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kurokuro

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So my bf and I have been going out for 3 years and we finally had a go at intercourse last week. We both come from strict homes so we didn't really have a time or place to do these things, though we have been fooling around and actively participating in oral sex.

After one such session, we decided to take the leap but were having a lot of trouble getting him in. He's what I'd say is average (its the only one I've seen in person) and we tried missionary with my legs around his waist or one over his shoulder, and with me on top. He kept his member up but when it became a game of how to get it in rather than 'make love' (is that too cliche?) I ended up drying up and we decided to try another time.

What would be something to do to help prepare for next time? Are there any pointers like better positions? I'm going to try and get some lube for next time already, so other advice would be quite welcome.
 
Missionary can be a kinda awkward I'd try doggy first a lot easier to get in at first. Have you had any penetration in 3 year you are most likely super tight?
 
Use lube, maybe get him to loosen you up with a finger or two first then I would suggest you on top - this way he will not be afraid if he is going too hard and you will be able to guide him home :)

Doggy could be useful but the problem with that is if he thrusts before your ready it could hurt you and spoil the fun.
 
Missionary should be a decent way to start off. If you don't get super wet (many females don't get wet enough for intercourse naturally), use lube!!!!
The first time that my ex and I had sex, it was the same thing. A bit embarrassing haha when it just won't "get in" and it's the first time for both of you. It's good when the two of you are comfortable with each other and you can just go slow and figure it out together instead of it being a new person and awkward and all that :)
 
lube and fingers....

If you've never been penetrated, possibly look into buying a small vibrator or dildo.... One of the bullet type ones. It might help to get you used to the sensation.
 
llama112 said:
If you don't get super wet (many females don't get wet enough for intercourse naturally), use lube!!!!
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Genuinely interested, is there a study or some research on that?
Is it a physical "handicap" or lack of excitement? I have a hard time believing many women wouldnt have the ability to get wet enough. But I can imagine, especially first timers, rushing, not taking their time, especially for the woman who definitely needs more time to get there than a guy does.
 
Everybody keeps saying lube, but what kind of foreplay was involved? Passionate kissing, kissing/licking/gently biting erogenous zones and oral are all important to building up the excitement that leads to intercourse.
 
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