TheLoveBandit
Retired Never Was, Coulda been wannabe
[The following is an edited letter I wrote long ago to a friend dealing with some issues. I am posting it here in hopes that it may help someone else. While some aspects don't apply to everyone, a lot of what I said can be applied to all of us at one time in our lives or another.]
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I think a lot of people pass through suicide contemplation, then shrug it off and continue with there lives. Serious consideration calls for immediate help (even just a hug), but casual thoughts are something of a reflection on evaluating our worth to the world - something we all do at one time or another.
Party icon? Well, I can't say as I still haven't met you, all I know is the person online. Granted, we can all wear false faces here, but the heart and mind continue to show through despite our masks, monikers, and misdirection tactics. From what I've learned, you are a good person regardless of how you act or what you do at a party.
My main thought I wish to convey is that we all have our place in the world. At times, you may be there to please someone, othertimes, you may be there to educate someone. Sometimes, we're just there to watch and learn. In moving from [..one jop or relationship...] to antoher place in the world, don't despair, or become discouraged. You could chalk this up to the karma wheel setting you up for something good, or life balancing out. But in truth, its more than that. You have a wealth of love to share (intimatly and socially) as well as insight and moral support for those who need it.
Don't ever doubt your worth in the world. If you think you aren't important, you aren't seeing the big picture, or asking those who respect, admire, or depend on you without your knowledge. Yeah the party scene has a lot of superficial friendships, but a person of your caliber carries a lot more deeper friendships than most people hope to obtain in a lifetime - don't lose sight of that. For now, the world may not have much to offer you of the things you are seeking. Have patience, stop looking for them and let them find you. In the meantime, hone the person you are into the person you want to be. Other things will take your time from you, and now you have the opportunity to concentrate on developing your own being.
You may be happy with who you are, or just complacent - I challenge you to find the difference and find what you can do to bring yourself to happiness. Finding a mate helps, but you can't do that alone, they have to be looking as well. What can you do to be more happy with yourself? So you feel you have more to offer that mate, and they don't just accept you as you are, but desire to be with you for all you have to offer?
Sorry, I've digressed and come off sounding a bit like a 'don't do suicide' commercial. That was not the intent. The intent, was that you have a place in the world, you just have to understand it, accept it, then move forward to the place in the world you would rather be. You have good friends here, several of whom (myself among them) would be one of your truer friends if geography and other nuisances didn't get in the way. Regardless, I'm here for anything you need, even if its just someone to listen.
You have my respect, and I am here for anything you may ever want to discuss or do.
- TheLoveBandit
[Edited for typos]
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I think a lot of people pass through suicide contemplation, then shrug it off and continue with there lives. Serious consideration calls for immediate help (even just a hug), but casual thoughts are something of a reflection on evaluating our worth to the world - something we all do at one time or another.
Party icon? Well, I can't say as I still haven't met you, all I know is the person online. Granted, we can all wear false faces here, but the heart and mind continue to show through despite our masks, monikers, and misdirection tactics. From what I've learned, you are a good person regardless of how you act or what you do at a party.
My main thought I wish to convey is that we all have our place in the world. At times, you may be there to please someone, othertimes, you may be there to educate someone. Sometimes, we're just there to watch and learn. In moving from [..one jop or relationship...] to antoher place in the world, don't despair, or become discouraged. You could chalk this up to the karma wheel setting you up for something good, or life balancing out. But in truth, its more than that. You have a wealth of love to share (intimatly and socially) as well as insight and moral support for those who need it.
Don't ever doubt your worth in the world. If you think you aren't important, you aren't seeing the big picture, or asking those who respect, admire, or depend on you without your knowledge. Yeah the party scene has a lot of superficial friendships, but a person of your caliber carries a lot more deeper friendships than most people hope to obtain in a lifetime - don't lose sight of that. For now, the world may not have much to offer you of the things you are seeking. Have patience, stop looking for them and let them find you. In the meantime, hone the person you are into the person you want to be. Other things will take your time from you, and now you have the opportunity to concentrate on developing your own being.
You may be happy with who you are, or just complacent - I challenge you to find the difference and find what you can do to bring yourself to happiness. Finding a mate helps, but you can't do that alone, they have to be looking as well. What can you do to be more happy with yourself? So you feel you have more to offer that mate, and they don't just accept you as you are, but desire to be with you for all you have to offer?
Sorry, I've digressed and come off sounding a bit like a 'don't do suicide' commercial. That was not the intent. The intent, was that you have a place in the world, you just have to understand it, accept it, then move forward to the place in the world you would rather be. You have good friends here, several of whom (myself among them) would be one of your truer friends if geography and other nuisances didn't get in the way. Regardless, I'm here for anything you need, even if its just someone to listen.
You have my respect, and I am here for anything you may ever want to discuss or do.
- TheLoveBandit
[Edited for typos]
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