made some major mistakes but that happens.

When I was a teen and very early 20's I used to complain about them. Now I realize just how lucky I am.

OP, stop smoking buds in your parents house. If you must smoke at the very least go outside.

My parents didn't care that I smoked when I came home from college, they just didn't need it up in there face. That includes things like coming to dinner high and whatnot.
 
^^^ i dont live with my mom im 19 years old....i go to college and live with my girlfriend as well as work 30 hour weeks all while putting massive amounts of oxy up my nose =) but i just visit with my mom and ill be slightly high and all i will do is giggle or talk more then usual.....wny should that bother her, dont parents like to see there kids smile? im honest with my ma when she asks if i smoked or am high? im an adult and i wish my ma would treat me like one


and dont be an fucken asshole man just no nead
 
My mom loves me, but she's a sociopathic narcissist, so her behavior isn't very loving. My dad loves me, but he's bipolar and one of those "flaky genius" types, so his behavior isn't very loving. My brother is a lot like my mom and knocked me out cold while I was babysitting him once and has threatened me with a knife - and that was all around age 8. I will leave the rest of the dynamic for y'all to figure out... Suffice it to say, I do not like my family. They gave me PTSD.
 
^sorry to be off topic but I thought that sociopaths can't love and have no compassion for others. That's what I always got from reading about them.
 
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^sorry to be off topic but I thought that sociopaths can't love and have no compassion for others. That's what I always got from reading about them.
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They can fake emotions but don't really feel them on the same level as non-sociopaths do. They are pretty good at blending in and appearing normal though, so it's not unheard of them having a family.
 
Yeah, she's sociopathic, not a complete sociopath. You can tell that almost anything resembling emotion that comes out of her is fake if you know her at all. Some people can even tell that don't know her that well. She's incredibly brilliant, so she's gotten pretty much everything she wanted most of her life, and she's extremely good at manipulating. So good that I almost killed myself, twice... I'm 25 and I'm *just* getting over my childhood.
 
I wouldn't say my family fucked me over in any way, they just never knew how to go about things- loving and caring for me (and my siblings) in the right manner. *Currently everyone is on good terms, and that's usually the way it is (minus the brother who has always seemed to be absent, or most absent). I do say, I was the luckiest of children in terms of treatment. My sister, I believe, was verbally abused - now suffers from BDD, and is recovering from bulimia. She's moved on literally (and in the way you're thinking) - she moved to Germany and has grown up a lot. She looks up to me....'I' always acted as the parent (even for my parents...).

My brother was kicked out of the house 'a lot'. He would threaten to kill my parents and us in our sleep. He was a drug addict, severely depressed. My father beat him from toddler age through early teen years. I'll never forget the screams, and the crack of that belt (it makes me get chills just thinking about it). Can't see he's really 'moved on' - 4 yrs in military (to 'shape up'), now has PTS, GAD (and who knows what else), a kid, he's divorced, alcoholic (recovered), and always unemployed. I am his mother.

Me? They treated me alright. Middle child, wah wah wah. They had high expectations. Result? Typical-acted out in teen years. Parents crashed many a party. They'd show up at 5am and I'd be there with a beer in my hand. Found my pipes, my 'pill and razor tin', searched my room on a several times a week basis. = me being first depressed, a self injurer, anorexic, bulimic. (all of those are now 'over'), and currently...a drug addict.

"yay" a happy family. Interestingly enough, on the outside (as with so many families) we DO look perfect: parents just moved to a farm in the country with a yard that looks like a national park (even has a waterfall), my sister is beautiful with a beautiful b/f, I have had straight A's through College - going to grad school. -I feel like I'm writing a paper. END !
 
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