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First date! Feeling Exciting Also Nervous.

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caseyg.hatchell

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Feeling nervous. I'll go to my first date. We got introduced through Facebook two weeks before, after that we chatted a lot in FB.


After having chatting of couple of days we decided to meet finally in this Valentine day. I think it's a perfect and very special occasion.


So I what I should do or prepare myself. And also what type of gifts would be great for a good for him.


I must say he is very cute and I want to make a long term relationship with him, so guys please help me sharing best ideas to win a heart.


I have just finished reading this blog post contained very expert opinion regarding first date and how to win a heart at first glance.

I want some cute gift ideas from everyone, waiting for the replies.
 
No gifts (at least not beyond a modest box of chocolates or something like that), don't rush. There is no formula for winning someone's heart - either you click or you don't. Shooting for a long-term relationship with somebody you've known for two weeks is putting the cart before the horse. Relax, have fun, give both of you time to see if there's chemistry.
 
Hm, I think something small is cute. It IS valentine's day after all. I think cute little candies or chocolates would be cute. Just something small. I wouldn't suggest getting a card or anything. I feel like you just spend more effort on your outfit~!
 
You can get him a gift, it just needs to be cute, and not expensive, just thoughtful. Also remember, dudes do not think about this stuff as much as we do. What does he like, what is simple, and sweet, and perhaps a little funny? Maybe you could even go old school and make him like a legit valentine
 
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apatheist said:
No gifts (at least not beyond a modest box of chocolates or something like that), don't rush. There is no formula for winning someone's heart - either you click or you don't. Shooting for a long-term relationship with somebody you've known for two weeks is putting the cart before the horse. Relax, have fun, give both of you time to see if there's chemistry.
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Yes, I'm not making any rush movement. Just meeting with this guy this valentine day. Will try to have a lot of fun the whole day. Don't have any plan beyond talking and having fun.
 
nuttynutskin said:
Is this for real? You don't even know this person yet.
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Actually we're chatting for two weeks, and even we've video chatting as well. Kinda looking like a very cute and honest person, and that's why curious to meet with him physically. Nothing much for now at least.
 
Pretty_Diamonds said:
Hm, I think something small is cute. It IS valentine's day after all. I think cute little candies or chocolates would be cute. Just something small. I wouldn't suggest getting a card or anything. I feel like you just spend more effort on your outfit~!
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That's what I was also thinking about. A little chocolate would be cute from my point of view as well. Nothing more expensive at all for now.
 
Lylawinesnob said:
You can get him a gift, it just needs to be cute, and not expensive, just thoughtful. Also remember, dudes do not think about this stuff as much as we do. What does he like, what is simple, and sweet, and perhaps a little funny? Maybe you could even go old school and make him like a legit valentine
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For now I'm planning to give him chocolate. Thanks for the ideas.
 
caseyg.hatchell said:
Actually we're chatting for two weeks, and even we've video chatting as well. Kinda looking like a very cute and honest person, and that's why curious to meet with him physically. Nothing much for now at least.
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My point was you haven't even physically hung out with this person and in your first post you sound like you're practically ready to marry the guy. If you come across as too serious on the first date it could likely scare him off because it's going to seem like you're needy and desperate. I agree with Diamonds that a small Valentine's Day thing would be fine, but other than that you're going on this date to get to know the guy in real life.
 
nuttynutskin said:
My point was you haven't even physically hung out with this person and in your first post you sound like you're practically ready to marry the guy. If you come across as too serious on the first date it could likely scare him off because it's going to seem like you're needy and desperate. I agree with Diamonds that a small Valentine's Day thing would be fine, but other than that you're going on this date to get to know the guy in real life.
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I don't want to scare him at all being aggressive. Actually I'm taking this meet up very casually, just going to know each other as much as possible. I'm showing my excitement and real emotion here with you guys, don't take me wrong. I'm desperate at all. I know the consequence of being so needy.
 
I met a great guy through fb. Friend of an acquaintance. We fb msgd for months, shared photos, (not nudies), talked on the phone....

He was a bodyguard, divorced, no kids. Seemed perfect. You'll know if there's any chemistry within 2 seconds.

Three mths later, wary of some of the red flags, I talked to this acquaintance. Turns out he's married, young children & living happily ever after with them.

'Cept that I'd been seeing him every day or night that long. Be careful. Those are my only words of advice.

Oh, so I may sound naive, (I'm not, just attract arseholes), but he was more so. The amount of selfies I took of us in all sorts of compromising positions, I turned into a blog. Well, haha, it's actually his fb blog I made & it's a public page.

Rtp
 
Runtoparadise said:
'Cept that I'd been seeing him every day or night that long. Be careful. Those are my only words of advice.

Oh, so I may sound naive, (I'm not, just attract arseholes), but he was more so. The amount of selfies I took of us in all sorts of compromising positions, I turned into a blog. Well, haha, it's actually his fb blog I made & it's a public page.

Rtp
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That's quite vindictive.
 
Runtoparadise said:
I met a great guy through fb. Friend of an acquaintance. We fb msgd for months, shared photos, (not nudies), talked on the phone....

He was a bodyguard, divorced, no kids. Seemed perfect. You'll know if there's any chemistry within 2 seconds.

Three mths later, wary of some of the red flags, I talked to this acquaintance. Turns out he's married, young children & living happily ever after with them.

'Cept that I'd been seeing him every day or night that long. Be careful. Those are my only words of advice.

Oh, so I may sound naive, (I'm not, just attract arseholes), but he was more so. The amount of selfies I took of us in all sorts of compromising positions, I turned into a blog. Well, haha, it's actually his fb blog I made & it's a public page.

Rtp
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Good to know you've enjoyed a lot on the last valentine day! Same was happened to me as well! In-fact I was thinking of what to gift my boyfriend, and my boyfriend bought so many gifts for me. I got a crafted DIY necklace from him, which is so cute looking. :)
 
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