Some of what you say sounds typical of more feminine guys, or guys with more feminine energy, who are stronger when it comes to the feminine qualities or attitbutes. They can be extremely comfortable to be around and easy to interact with but unable to create aattraction, not to mention sexual attraction in most women. I prefer a guy to have some of both, or ideally a bit stronger on the masculine side to create more male-female attraction or opposite-sex fascination.
This is actually important to consider in attraction and male female relationships in general. Guys who are more masculine can make you feel uncomfortable and be hard to talk to, but they can produce more feelings of respect and are naturally more sexually exciting and better at seduction (also more sexual and confident that way in general). From experience the guys I've been with have either been:
a) More feminine - Can be some wonderful relationships, easy to relate to, and you seem to have a lot in common. They tend to have much love to give and be easy to connect with or get close to. In touch with their feelings and comfortable talking about them and expressing them. Typically fulfills all the female relationship-needs easily, as they're so much like yourself and tend to have the same needs and feelings. There are few conflicts or personal differences in general. Seems perfect in many ways, except lower on attraction and sexual interest.
I find there are basiclly two kinds - the kind that is more platonic, sex with them is not that interesting and seems more unnatural, this type isn't that good as you're more like friends and it's kind of boring. The other type is more romantic, or can generate more male-female attraction, and you can have a strong sexual relationship in a more romantic way. This can feel very ideal and what they are lacking in more strong masculine attraction they make up for in other ways.
b) The opposite, stronger on the masculine side or when it comes to the masculine qualities, like strength, power, confidence, etc. Weaker when it comes to the feminine side and more cold with less love to give. Also you can be very different with many natural differences and different needs in a relationship. It will be more like the "Agree to disagree" kind of thing if you still choose to be together, while there is basis for a LOT of conflict if you let it turn out that way as you're so different in many ways.
Their great strength is attraction, not like the attraction of two who feel alike and have a lot in common, but more like the attraction of opposites and fascination you can feel with something different. This can feel very exciting, stimulating, or the opposite of boring and can make up for much of what they don't have. Sexual attraction can be extremely high. Not always the best romantic lovers, but you can to be happy just giving them pleasure and being more submissive to them, it's a bit hard to explain but it's more the type of attraction that goes along with nature and you can get a very strong rush just from touching each other.
But a relationship with someone like this can be hard in many ways if you yourself are more feminine, so it depends if you feel the sexual excitment, etc. is worth it. Because there are a lot of potential conflicts and you can't really fulfill each other's needs that well, which doesn't have to be as much of a problem for them as they tend to be not so sensitive or needy, and as long as you see them when they want and give them enough sex they're happy.
c) Someone who are strong in both or have a combination of both types of qualities and can fulfill both needs. This is not all that common, it's hard enough to find someone who are strong at one side, but they are out there. I just don't have much personal experience, or have managed to hook up with someone like that yet, so I can't really say what it's like but seems like it would be great and if you can choose I would definitely go for that.
This isn't something you can realy control as it's more something that comes natural, but you can influence it to some extent and it's something some guys could use becoming more aware of. Aniother thing is that different women REALLY respond to different things as far as this is concerned. Generally strong, masculine women (think Madonna) can only be attracted to strong masculine men, or who are at least as strong as them, and there's no point for a weak, feminine guy to even try. Unless they are the type who actually prefer weaker men as because they are so scared of men or need to feel in control to feel safe. In that case they can prefer it, though this makes for a pretty shitty relationship where the female is bossing you around and don't really have much genuine respect for you.
When it comes to weaker, more feminine women they can be intimated by very masculine men and sometimes look for someone as gentle and feminine as possible to feel safe. Then again others want someone as masculine as possible as they enjoy the attraction and like being dominated, or might even be looking to be abused, when it comes to the more unhealhy types.
Either way, definitely significant and very interesting overall and one of the first things I notice about a guy is his ratio of feminine/masculine energy and qualities. I'm about 2/3 feminine, 1/3 masculine, and seem to be attracted to both in different ways, and ideally I'd like someone the opposite, or 2/3 masculine. Lack of masculine or feminine energy makes someone out to be unstimulating or lacking in what they have to offer in different ways and will have certain social problems because of it. Though women who are 100% feminine can be very charming and in some cases work.
