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Female best friend doesn't like me talking to her friends.

shahab6

shahab6

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So title says it all, she gets mad that I talk to her friends. And most of the times its her friends who are contacting me. Basically few days ago one of her friends invited me out, and she got very pissed. And those two friends got into a fight because of this. She basically called her friends and said why shes hanging with me, and that friend told her, somethings etc..

Anyway my question is why doesn't she like it?
 
Why is anyone in her group of friends contacting you at all? Do you think there may be some interpersonal rivalries being stoked by your introduction to their circle?

I'm sure this sticky situation is indicative of a larger and more complicated social dynamic.

I'm doubting that it is as much about how special you think you might be.
 
How many times has this happened? If she is interested in you, her girlfriend probably knows about it and I'd say it was a douche move on her girlfriend's part.

Sounds like you enjoy the attention.
 
Edit: I misread the post and thought it was your girlfriend.

You can talk to and hang out with whoever you want! If a girl is getting jealous then yeah she probably likes you.
 
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They're not dating though.

She's obviously either into you and too much of a pussy to tell you, or she's batshit crazy and possessive of you in a non-romantic way.
 
As far as feeling that she posesses you: that may indicate some feelings of ownership, which are most likely born of a strong desire to retain whatever positives she enjoys about your friendship with her.

It doesn't make her batshit crazy as much as just human and fallible. She is probably not terribly in tune or comfortable with her feelings. I'll also wager she is just young and inexperienced on top of all that.

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Yeah I have to agree with a lot of other people.She is probably into you.How does she act when you are around other females other than her friends?
 
My vote is for possessive. She probably likes the attention you give her and doesn't want to share. She has an emotional connection to you, if not a romantic one, and doesn't want a relationship with one of her friends to compromise your friendship. Its pretty selfish of her if you ask me.
 
I think Noodle might have been onto something when he suggested that you were being used as a pawn in their friendship rivalry. She's just reacting to being one-upped or outmanouvred as far as she sees it.
 
Joeof1 said:
Probably because she is interested in you as more than a friend, but doesn't want to admit it.
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that might be possible, because she has told one of her friends that. But since that we gotten into some fights, that has changed my views of her.
 
artic said:
My vote is for possessive. She probably likes the attention you give her and doesn't want to share. She has an emotional connection to you, if not a romantic one, and doesn't want a relationship with one of her friends to compromise your friendship. Its pretty selfish of her if you ask me.
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that's possible. i think that might be it.
 
Noodle said:
Why is anyone in her group of friends contacting you at all? Do you think there may be some interpersonal rivalries being stoked by your introduction to their circle?

I'm sure this sticky situation is indicative of a larger and more complicated social dynamic.

I'm doubting that it is as much about how special you think you might be.
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they contact me because once in a while we all go out together, and we are fb friends. So we do leave messages on each others wall.
 
Lysis said:
How many times has this happened? If she is interested in you, her girlfriend probably knows about it and I'd say it was a douche move on her girlfriend's part.

Sounds like you enjoy the attention.
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it has happend a few times, the first time, i told her fine ill stay away from ur friends, and i ended up delating them all. but then we all went out again, so i added them again.
 
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