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First she hits on me, then she tells me she's got a boyfriend?

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It's been going on for almost a month. There's this girl I met at school this year. We have a couple of classes together and first she was all over me, she had been touching my arm while we talked. She sat next to me and laughed at we I said. We never went out or talked about anything but school stuff but she seemed gaga for me. I didn't like her at all so I never really answered back. Although I never rejected her either.
On Friday I saw her again at school before a class and she managed to squeeze 'My boyfriend..' into the conversation about three times. In the class I ended up sitting between her and another girl, whom I do like (we'll call her "Second girl"). The first girl was all over me for the whole class. The second girl and I made arrangements to study together and she overheard so I kind of had to invite her too because no one knows anybody yet and we have been talking a lot. Later that day, I saw her again at another class and asked her for her number. This was when she basically waved in my face a phone with a photo of a guy.
I have no interest on this person, but I'd like to know what to think. Was she planning to cheat on her boyfriend. Or she doesn't have a boyfriend and she's teasing me? Or does she want me to ""fight"" for her? I don't like the sound of any of those.
 
Does sound like she wants you to dominate and bang her. but who knows maybe she's just an idiot giving mixed signals thinking she's SUPAH cool for having a bf.
 
Either way, it's a fkkt up way to act towards the OP.

Even though I am a female too... sometimes I hate us.
 
Whats her man got to do with you?
I have no interest on this person, but I'd like to know what to think. Was she planning to cheat on her boyfriend. Or she doesn't have a boyfriend and she's teasing me? Or does she want me to ""fight"" for her? I don't like the sound of any of those.
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So stop talking to her. Maybe she likes you and she wanted to see your reaction to her saying she's got a boyfriend, this way she has an idea of if you would be interested in her if she breaks up with her man. Some girls never want to be single, so they start working on a new boyfriend before they break up with their current one.
 
shimazu said:
is this in high school or college?
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It's first year college (feels very highschooly though)


p0ly said:
Does sound like she wants you to dominate and bang her. but who knows maybe she's just an idiot giving mixed signals thinking she's SUPAH cool for having a bf.
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Agreed, in this way she won't be getting MY attention.
 
She may be seeking attention and approval to boost low self-esteem. AKA attention whore. Or she could have started dating the guy AFTER flirting with you (You admitted to not showing interest), or she's trying to trade in old boy-toy for you, not wanting any single downtime. Women are strange creatures, but nonetheless they can get my attention so easily and be the most incredible people to be with. Don't get too wrapped up in her though, she may just be teasing you. That's all the scenarios I could think of currently.
 
Some women drop the boyfriend thing at opportune times to try and show you that she's desirable, someone out there wants here, why don't you?
 
Male dominated Sex and relationships on BL is so lame. Wow a woman flirted with you in class? She must be some attention-seeking whore-freak with low self-esteem. Either that or, you know, she has a flirty personality and when you invited her "to study together" she worried you had the wrong idea and compensated by letting you know (probably subtly in her mind) she was a taken woman.

"So I kind of had to invite her too because no one knows anybody yet and we have been talking a lot." Sure you did. You attention-seeking, lowdown manslut.
 
Yeah man shes just building fallback guys for when (and it will happen) she breaks up with her current boyfriend. I dont get what your question is. Like you said you werent interested in her, but youre obviously thinking about her enough to come on an internet forum and ask advice about the situation.
 
Beatlebot said:
Male dominated Sex and relationships on BL is so lame. Wow a woman flirted with you in class? She must be some attention-seeking whore-freak with low self-esteem. Either that or, you know, she has a flirty personality and when you invited her "to study together" she worried you had the wrong idea and compensated by letting you know (probably subtly in her mind) she was a taken woman.

"So I kind of had to invite her too because no one knows anybody yet and we have been talking a lot." Sure you did. You attention-seeking, lowdown manslut.
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lol.

You may be right about the attention-seeking, lowdown manslut thing but I did fell obligated to invite her, she was sitting right next to me when I made arrangements for studying and she had already asked me to get together earlier that day. So yes, I KIND OF had to invite her too... Plus she told me she had a boyfriend before class and it was that day when she began touching me and laying her head on my shoulder. I know, if I'm not interested then I just shouldn't pay attention, but I'm not gonna live my life pushing women away saying "sorry, not interested" I do am human, I do like physical contact even if it doesn't lead to anything, I have needs and me likey when women touch me, please let me know if that's wrong.
The reason I am asking about this is because this person belongs to a bigger group of people whom I've just met and I'd like to know who am I dealing with and who wants to fuck me, who wants to be my friend, and who is going to make my existence a little harder than it already is (ie who is going to tease me until I break -trust me, the manslut in me WILL break-, ask her out, and be toyed around once again).
I'm sorry for my tone but I've had a bad day and I don't like being called a manslut (which I am) when it doesn't call for it (which it doesn't).
 
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It does feel high school-ish. Is her boyfriend at another college? Long distance type thing?
She probably wants attention, I bet.

Just ignore her though, that'd probably be best.
 
Venrak said:
Maybe she began the relationship with her boyfriend after she started hitting on you?
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This was my first thought.

In any event, there's no telling what could be going on in her mind (or any woman's mind, for that matter ;) ). Maybe she saw something in you that turned her off. Maybe you misread her body language/intent. Honestly, if you're not into her and she has a boyfriend to boot, who cares? A year from now she'll be out of sight and out of mind. You're wasting too much brain energy on this.

Beatlebot said:
Male dominated Sex and relationships on BL is so lame. Wow a woman flirted with you in class? She must be some attention-seeking whore-freak with low self-esteem. Either that or, you know, she has a flirty personality and when you invited her "to study together" she worried you had the wrong idea and compensated by letting you know (probably subtly in her mind) she was a taken woman.

"So I kind of had to invite her too because no one knows anybody yet and we have been talking a lot." Sure you did. You attention-seeking, lowdown manslut.
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Nice to see you Beatlebot, hope you stick around.
 
Beatlebot said:
Male dominated Sex and relationships on BL is so lame. Wow a woman flirted with you in class? She must be some attention-seeking whore-freak with low self-esteem. Either that or, you know, she has a flirty personality and when you invited her "to study together" she worried you had the wrong idea and compensated by letting you know (probably subtly in her mind) she was a taken woman.

"So I kind of had to invite her too because no one knows anybody yet and we have been talking a lot." Sure you did. You attention-seeking, lowdown manslut.
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Why are you making judgments about this guy when you clearly didn't read the OP properly? You sound like a dick. Just sayin'.
 
She might be just flerting with you, for you can fall for her. Just have no intrest what do ever. Some are attention whores.
 
Hey there max Ive had the same problem before but instead I actually liked the girl unlike you in this situation not wanting her but she does sound clingy and wants your attention and YOU but in mine at first I didn't want a girl at school until one night I was all polluted and ended up having sex with her and so on but for you I don't have much to say but put in place and tell her outright "what do you want from me"
 
Typical first year college behaviour. She's getting to know people, as are you. Keep it cool and all things good will find you.
 
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