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Fighting Words 2 Insult Someone as a Father/Mother

Pariahprose

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I have two kids, a beautiful baby girl who is nine months and a terrible(but he is still cute,lol) two yr old,both by the same woman and we are still together. I have wanted nothing more n life than 2 b a father and watch my kids grow up. So, you can imagine how I felt when I was insulted as a father and was called/told to do various things n a thread I posted about making flash cards for my 2yr old.

Which made me come up with the idea of this thread. It seems that nothing is sacred 2 some ppl and will insult anyone any chance they get(which is everytime their fingers hit the keys,even if the person didnt set themselves up for insult). So when someone insults ur ability as a Father/Mother in public to ur face or via the internet how do u respond? What are the best ways 2 overcome the anger? And any other important thing a person needs to know on this topic?

This has happened 2 me in public once,but not directly 2 my face,it was a smart comment made by another man as my gf,myself,and our kids were walking away, and it took everythin I had 2 not go in there and cuss him...most recently, it was via the internet,ya I cuda told them the reason they dont/wont have kids is bc their sperm hang themselves afraid 2 swim any deeper than they have 2 inside the sleezy dumpter slut junkies they stick their shit n and many more other insults. But that would have done nothing but perpetuate their goals and make them ejaculate harder.

For me to overcome my anger n the one incident while with my family, I just continued 2 walk with my family,my gf telling me not 2 go back. Idk how I would have handled it if he had been more direct, I know walking away is often the best answer 2 overcome the anger from a situation,but anyone else got some other ways that wouldnt land me n prison? The internet situation,well, I overcame the anger by creating this thread and writing down my emotion 2 others and seeing what their opinions are.

Finally, I realize that most ppl who would insult someone as a Father/Mother are not parents bc another Father or Mother would know how much it hurts them(and sometimes the other person). Either that or they are an insecure individual who gets their rocks off who just happens 2 b a parent(saying this strictly toward the nature of of some ppl,not toward their Father/Mother ability,they cud still b great parents despite their twisted fetish and insecurities that come from only God knows)...What is yalls take on other things that I need 2 know about when ppl insult me n this way?Also,what is the best forum 2 post parent related threads in? As I am 1-2 for quality answers where I had posted them(The Lounge X.x)

Pariahprose

Pariahprose
 
Best to just ignore bitter angry people imo.

Apologies about my lounge comments its hard to tell between reality and delusion in there.

All other bl is actually not anything like the lounge really.
 
Back when my boy was little, he liked to watch "Blues Clues" and "Thomas the Tank Engine" videos. I don't know if toddlers are still into that. We didn't try the flashcards until he was in pre-k. If someone were to insult me via the internet over my parenting skills, I would be insulted too considering they don't know me. But posting in the lounge would have been my last choice, as people tend to get snarky. Take it with a grain of salt.
 
LOL, not being a parent, I don't have exact experience. But generally? Who gives a fuck. Hollow insults from people with no background to judge you on are meaningless anyway.
 
Best to just ignore bitter angry people imo.

Apologies about my lounge comments its hard to tell between reality and delusion in there.

All other bl is actually not anything like the lounge really.

apology accepted,I kinda asked for it posting n the lounge,lol...For further questions like this should I probably post in second opinion?

Pariahprose
 
apology accepted,I kinda asked for it posting n the lounge,lol...For further questions like this should I probably post in second opinion?

Pariahprose

This might actually do well in Sex, Love, & Relationships. I'll leave it up to you if you would like it left here or sent over to there.
 
Probably insulted buy a deadbeat parent...
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Honestly I'd like to reassure you but you posted in the Lounge, that's just what happens if you talk about private stuff in there...I don't think anyone with a low post count posting as much as you do in there has ever gotten away without being on the receiving end of a number of insults. TL's not meant to be taken seriously and if you want to get genuine feedback or opinions on things, you should post on other parts of BL :)

That being said, as others have already mentioned, who gives a fuck what anyone else thinks. If you're a good father then you know it yourself and it doesn't matter what a number of random people from the internet have to say about it.
 
LOL, not being a parent, I don't have exact experience. But generally? Who gives a fuck. Hollow insults from people with no background to judge you on are meaningless anyway.

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I really wouldn`t worry about what people say whether here or in RL. It`s what you think that counts. The joy and the worry come hand in hand and all you can do is your best. Try not to overthink things, love them, try and bring them up right and forget about everybody elses opinions as they won`t be a positive influence on your children.. thats your job :). And finally, the only feedback you will ever need on how you are doing is from them and how they turn out.
 
As a parent, your responsibilities to your children are to provide for them (food, education, clothing, shelter) and to be a role model. Now, to be flustered when anyone, stranger or not, insults you, is childish. It's immature and rooted in insecurity to want to "prove" you're a good parent.

That being said, I've insulted some parents in public before because their children were uncontrolled. Some insults are rooted in truth and perhaps there's some feedback you could open your mind and listen to. I'm not saying that's the case, but introspection is never ill-advised.
 
As a parent, your responsibilities to your children are to provide for them (food, education, clothing, shelter) and to be a role model. Now, to be flustered when anyone, stranger or not, insults you, is childish. It's immature and rooted in insecurity to want to "prove" you're a good parent.

That being said, I've insulted some parents in public before because their children were uncontrolled. Some insults are rooted in truth and perhaps there's some feedback you could open your mind and listen to. I'm not saying that's the case, but introspection is never ill-advised.

Hhhhmmm....point taken. I am actually glad to hear the other perspective on the issue. It does make a lot of sense.
 
I think that when you react to any situation in your child's presence, you must always consider what you want your them to see. If you are insulted, and you are verbally and physically aggressive, then don't be surprised when your children react the same way next time you growl them over anything.

However if you provide a cool, calm reaction, explain to your children why you are hurt but that the most appropriate response is to take the higher path, then you are setting your children up to learn to deal with emotions in a positive manner.

I haven't been in your position of being insulted in public, I have hadfamily tell me I am doing the wrong thing with my son. I just calmly told them that I didn't agree and I'm doing things my way. And then whinged to my partner later on ;)

I think you definitely did the right thing by walking away, you just have to have faith that you know you parent to the best of your abilities, and some stranger on thesstreet or on the internet knows nothing about your situation as a parent. Put your kids and your integrity above revenge and negative reaction and you will always be on the right path.
 
I'm glad you didn't take my post the wrong way. Good luck with raising your kids!
 
when people are harsh on the internet its easy for them because there is a physical barrier hence then can get more extreme. in all truth its pathetic behaviour which i have born the brunt of but as an adult you need to develop thicker skin and not take little things from random nobodies to heart.

imagine being called a c*nt to your face in front of 50 people at work. been there. got thicker skin now

also you chose to be offended, its not automatic
 
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